another rejection that is making me rethink my strategy

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Are You referring to male/female relationships with romantic intent from the start?
i don't know perhaps but i saw them becoming friends first because they study together or work together then become bf/gf
 

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i don't know perhaps but i saw them becoming friends first because they study together or work together then become bf/gf
Sure, it can happen that way. I've experienced this a few times with girls I worked with and went to school with. There are always attraction signals that both parties understand but might not act on until later.
 

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Sure, it can happen that way. I've experienced this a few times with girls I worked with and went to school with. There are always attraction signals that both parties understand but might not act on until later.
oneday i will be really good as well:cry:
 

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Sure, it can happen that way. I've experienced this a few times with girls I worked with and went to school with. There are always attraction signals that both parties understand but might not act on until later.
today i called another girl cute and got completely ignored by her. i was like "i am praising you so why are you minding it?" she ignored again. i just wanna know what will work for me. you are old enough to be my father so pls help this kid and tell me something that i should do
 

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today i called another girl cute and got completely ignored by her. i was like "i am praising you so why are you minding it?" she ignored again. i just wanna know what will work for me. you are old enough to be my father so pls help this kid and tell me something that i should do
Stop being dependent on the outcome. It tells me you dont truly believe in yourself. I know it takes a few successes to ignite that confidence. There might be a million reasons why she blew you off. None of them matter. Learn to accept that.

Be different than all the guys before that said the same thing. Start a conversation. I'd start practicing on girls you aren't attracted to. It's about building a connection. Trust me, she knows she is cute. Unless you are a super attractive, 6' plus guy it means nothing to most.
 

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Stop being dependent on the outcome. It tells me you dont truly believe in yourself. I know it takes a few successes to ignite that confidence. There might be a million reasons why she blew you off. None of them matter. Learn to accept that.

Be different than all the guys before that said the same thing. Start a conversation. I'd start practicing on girls you aren't attracted to. It's about building a connection. Trust me, she knows she is cute. Unless you are a super attractive, 6' plus guy it means nothing to most.
maybe indirect game might work better at day time? i am not that charming or something like that and my body starts shaking while trying to be direct
 

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picked up a girl recently by asking if I should return my espresso martini due to it having four beans rather then three. Told a bunch of guys at my table thats what I was going to do, they all laughed and said it was lame. I gave the old "watch this" and sure enough it did the job.

Its all about delivery and knowing if it doesnt work the next one will. Asking her why you get rejected is auto fail. IF they reject, make a joke of it laugh and move one.

Its a numbers game where once you have done enough the rejections are not even rejections rather lessons to impove your game.
 

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picked up a girl recently by asking if I should return my espresso martini due to it having four beans rather then three. Told a bunch of guys at my table thats what I was going to do, they all laughed and said it was lame. I gave the old "watch this" and sure enough it did the job.

Its all about delivery and knowing if it doesnt work the next one will. Asking her why you get rejected is auto fail. IF they reject, make a joke of it laugh and move one.

Its a numbers game where once you have done enough the rejections are not even rejections rather lessons to impove your game.
maybe i should go out of my area and approach girls somewhere else. i might get blacklisted and get known as "harasser" by everyone for approaching here. we will see if i become a good with women like all of you
 

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you guys are experienced so i have a question. i have seen that most relationships here start as a friendship. first they are friends then they become weak or attached towards one another. it is really opposite of "friendzone" stuffs i hear from the westerns
It can happen sometimes but it's not a good strategy. If you want more than just friendship you should be clear about that from the start, otherwise you will end up wasting a lot of time on women that are not interested.
 

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picked up a girl recently by asking if I should return my espresso martini due to it having four beans rather then three. Told a bunch of guys at my table thats what I was going to do, they all laughed and said it was lame. I gave the old "watch this" and sure enough it did the job.

Its all about delivery and knowing if it doesnt work the next one will. Asking her why you get rejected is auto fail. IF they reject, make a joke of it laugh and move one.

Its a numbers game where once you have done enough the rejections are not even rejections rather lessons to impove your game.
That's just wrong. You should have said 5 beans.
 
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maybe i should go out of my area and approach girls somewhere else. i might get blacklisted and get known as "harasser" by everyone for approaching here. we will see if i become a good with women like all of you
Be lighthearted, non committal, interesting and fun and its not going to come across as harassment. There's a guy on tiktok who all he does is goes up to girls and talk the must absurd lines you have ever heard and it works, granted you never see his fails but who cares its the wins that matter.

Dont overthink it and enjoy it, if you can they will.
 
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