Gym Bunny

[Bingo-Player]

Theres a HB8 23 y/o gym bunny that trains at my gym and over the last couple of weeks ive approached and have been building up familiarity with her

We have also been flirting a bit on instagram

Today I am chatting with her She's smiling, laughing at my jokes and playing with her hair whilst I am talking to her and the conversation generally seems positive

I end up telling her that we should train together, she immediately says we definitely should

So yea I guess a gym date is on the horizon , anyone done anything like this with a chick before ?

 

[anour]

Theres a HB8 23 y/o gym bunny that trains at my gym and over the last couple of weeks ive approached and have been building up familiarity with her

We have also been flirting a bit on instagram

Today I am chatting with her She's smiling, laughing at my jokes and playing with her hair whilst I am talking to her and the conversation generally seems positive

I end up telling her that we should train together, she immediately says we definitely should

So yea I guess a gym date is on the horizon , anyone done anything like this with a chick before ?

Absoultely, you have two options
1. Leg day- you will see some booty cheeks
2. Go berserk - impress her with how much you can bench or row

 

[Bingo-Player]

Oh look another fan on her Instagram.

What year you living in son ?

 

[soulforge]

Theres a HB8 23 y/o gym bunny that trains at my gym and over the last couple of weeks ive approached and have been building up familiarity with her

We have also been flirting a bit on instagram

Today I am chatting with her She's smiling, laughing at my jokes and playing with her hair whilst I am talking to her and the conversation generally seems positive

I end up telling her that we should train together, she immediately says we definitely should

So yea I guess a gym date is on the horizon , anyone done anything like this with a chick before ?

Man I need to get on that gym approach game.. Not done it in ages!

They all young and fit as fuk at my gym!

 

[pipeman84]

What year you living in son ?

Flirting on IG? What's next, online sex?
Isn't it seduction 101 that a man should be direct, decisive, do all the rapport building in person and only use the phone (or IG in this case) to set up dates? You flirted in the gym ... till you see her next time let her wonder about you, be a bit of mystery, not at her beck and call on social media. That's how her attraction grows and you differentiate yourself from the other fans and simps she has on IG.

2. Go berserk - impress her with how much you can bench or row

 

[Ricky]

Id try to get her to meet somewhere outside of the gym. Maybe even right after the workout…

 

[Jaxus]

Mate, you’ve been on here for nearly 9 years. This might be the first time you’ve encountered a situation like this in the gym, but it’s certainly not your first time ever.

Instead of inviting her out to the pub, you invited her to the gym. It’s the same thing, just a different setting. Stakes are higher because the fitness field is inherently sexual, and talking over IG really emphasizes that (due to the fitness section of IG being softcore porn), but by and large, the same principles apply. Female nature doesn’t change just because she’s somewhere else. Don’t be nervous, and be willing to fail in an embarrassing way.

 

[Jaxus]

Flirting on IG? What's next, online sex?
Isn't it seduction 101 that a man should be direct, decisive, do all the rapport building in person and only use the phone (or IG in this case) to set up dates? You flirted in the gym ... till you see her next time let her wonder about you, be a bit of mystery, not at her beck and call on social media. That's how her attraction grows and you differentiate yourself from the other fans and simps she has on IG.


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Yeah maybe in the late 90s and early 2000s it was like that, but the landscape is different now. The normal way you attract a woman is by simply meeting them in your social environment, at which point they become attracted to you by the way you are (trying hard not to use “personality” or “character”). Since the rise of technology—and social media in particular—talking to people online has become a normal part of the socialization process. It’s simply what the modern social environment is. Removing it from your field of play kneecaps you in the social stratosphere, and I say this as someone who’s largely given up social media myself.

I understand your sentiment though; you’re really just saying OP needs to stop being a b!tch. Still try understanding where he’s coming from though.

 

[zekko]

Gym bunny?

 

[CAPSLOCK BANDIT]

You wouldn't dare keeping us posted on this. I bet it will go nowhere.

Why are you even here if your gonna make posts like this? What value does your criticism have if you are not offering another way and just offering insults?

You accused Rambo of trolling but that's exactly what your doing here, do better.

 

[Divorced w 3]

OP, I don’t think I love the idea of your date being within your gym. Maybe if it were exclusively your grounds but it isn’t. With that no longer an option I would suggest just mentioning that you’re going a few different times and I would obviously throw the one on that you most typically see each other. Run a different program than you guys are used to. Trip her up just a hair nothing more than just a bit of nonverbal bragging on your part. Have a great time. Feel it out from there

 

[sangheilios]

@Bingo-Player

I've had multiple gym approaches in the past and none of them amounted to anything, in fact they all lead to a ton of unnecessary drama for me. I'm not saying this to put you down, it's just an environment where you need to tread very carefully because it can easily become incredibly awkward or even a problematic situation for you.

