Do You Guys Vet Your potential LTRs Friends?

[soulforge]

So you decide go exclusive with a girl, LTR situation & slowly begin to realise that some of her close friends are low quality females.

It's only happened to me twice in my relationship experience & it's a very difficult one to navigate.

Let's just say her friend has a permiscues past or has a friend who dates unsavoury men, criminal types etc.

To me this is a big red flag on the character of the chick I am dating.

 

[johnrambo]

So you decide go exclusive with a girl, LTR situation & slowly begin to realise that some of her close friends are low quality females.

It's only happened to me twice in my relationship experience & it's a very difficult one to navigate.

Let's just say her friend has a permiscues past or has a friend who dates unsavoury men, criminal types etc.

To me this is a big red flag on the character of the chick I am dating.

You are the average of the five closest people you associate with. Friends can be good or bad influence.

When your girl has bad influence, plan for an eventual exit.

 

[Westminster]

You are the average of the five closest people you associate with. Friends can be good or bad influence.

When your girl has bad influence, plan for an eventual exit.

Good post which just about sums it up for me.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

If you don't you must be crazy. Show me the company you keep and I'll tell you who you are.

The bigger issue comes because guys don't believe what they find out. Believe it, it's the truth.

 

[johnrambo]

Good post which just about sums it up for me.

The reverse happens too. Your girlfriend or wife may not want you to hang out with single guy friends.

 

[Westminster]

The reverse happens too. Your girlfriend or wife may not want you to hang out with single guy friends.

Absolutely, yes - and that's understandable really. Women tend to be resentful if you do it to them though.

 

[soulforge]

If you don't you must be crazy. Show me the company you keep and I'll tell you who you are.

The bigger issue comes because guys don't believe what they find out. Believe it, it's the truth.

Yes that old.. "My girl is different though dude"

 

[CornbreadFed]

Yes because the chances of her unfriending this person is slim to none.

 

[johnrambo]

If you don't you must be crazy. Show me the company you keep and I'll tell you who you are.

Indeed, show me your friends and I'll show you your future.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Yes that old.. "My girl is different though dude"

She never is.

 

[Gamisch]

Yes, but unfortunately women have the tendency to check out each other's dating partners much sooner than men do amongst each other.

Heck, I'd even say that men try to keep their women away from each other. From that POV it is an unfair game: you get juged by 5, while you have to judge 5 by yourself.

E.g my incel homie gets an import bride bought by his family so he can leave the house . Hell no he'll let ANYONE judge her. Imagine one of his close friends would say, "she's bad news ,dump her"....he would(hypothetically)have to wait another 7 years before he will have the opportunity to even think about a relationship with a woman ..

To stay on topic; hell yeah. It just takes one slightly slvtty single friend to mess up your relationship. One small drop of poison can be enough to kill you...

 

[soulforge]

Yes because the chances of her unfriending this person is slim to none.

This is true. And quite a problematic situation.

If she has freinds of bad character, it's very unlikely she will drop them for you.

 

[johnrambo]

Heck, I'd even say that men try to keep their women away from each other. From that POV it is an unfair game: you get juged by 5, while you have to judge 5 by yourself.

That's a good point. Women are weak minded. They listen to their friends and family. They have no opinions of their own.

 

[soulforge]

It's probably best to ask her questions about her friends very early on.

Even better to meet them sooner, than later.

You don't want to be in a situation, where your 6 months into the relationship & you realise most her freinds are a bunch of 304s.

 

[Gamisch]

That's a good point. Women are weak minded. They listen to their friends and family. They have no opinions of their own.

The fact that women are weak minded adds an extra layer to this dynamic. Especially when " she wants that relationship more than you do", but you try to buy yourself some time by sceeming and gaslighting, that is when her friends will come to "have a word with you".

