What traits are behind your success?

[CaptFinnBad]

Everyone is completely different and will lean into different things ( Haha we're all unique snowflakes after all).

Just out of pure interest. Just thought it would be interesting make a thread to see the huge array of traits guys leveraging to their advantage and are using to bring great success with women.

Be honest. What makes you so successful with women?

Really looking for too seeing the sheer variety of answers.

 

[CornbreadFed]

It is not rocket science to become successful with women. Unless you are deformed and look like a monster from the deliverance, it is yourself holding yourself back from being successful women. More than likely, it is a toxic mindset that you have limiting and preventing yourself from moving forward.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

I am successful in spurts. Mostly my ability to constantly analyze what is and isn't working for me and to see patterns in dates. Usually once I create a fix that changes the outcome of that pattern, it usually works in most situations.

I have a few plates right now that have been longer term and haven't really gone out on new dates the last few months. One that I see more than the others.

If I were to start up again, going on dates, I would likely not do well for the first 4-5 dates until I kind of got re-calibrated to what I do that usually works. There have been times when it's been like 10-12 dates before I figure it out. And for me that tends to be sit back and relax and converse, keeping it funny and interesting, interjecting sexual content when doors are left open for it.

The thing is...I don't let it phase me. I just take the feedback and move on to the next date and try to use that to improve. I don't get down, I don't feel bad, I just accept it for what it is and move on. To me, it's all a numbers game. I don't obsess over trying to get a girl out on another date, I continue messaging more women and setting up more dates. That's the failure too many guys have in that area...they don't create pipelines...they put all their eggs in one basket and then if it doesn't pan out it's a huge blow they need a few weeks to recover from. F that. I've got 3 more dates lined up within the next 10 days, so if it doesn't work out with her then I have 3 more chances coming up.

Typically guys need to understand that what works is different depending on what stage you are in...what works on a first date to make a woman see you again may not work after a month where you are already sleeping with her. And what works in a month may not work after 6 months.

You have to evolve as the relationship moves forward. Too many guys try to stay stagnant and that ends up killing it on its own.

 

[CaptFinnBad]

I am successful in spurts. Mostly my ability to constantly analyze what is and isn't working for me and to see patterns in dates. Usually once I create a fix that changes the outcome of that pattern, it usually works in most situations.

So far instance I have a few plates right now that have been longer term and haven't really gone out on new dates the last few months.

If I were to start up again, I would likely not do well for the first 4-5 dates until I kind of got re-calibrated to what I do that usually works. And for me that tends to be sit back and relax and converse, keeping it funny and interesting, interjecting sexual content when doors are left open for it.

So a very analytical approach works for you. That's so interesting, your basically constantly re calibrating to achieve desired outcome?

 

[Ricky]

In life its my persistence and endurance

With women it is my conversational skills and that i am choosing and screening them. Not the reverse

 

[MtmVaott]

i am choosing and screening them. Not the reverse

That and that the screening is actually right to the spot without bull****ting yourself and being able to judge people's attitude and being able to reject/leave them alone for it is half the battle.

 

[CaptFinnBad]

I lean a little bit into my dark Triad traits. Grew up with violance and dysfunction so a little bit is there.

I present the caring, loving side of myself (which is genuine ) to the world but it's obvious to anyone who interacts with me there is more depth.

I also like to unwrap people. I just want to understand them, women in particular reveal themselves fully to me and feel at ease doing so.

I like to explore a women's kinks. I'm super comfortable with that and totally non judgemental.

I'm quite dominant sexually at times but can also switch on the loving caring side of me too.

Women tend to bond to me quickly and hard.

I sometimes lack emotional empathy, I can empathise but don't really feel it, because of that in lots of different situation I tend to be calm and in control. Which people find attractive and a positive quality lol

My world is very much about me, as in I'm the most important thing in it. I suppose that portrays frame ?

I get told all the time I'm extremely confident and ridiculously self assured this is what the world see's, I don't see it myself and don't feel it.


A few other things...

I'm decent to look at.

The care if myself physically.

Easy to talk too.

Have depth.

Passionate about things in my life.

Quite charismatic.

 

[BoomToTheMoonAlice]

Everyone is completely different and will lean into different things ( Haha we're all unique snowflakes after all).

Just out of pure interest. Just thought it would be interesting make a thread to see the huge array of traits guys leveraging to their advantage and are using to bring great success with women.

Be honest. What makes you so successful with women?

Really looking for too seeing the sheer variety of answers.

I was brought up with the right education.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

Face.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

I have a way with animals that in many female imaginations translates to the desire to be petted the same way.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

So a very analytical approach works for you. That's so interesting, your basically constantly re calibrating to achieve desired outcome?