As @Divorced w 3 mentioned, I think you should try to spend time with this woman OUTSIDE of the gym environment as soon as possible. By sticking with just the gym you are setting yourself up to be "gym friend zoned", where she only really interacts with you in that environment but where it doesn't lead to beyond that. In a scenario like this, she'd probably start looking at you as like a gym buddy or lifting partner and not specifically as a potential dating option. I'd try to set something up with her outside of the gym where you can spend time together one on one before getting yourself into this weird place with her.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Absoultely, you have two options
1. Leg day- you will see some booty cheeks
2. Go berserk - impress her with how much you can bench or row

I prefer the one arm bench rows...she will be bent over and you can stand behind her to check her form.

 

[Bingo-Player]

How am I trolling? Betting it won't work cause he's just a other fan on her Instagram?

Many topics in here about asking number and making dates, Instagram is nothing, just another of many dudes in her DMs, that's not trolling, that's just stating facts, and the fact is that he's being in this forum for almost 10 years he should know better that asking Instagram and texting on it is a way of being scared of rejection, I know cause I was like thwt, and many of the guys in here were. But yeah I guess I'm trolling.

You read one sentence of the post and no more by the looks of it

I have been talking to her in person IN THE GYM , I met her in person IN THE GYM

She gave me her instagram after that not before , I haven't just randomly found her instagram and started obsessing her content

she will send me a message about something I will reply teasing her and vice versa its generally how people that were born after 1995 tend to communicate and flirt online

Like I said what year are you living in

I'm not asking for advice on how to ask her out or how to talk to her , I'm asking if anyones ever done a first date In a gym before

 

[Bingo-Player]

Flirting on IG? What's next, online sex?
Isn't it seduction 101 that a man should be direct, decisive, do all the rapport building in person and only use the phone (or IG in this case) to set up dates? You flirted in the gym ... till you see her next time let her wonder about you, be a bit of mystery, not at her beck and call on social media. That's how her attraction grows and you differentiate yourself from the other fans and simps she has on IG.

She may reply to a story of mine or I may reply to one of hers it just helps build rapport and familiarity and probably why she's now comfortable enough to train with me

I'm not messaging her on there all day every day

But long gone are the days of charging in on a woman like a bull in china shop

young women are very cautious about who they let in

 

[Jaxus]

sure, keep lying to yourself.

9s and 10s don’t just entertain any guy that comes their way, they only let in the top men.

So yes, women at the top of the social hierarchy most certainly are cautious about who they let in.

But long gone are the days of charging in on a woman like a bull in china shop

This. And anyone who’s aware of the modern social climate is aware of it. Adapt or die.

 

[Bingo-Player]

sure, keep lying to yourself.

i've done over 150 approaches this year with women 21-28 I've used a wide range of openers and conversation techniques I can assure you I know what I am saying it right

Women have so many options now they have no need to just submit to the first man that shows them any kind of attention

they want to see what your about , they want to test you and they want to connect with you

" hey you look cute I want to take you out"

Doesn't work well anymore , its corny

 

[Bingo-Player]

Gym bunny?

A phrase for a woman that goes to gym a lot

 

[Bingo-Player]

Man I need to get on that gym approach game.. Not done it in ages!

They all young and fit as fuk at my gym!

Tricky environment to get it right because a lot can go wrong fast and it can get awkward

Ive done a lot of gym approaches this year so I've kind of gauged how to work them , slow and steady is definitely the way to go

You charge up to a girl in the gym and start telling her she looks hot and you want her number its going to get hella awkward hella quick

With this girl in the OP it took almost 6 weeks of glances and smiling before I actually got an opportunity to open her , but by that stage she told me she had seen me there a lot and was pretty relaxed talking to me

 

[ThisIsSparta]

Theres a HB8 23 y/o gym bunny that trains at my gym and over the last couple of weeks ive approached and have been building up familiarity with her

We have also been flirting a bit on instagram

Today I am chatting with her She's smiling, laughing at my jokes and playing with her hair whilst I am talking to her and the conversation generally seems positive

I end up telling her that we should train together, she immediately says we definitely should

So yea I guess a gym date is on the horizon , anyone done anything like this with a chick before ?

I dont know man.....

my guess is you will become her friendzoned gym-simp that prepares her weights.

Why would i think that.....

you will spend how many sessions and hours with this chick, NOT doing THE THINGS you are supposed to do (isolate & escalate)?

You will be the grown man that sacrifices his training regimen to orbit a girl, which implys that you value being her assistant more then "doing your thing" with the weights. Its not what "Chad" would do.

This "lets train together" approach is like having 5 (10? 20?) dates before even having a real date and no chick is going to take you serious.

She will feel bored and not conquered.

I´d suggest a traditional approach....... as you allready started that line and she really goes on a gym-date with you, invite her to a real date ASAP or get the hell outa there before you end up changing your gym days to avoid being her volunteered gym assistant.

Genuine desire cant be negotiated and if she isnt on board from the start, the juice wont be worth the squeeze.

If i am wrong, good on you..... but i have seen a lot of guys falling short of their intentions with being a gym-buddy.