(Modern) males are similarly weak minded, but yet lack the brotherhood to TRULY watch out for one another . Your friend could be coming home with an addicted prostitute,if you tell to be carefull he'll throw a tantrum that " you never want him to be happy", and invest even MORE in such a woman...we men are fecking idiots some times!

 

[soulforge]

Most of them are $hit.


If the woman value the man and don't wanna lose him, she will make up excuses no hang out with them again, will even find fauts in them. Haven't you ever heard of woman talking when they say "Ever since she got a boyfriend she don't hang out with us anymore" Because women are not $tupid, if they know those friendships can cause issues in the relationship, she will cut it out.

Every fvcking woman in this planet, has a combination of "friends", slutty, serious, alcoholics, party girls, nerds, smart, etc. There is a saying that goes every woman is a feminist until they find a good d!ck.

It really depends on the chick, her personality. If she is the masculine feminist type, it's unlikely she will ditch her hoe freinds.

I guess it boils down to interest level.

 

[johnrambo]

(Modern) males are similarly weak minded, but yet lack the brotherhood to TRULY watch out for one another . Your friend could be coming home with a addicted prostitute,if you tell to be carefull he'll throw a tantrum that " you never want him to be happy", and invest even MORE in such a woman...we men are fecking idiots some times!

Yeah, we get mesmerized by p*ssies . That's our #1 weakness.

 

[Gamisch]

Women are designed to follow the strongest frame, they're like that, its not a bug, its a feature. They get so manipulated today cause the lack of masculine men without frame is rampant, and they attach their identities to the strongest frame.

If you have a bunch of masculinize fat lesbians competing against a feminine scrawny thirsty guy, who do you think the woman will attach her identity to?

Great point

I think i was rather thinking about " h0e friends" as @soulforge mentioned, but there's MUCH more to it . A h0e friend might be the least of your problems.

The strong independent " governing " friend ( aka the "MOTHER FRIEND") can literally switch buttons. Girls night out? Skimpy clothes? Even another better fitting prospect? She's a puppet on a string, and happily fulfills this role. We as men underestimate the importance of dominance when dealing with women.

If your woman is NOT on top of the hierarchy of her group of friends, you might already have a huge problem. Doesn't matter whether she is a doctor or a cleaner. And if she IS on top of the hierarchy she's probably a BOSS bytch...

If we follow the logic of the latter, I'd say that we as men MUST be so perfectly in tune with our core values and beliefs ,so we NEVER ever lose frame...this will land you boss bytches by default , because women want to be dominated regardless of their own characteristics. A woman =a woman. Or at least make the most dominant woman like you( a bit too much lol, which might make you look and feel like a player...yes its complicated!)

The problem is that 90% of men are weak bytches, and they REFUSE to level/ man up. " lol sometimes she's just like this" is a much heard qoute when a woman acts disrespectful.

Interesting thread..

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Yes, but unfortunately women have the tendency to check out each other's dating partners much sooner than men do amongst each other.

Heck, I'd even say that men try to keep their women away from each other. From that POV it is an unfair game: you get juged by 5, while you have to judge 5 by yourself.

E.g my incel homie gets an import bride bought by his family so he can leave the house . Hell no he'll let ANYONE judge her. Imagine one of his close friends would say, "she's bad news ,dump her"....he would(hypothetically)have to wait another 7 years before he will have the opportunity to even think about a relationship with a woman ..

To stay on topic; hell yeah. It just takes one slightly slvtty single friend to mess up your relationship. One small drop of poison can be enough to kill you...

Not unfortunately for me...every woman I have dated, their friends LOVE me...to the point where there is always at least one of them that tries to fvck me behind their back.

I actually started telling women I date to be careful what you tell your friends about my skills in the bedroom and who you introduce me to because one of them is likely to try and get with me.

And I am going to let them know which of their friends isn't really their friend. I'm not down with that...makes me feel dirty to be a part of that.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

So you decide go exclusive with a girl

Yeah, don't make that stupid decision.
Don't go exclusive. At all. If she can't handle that, soit.