More or less. Unfortunately it happens more post date than in date so I rarely salvage dates that are going badly.

I view every date as immediate and useful feedback that can be used on upcoming dates.

Once I get them in the bedroom and put it on them tho, they are hooked.

 

[Bingo-Player]

Constantly adapting and learning 5 years I ago I thought I knew everything about women turns out I knew nothing really

They are absolutely fascinating have so many chaotic layers and respond to such random things

Once you get past the randomness and the frustration I actually find it kind of fun trying different things out on them

Talking to a woman especially digitally reminds me a hell of a lot of running A/B split tests in consumer marketing

" A works , B doesn't "

They all respond well too ****y funny but some girls you can push boundaries with faster & further than others

I on average sleep with around 3-4 new women every year when I am single and whilst I wouldn't class this as extreme success I know I am at least doing something right because women will very rarely give even this much pu$$y out to guys who have no clue what they are doing.

They are absolutely ruthless in that sense

I know guys that will go 2,3,4 years without sex and once you go that far you start getting into very dangerous black pill territory which is a perpetual cycle of woman hating misery

 

[anonymous12345]

My success comes from:

• Fearlessly cold/night approaching on a daily basis to keep my pipeline going
• Good looks, I lift, much cardio laid a good basis
• Great signature. You're welcome, that's a new term for you
• Got a great wardrobe
• Depth, can talk
• nofap
• Skills, intellect
• Experiments, reviews, adapts
• When it comes to bed, my watch got an hour hand, if I want to

 

[The Duke]

Everyone is completely different and will lean into different things ( Haha we're all unique snowflakes after all).

Just out of pure interest. Just thought it would be interesting make a thread to see the huge array of traits guys leveraging to their advantage and are using to bring great success with women.

Be honest. What makes you so successful with women?

Really looking for too seeing the sheer variety of answers.

-Don't fear rejection.
-I really enjoy seducing women.
-I enjoy meeting new women and having power over them.
-I have a "get what I want" attitude towards everything in life.
-High Self Awareness
-I like to win
-Plenty of confidence
-Set solid boundaries
-I am good at one on one conversations and connecting with a person.
-Risk taker
-Independent
-I have a Hunter personality. Hone your skills, put forth effort, keep going until you achieve what you set out to do.
-Don't mind walking away or going alone.
-Decent looking, good shape.

 

[FlexpertHamilton]

Not much.

I am good looking, self-interested, unsentimental, and indifferent/unattached to many things in life, including women. They have no power over me, as much as they try.

I actually do much better than I should be able to; I am broke, have no stability in life, and I'm not charming or confident and at times have crippling anxiety/depression but I can mitigate and do well for some stretches of time. I also have a low sex drive which might actually work in my favor because I never have thirst or desperation. I once voluntarily went 2 years without sex or female contact and didn't even care.

I've had a lot of experiences with women, and most were very painful. I am grateful for this though, because that's how you learn. I went through a pickup phase with RSD in my early 20s, and later became enthralled by a red pilled content, like Roosh and Rollo, though I took it with a grain of salt and to this day I question some of the RP stuff. Patrice O'Neal was probably the most influential person on me in that realm.

Lastly, I have a few friends who are crazy good with women, and a few friends who are clueless about women, and naturally they share their stories with me which only further helps substantiate my beliefs.

In the past year and a half or so my success has increased more, and to be quite honest I am not even sure why.

 

[MtmVaott]

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I have a way with animals that in many female imaginations translates to the desire to be petted the same way.

No man, they see an experienced man who has a soft side. That's what's desirable.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

No man, they see an experienced man who has a soft side. That's what's desirable.

So why do they all call me tomcat and want to be my kitten?

 

[9-3enthusiast]

Be honest. What makes you so successful with women?

Confidence mostly.

I was hopeless with women when I was in my 20s.
Then through my 30s and 40s (when I was married) I started to give hobby-related presentations.
Started with one for my local club... word got round and it expanded until a couple of years later I was doing about 20 a year for other clubs/organisations.
I noticed sometimes women taking an interest in me, rather than the subject, and would sometimes come to me afterwards, asking questions....
Married at the time, and never did anything about it - But it stood me in VERY good stead for when I became single again.
Addressing a room full of strangers, the applause afterwards, etc.. does wonders for self-esteem.
Now I can start a conversation anywhere, with anybody, no problem - I learned to quickly spot the signs when a woman is interested, pick up on her availabilty, etc...

It also helps that I look 12 or more years younger than I am - I look after my health, and grooming is always on-point.

 

[Captain Redbeard]

a desire to get better and being able to put the ego aside. I've come a long way but know I still have many things to work on and improve. The journey never stops. And like others have mentioned, it helps to actually enjoy the company of women