Who genuinely wants to see you succeed?

[Jets4129]

Hey guys, interesting take here. So I’m getting promoted very shortly and I’ve noticed that the people in my immediate office (corporate world) are on the downlow pretty insecure about it in a sense. Mind you, these are people I’ve worked w for a few years and have never had a major issue with (pretty friendly, not too confrontational and never step on anyone’s toes).They’ve treated me differently since it’s getting closer, it’s like they want to say something that’s been bugging them for a long time but resort to jabs (nothing that gets to me too bad). Wild to see when something good happens people you thought were close to you kind of secretly don’t want to see you succeed, because that is the strong vibe I’m getting from these people.
Anyways, what I’m trying to say is that, in my opinion, the only people that TRULY want to see you succeed are your family, VERY select few friends, and that’s about it for the most part. Moving up and doing good, you’re gonna deal with this type of diversity, best to stay in one’s lane and stickto your goals. PEACE.

 

[SmoothSmooth]

Nobody. Succeed and enjoy and do you. Even your friends and a lot of family have a breaking point, if you go beyond it they will eventually start to envy.
Don’t take it personal, their real beef is with themselves.
the more success the more hate

 

[BadBoy89]

the only people that TRULY want to see you succeed are your family, VERY select few friends

Nope. They don't want you to succeed either.

Your ENEMY and STRANGERS want you to succeed more than anyone.

 

[Bokanovsky]

Your parents and other close family members (assuming you don't have a disfunctinla family). Probably your significant other (she has a vested interest). And that's basically it.

 

[Slag]

My Mom is the only person I know that's truly happy for me when things go well. My relationship with my Dad can be a bit hit or miss. I love him, but it often feels like we're competing against each other. I get the impression sometimes that he thinks I want to be successful just to spite him. My siblings are supportive, but there can be some jealousy. My friends.....lots of jealousy at times. I don't hold it against any of them. I know I can be envious of the success of the people around me, too. I try my best not to show it, though.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

What about the Baby Boomers? Lolol

 

[FlexpertHamilton]

Nobody. Succeed and enjoy and do you. Even your friends and a lot of family have a breaking point, if you go beyond it they will eventually start to envy.
Don’t take it personal, their real beef is with themselves.
the more success the more hate

This is untrue. If you have friends who's relationship would be strained by your success, they're not your real friends. Same goes for family.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Yeah that's pretty much right. And not even all of your family. Some will be happy to see you fall flat on your face.

 

[RazorRambo24]

The sad thing is i've seen on other psots that alot of people on here dont even have friends they hang out with.. which is horrible to think about. I mean its cool to be independant, but having a tribe is everything.

For me, i've had alot of people want me to succeed but i didn't see it or care for it. Instead i valued the opinions of the cooler and older people i was around who were not the best rolemodels and iddnt care about me droppin out of highschool or cutting classes to hang out, or smoking my life away, selling drugs, involving myself in the street/ganglife etc

But ofc i overcame that sht and later was around people who were generally caring but some envied my successes and my ability to be resourceful/my confidence/social skills/skill with women.. Regardless, only after leaving that final group of friends (i jumped from 2 diff groups of friends in my life and some more minor groups) I started developing the tribe I have now.

 

[SmoothSmooth]

Nah, when you have real success—the money, the looks, the charisma/personality,!the freedom, the girls…even family will envy you
Everyone has their breaking point
Nobody wants you better than them in all domains

 

[Learning Curve]

Hey guys, interesting take here. So I’m getting promoted very shortly and I’ve noticed that the people in my immediate office (corporate world) are on the downlow pretty insecure about it in a sense. Mind you, these are people I’ve worked w for a few years and have never had a major issue with (pretty friendly, not too confrontational and never step on anyone’s toes).They’ve treated me differently since it’s getting closer, it’s like they want to say something that’s been bugging them for a long time but resort to jabs (nothing that gets to me too bad). Wild to see when something good happens people you thought were close to you kind of secretly don’t want to see you succeed, because that is the strong vibe I’m getting from these people.
Anyways, what I’m trying to say is that, in my opinion, the only people that TRULY want to see you succeed are your family, VERY select few friends, and that’s about it for the most part. Moving up and doing good, you’re gonna deal with this type of diversity, best to stay in one’s lane and stickto your goals. PEACE.

Nobody really wants to see you succeed apart from maybe your family.

But that's it.

Keep it low and succeed for yourself and nobody else. You will have plenty of people getting jealous and acting different once they realize you are climbing up the ladder.

Anyhow climb it and move on.

 

[LTG71]

This is an unfortunate truth. People see your successes as their failures so they become envious and jealous. I do a lot of house projects since my father taught me how to do things. When I mention I’m doing a project to people, I usually get next to no response or curiosity since others don’t know how to use a screwdriver. Just do you and fuel yourself. There is always going be haters. Your true friends and family are about the only ones that will be supportive. And congrats on the promotion.

