If you see her more than twice a week, she will lose attraction

[soulforge]

I hear this alot... Giving her a little too much of your time, she will lose attraction.

She must earn your time/attention.

Question. how the fuk do relationships where people live together survive?

i mean your likely around eachother 5-6 days a week.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

By making every new day different.

 

[SW15]

The frequency of seeing each other can be 1-2 times a week in the early stages of an exclusive relationship. After about a few months, most men are likely to see their girlfriends more than 2 times a week. This is considering men who live apart from their exclusive girlfriends.

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

This has been my experience as well, even from the best of them, they start paying a little less attention to how they dress or are made up. They can more often not be in the mood, I dunno its like the sparkle leaves their eyes. Its been said that familiarity breeds contempt.

 

[FlexpertHamilton]

Question. how the fuk do relationships where people live together survive?

They don't, I'd wager that 9/10 couples who live together end up in a miserable relationship.

 

[EyeBRollin]

The general concept is she has to want to see you more then vice versa. I see my wife almost every day and my goodness I be needing breaks. All women get annoying.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

Usually, that is not enough.

 

[Robert28]

Yeah I had a women end things with me becsuse she didn’t like that she only saw me twice a week even though we were only dating a month.

 

[Bingo-Player]

Question. how the fuk do relationships where people live together survive?

i mean your likely around eachother 5-6 days a week.

Two of my close mates who are in marriages / long term relationships use work as their release valve / relationship crutch

Both seem to rather working 70/80 hour weeks than spend it at home with the mrs which to me says a lot

I lived with a woman for 3 years we generally got on well but by the end we were simply co-habiting and sleeping in different rooms

For a lot of people / couples they struggle to be alone so tend to just ignore the monotony and plod along hoping things will get better as time goes on it rarely does get better and then eventually someone will end up cheating or leaving

its kind of fascinating to observe

 

[EndlessNameless]

By making every new day different.

Easier said than done. Try this for ten years.

 

[Juanto]

Yeah I had a women end things with me becsuse she didn’t like that she only saw me twice a week even though we were only dating a month.

Her decision is not normal

 

[ThisIsSparta]

Question. how the fuk do relationships where people live together survive?

*By throwing the disney fantasy overboard and living together for the cold, hard facts.
*By being economicaly trapped.
*By suffering through it for the kids.

The real question is, why do you want to live together with a woman?

There are only 2 conditions i would share my home:

If i wanted kids with a woman and/or she is vetted for 2 years and has proven to be an obedient GF that hallows the earth i walk on while living in my and still passing the boner test after 2 years.

And if you decide to take her in, you have train her to remain your obedient little sex slave that is a compliment to your life and not a burden that drains your energy.

Everything else is not worth the hassle. Just get a new GF that you date for a couple of years.


Forget BS like that:

By making every new day different.

You will end up being her entertainer and spend more time and energy on "keeping the realationship fresh and vivid" then you get out of it, asides from the danger that she will get the impression you are simping hard to keep her around.

Make your peace with the knowledge that the grass will allways seem to be greener on the other side (which it most likely isnt if you vetted her thoroughly) and that every pvssy gets old after you fvcked her for the 100th time.

 

[pipeman84]

I hear this alot... Giving her a little too much of your time, she will lose attraction.

She must earn your time/attention.

I think that's true if they guy initiates all or most of the meetings ... that signals low interest from her and neediness and lack of options from him.

Question. how the fuk do relationships where people live together survive?

i mean your likely around eachother 5-6 days a week.

I highlighted the key word there. A great deal of relationships are on survival instead of thriving mode.

 

[CornbreadFed]

Question. how the fuk do relationships where people live together survive?

This advice was meant for novice guys in the dating world as training wheel advice. However, a lot of RP and Manosphere guys failed to develop their emotional connectivity skills beyond that and stuck to a lot of novice training wheel advice from the PUA community.

In addition, you have a lot of Manosphere mgtow skeptics that think they are some wise intellectual because they say Women Bad!

 

[ThisIsSparta]

This advice was meant for novice guys in the dating world as training wheel advice. However, a lot of RP and Manosphere guys failed to develop their emotional connectivity skills beyond that and stuck to a lot of novice training wheel advice from the PUA community.

In addition, you have a lot of Manosphere mgtow skeptics that think they are some wise intellectual because they say Women Bad!

