Getting her to ***

[RobNeb]

Sounds like you’re putting in the effort.

I suggest that you always try to improve your sex game, honestly, don’t do it for just this girl, it is something that should be polished anyways.

At the same time, I would suggest you don’t worry too much about yourself if you do your best and you still cannot get her to orgasm. If you care about this girl just make a point of giving her decent after-care.

A little off topic but relevant, I do agree that women in general probably like to be submitted during sex. I cannot speak about hardcore feminists because I have never being with one. And I will single out woman with past traumas about physical abuse. But for the average girl, in my experience, they ask and enjoy to be tied, lightly choked, and fkd hard.

Just for fun I would venture that it might even be an evolutionary trait in risk of extinction. Thousands of years ago, women had to submit or die, thus it make sense that some submissive genes are still around nowadays.

Hey man,
Just saw your message reply and thank you. We think alike and I definitely was doing what you were suggesting. I added more foreplay and found that it did help her *** more often now and I’ve really worked on my sex positions and really have been doing lots of different things with her her and it’s been so enjoyable for both of us. She’s definitely mostly submissive but occasionally wants to ride and I allow that cos she’s in great shape.
And since I’ve been a Dom in past relationships I do lead and as we continue to stay together and grow sexually I will slowly do some more of the Dom things I’ve done in the past with control. I’m being careful for now as I’ve gone slowly with light ass play, holding her down physically while on top and of course I give her very hard poundings and then go to slow and tender fuking and of course lots of sweet after care which I know continues to bond us. And on another great note she finally swallowed my load after she gave me great oral and I rewarded her with pulling her right on top and let her ride me while I was still hard for a long time until we we’re both exhausted.
I’ve found a real treasure of a woman and sex partner that gets me at all levels and I’m doing the slow play mentality and we continue to enjoy each other and now past 3 months and doing extremely well.
- Robert

 

[RobNeb]

I dated a chic for a spell that couldnt get off unless it was **** stimulation and she used toys.
I found out later she watched a lot of porn.
She was broke.
Like the others said. Try to get in her imagination. Some girls cant get off through penatration alone.
Whether there are issues I dont know
But my experience is more likely something off.

Hey bud, thank you and I do feel my new GF is someone that had a ****ty husband that was probably a ****ty lover and I keep subtly trying new things and as much as a Dom that I am I’m still going very slow and methodical with her. I’m also doing my own ‘homework’ and being wise in bringing her along with our sex. Thanks again and glad to have fellow thoughtful peers out here to help.

 

[RobNeb]

Overuse of vibrators has made it very difficult to get some women off any other way. Could be something you're not providing but it could also be a situation where you aren't ever gonna get her there.

I totally get it and thank you. Good food for thought.

 

[RobNeb]

Yea I had a similar experience with a girl last year dominated her from the word go was throwing her about my room a bit after first date , she got very excited and very wet

Female orgasms are largely psychological and largely why they struggle to get off so much , a lot of it is literally fantasy that most men struggle too actualise into reality

Women love role play and fetishes because it means they are out of control

They love being tied up because it means they can be used by the male without resistance she fully submits

She wants to be totally overpowered and used for her mans pleasure this allows her ultimate arousal and ultimate satisfaction

Also why women secretly long to be taken by 2/3 men at a time

if you want to bore a woman in bed just respect her

Totally understand that and appreciate the input. I’ve been a sensual Dom before and know when to bust out the cuffs and paddle when needed. The current GF will find out later how bad o can be. Currently I’m just going slow with dominate and forceful positions and adding a lil every time we’re together.I’ll definitely remember what you mentioned about not boring her.

 

[RobNeb]

Totally understand that and appreciate the input. I’ve been a sensual Dom before and know when to bust out the cuffs and paddle when needed. The current GF will find out later how bad o can be. Currently I’m just going slow with dominate and forceful positions and adding a lil every time we’re together.I’ll definitely remember what you mentioned about not boring her.

i wanted to tell you that this last weekend I added some light domination and was able to get her to *** twice and my Darling lady friend rewarded me with allowing me anal for the first time and is quite enjoyable finishing that way from the side position. Was very satisfying for both us. Thanks for the comments and encouragement. I appreciate ya. - Rob

 

[anonymous12345]

of course lots of sweet after care which I know continues to bond us.

Yeah, I lost a girl probably because of the lack of aftercare. We all know the dangers of simping/pampering, so I thought the best strategy was to be distant. Afterwards I realise the emotional connection through aftercare so to speak probably would have nurtured our thing.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

Yeah, I lost a girl probably because of the lack of aftercare. We all know the dangers of simping/pampering, so I thought the best strategy was to be distant. Afterwards I realise the emotional connection through aftercare so to speak probably would have nurtured our thing.

Aftercare shows consideration, not simping/pampering. I always massage kittens I tied up, because that helps them ground after the shibari dopamine trip. And after sex, most kittens enjoy getting their hair stroked while they svck my trouser snake.

You can make them feel an emotional connection without becoming a doormat.

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

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You can make them feel an emotional connection without becoming a doormat.

And ethically and carefully deployed targeting of the after glow cuddle can make the difference in whether she bonds with you or not.