 

[Redwood]

This is very hard to say because a lot of people don't want to admit it.

 

[EyeBRollin]

Your biological parents (assuming no dysfunction), biological children, and wife (she has vested interest). That’s basically it.

 

[Jets4129]

TBH what helped me and fueled me to promotion was having enemies. I wasn’t looking for them and always carried on being myself, but they always pop up along the way. Having a healthy adversary fuels me to be more competitive than I on average would be. I’m ALWAYS on the lookout for people that don’t want to see me do well, I think about them a lot when I studied 7-8 hours a day for 8 months for this promotion. It made studying and working toward a my goal a lot more easier and motivating. The trick is to maintain the mental mindset during these tough times.

 

[Dr.Suave]

Maybe a handful of people. Most couldnt care less.

 

[SmoothSmooth]

TBH what helped me and fueled me to promotion was having enemies. I wasn’t looking for them and always carried on being myself, but they always pop up along the way. Having a healthy adversary fuels me to be more competitive than I on average would be. I’m ALWAYS on the lookout for people that don’t want to see me do well, I think about them a lot when I studied 7-8 hours a day for 8 months for this promotion. It made studying and working toward a my goal a lot more easier and motivating. The trick is to maintain the mental mindset during these tough times.

Enemies are a blessing from God, they say. Nothing motivates a man more than proving enemies wrong.

 

[RazorRambo24]

Nah, when you have real success—the money, the looks, the charisma/personality,!the freedom, the girls…even family will envy you
Everyone has their breaking point
Nobody wants you better than them in all domains

This notion is such bull.sht . People have such a victim mindset its pathetic.
How do I know? I've got all that and I dont feel the envy by my family or anyone around me anymore.. I cut off all the people who showed envy and jealousy or talked crap behind my back. People who don't have some level of success will def have envy.. thats why I keep succesful people around me.

As far as family:

Listen , some people know your journey and those people are glad to see you make a huge stride into success from coming from a place of scarcity/problems/adversity.. I grew up poor and at one point I remember punching some kid i knew because he asked me "hey why do you always wear the same clothes, does your family not have money" .. I was about 12 yrs old at the time.

One of my earliest experiences was getting evicted from an apartment while i was around 4-5 yrs old, mom crying and pleading with Landlord, landlor there with a US Marshall, literally almost breaking down the door to get in, banging us all crazy. we were forced to put stuff into garbage bags and take it and stay with a neighbor for weeks. my dad was MIA at the time.

Why would my family have any reason to envy my success? They are all proud of me and many of them hada "we knew you'd do it" mindset. I'm talking about my extended family who was more well off than us but my immediate family was even more proud of me, why? because they were there with me for much of the adversity.

 

[LTG71]

TBH what helped me and fueled me to promotion was having enemies. I wasn’t looking for them and always carried on being myself, but they always pop up along the way. Having a healthy adversary fuels me to be more competitive than I on average would be. I’m ALWAYS on the lookout for people that don’t want to see me do well, I think about them a lot when I studied 7-8 hours a day for 8 months for this promotion. It made studying and working toward a my goal a lot more easier and motivating. The trick is to maintain the mental mindset during these tough times.

That’s the thing. Most people don’t want to make the effort of 7-8 hours a day for months to reach the goal. They want to get the results without the effort.

Few years back I did a long bike ride, 130 miles, 15k of climbing. Took me 12hrs to complete. Trained for it for months but it was still hard to complete. Finishing the event was the best reward. Reason being was I had to do it all myself. Had to have the mental stamina to keep going if I wanted to enjoy the glory. What is interesting is when you meet other people who have completed this ride, there is an instant connection because they know exactly what kind of a mind fvck it was and how much work it truly is. Most people don’t want to make this effort and often downplay your accomplishments.

Key is to surround yourself with like minded individuals. The old saying, “if you want to soar like an eagle, you can’t hang around with turkeys” basically sums it up. My group of riding buddies is filled with a variety of skill levels but one thing is common, everyone there challenges and encourages each other to get better and stronger.

 

[bat soup]

Hey guys, interesting take here. So I’m getting promoted very shortly and I’ve noticed that the people in my immediate office (corporate world) are on the downlow pretty insecure about it in a sense. Mind you, these are people I’ve worked w for a few years and have never had a major issue with (pretty friendly, not too confrontational and never step on anyone’s toes).They’ve treated me differently since it’s getting closer, it’s like they want to say something that’s been bugging them for a long time but resort to jabs (nothing that gets to me too bad). Wild to see when something good happens people you thought were close to you kind of secretly don’t want to see you succeed, because that is the strong vibe I’m getting from these people.
Anyways, what I’m trying to say is that, in my opinion, the only people that TRULY want to see you succeed are your family, VERY select few friends, and that’s about it for the most part. Moving up and doing good, you’re gonna deal with this type of diversity, best to stay in one’s lane and stickto your goals. PEACE.

That's not surprising. People that see themselves as at your level don't like it when you pull ahead.