Again that guy..... that hasnt even lived with a woman for a couple of years.

 

[BoomToTheMoonAlice]

I hear this alot... Giving her a little too much of your time, she will lose attraction.

She must earn your time/attention.

Question. how the fuk do relationships where people live together survive?

i mean your likely around eachother 5-6 days a week.

A lot of unhappy men here looking for a bit more piss in their puddle.

I've spent every day with my wife in a pretty small space for the last 15 years or so. All of that 'attraction advice' is for relationships where the people don't really like each other. Find a woman whose politics align with yours and being together feels like family. She must earn your attention? Does her making me breakfast/lunch and dinner count? I don't know how a bunch of guys who have had zero successful relationships give each other advice and are taken seriously. Would you board an airplane with a pilot who never successfully landed a plane? FFS, I think I'm going to start my own relationship site, this one is chalk full of self assured losers.

Do you guys not have dogs and cats? How do you live together with those guys and are still friends after?
When I've got my VR headset on, I'm in another world for a couple of hours, pull it off and my wife is sitting on the bed beside me. Does that qualify as being away?

Sparta, you seem like a super unhappy dude. I hope you're able to meet someone that fits you, same for you soulforge, I think you guys need to drop the ego, get out of the gym and go somewhere that is completely unfamiliar. Too many lonely yes-men in here getting high off their own farts.

If you want to be in a committed relationship, you have to be mature enough not to cheat. If you want a relationship that stands the test of time, you have to pass through some real sh1t together... going on a honeymoon to Cuba really doesn't cut it. I don't think most people are mature enough to make real friends anymore, probably why there are so many lonely dudes out there. Ya'll are hardcore flakes.

 

[Juanto]

A lot of unhappy men here looking for a bit more piss in their puddle.

I've spent every day with my wife in a pretty small space for the last 15 years or so. All of that 'attraction advice' is for relationships where the people don't really like each other. Find a woman whose politics align with yours and being together feels like family. She must earn your attention? Does her making me breakfast/lunch and dinner count? I don't know how a bunch of guys who have had zero successful relationships give each other advice and are taken seriously. Would you board an airplane with a pilot who never successfully landed a plane? FFS, I think I'm going to start my own relationship site, this one is chalk full of self assured losers.

Do you guys not have dogs and cats? How do you live together with those guys and are still friends after?
When I've got my VR headset on, I'm in another world for a couple of hours, pull it off and my wife is sitting on the bed beside me. Does that qualify as being away?

Sparta, you seem like a super unhappy dude. I hope you're able to meet someone that fits you, same for you soulforge, I think you guys need to drop the ego, get out of the gym and go somewhere that is completely unfamiliar. Too many lonely yes-men in here getting high off their own farts.

If you want to be in a committed relationship, you have to be mature enough not to cheat. If you want a relationship that stands the test of time, you have to pass through some real sh1t together... going on a honeymoon to Cuba really doesn't cut it. I don't think most people are mature enough to make real friends anymore, probably why there are so many lonely dudes out there. Ya'll are hardcore flakes.

Very interesting post here, thank you. If you had to pick only 2 or 3 things that really help or have helped you keep a happy relationship with a woman you live together, what would those be?

 

[BoomToTheMoonAlice]

Very interesting post here, thank you. If you had to pick only 2 or 3 things that really help or have helped you keep a happy relationship with a woman you live together, what would those be?

Being cared for in a hospital for 48 hours - moment I decided to marry her.
Her getting me through my little brother's death. If she wasn't there I wouldn't be here either.
The thing that I found early on in the relationship though, being around her strangely felt natural, not like any of this artificial cold approach wank. It felt like we were always supposed to be together and that there was always this part of me that was missing, like when you press that final piece of the puzzle into place... it just slides in. It felt like home was the place where she was at.

I guess those aren't really 2 or 3 things. I expect the same from her as I do from myself and she usually reflects that. I noticed recently that I pick my nose alot now and she's started doing that too, lol. She follows my lead, so I try and lead with purpose... on most things.

Theres a saying for this in China - "you and I, who and who"

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

Easier said than done. Try this for ten years.

I was married with children for sixteen years. I know what I'm talking about.

 

[Juanto]

I was married with children for sixteen years. I know what I'm talking about.

not anymore i guess