Don't be like my friend...talked to a woman for 30 days straight then drove 12 hours to meet up and...

[BackInTheGame78]

He said initially things were going well, she came to his AirBNB and things seemed good...they ended up playing around and playing tag and she ran into his bedroom and jumped on his bed and he came in and tagged her and made a move and they started making out on the bed, but he never pushed any further than that...

Said she offered no resistance to anything he did but he never tried to grab her tits, rubbed her butt a few times but never tried to put his hands down her pants or put her hand on his c0ck, etc...

Things cooled off after about 10 minutes he said and then she started acting weird and said she "had to go" a little while later.

Lo and behold he got a text the next day saying she didn't feel they had chemistry and that she liked him but didn't feel it.

Lessons?

1) No amount of talking and 'connecting' with a woman will mean anything once you meet in person.

2) Never drive to see a woman if it's over an hour and only then if you KNOW you are getting laid.

3) If a woman gives you a green light, you better take it or else run the risk of her thinking you don't know how to lead her to sex or worse are afraid to.

Basically this dude wasted countless hours over 30 days texting and talking to her, drove 12 hours and now has to drive 12 more back and got nothing out of it. Worst of all he HAD A CLEAR GREEN LIGHT TO FVCK HER and didn't!

Apparently he has a date set up tomorrow with some girl down there so it's a last ditch effort for his trip not to be a waste of time...

 

[Hamurabimbi]

12 hours! That would be like driving to Salt Lake City for me. I dont think even a 10/10 would be worth that.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

12 hours! That would be like driving to Salt Lake City for me. I dont think even a 10/10 would be worth that.

Crazy thing is he is a decent enough looking dude that does OK for himself where he is.

Unsure why but he gets stuck on certain women and builds these relationships with them in his head that don't pan out. He loves long distance stuff for some reason. Almost like a rush for him or something. I don't get it.

And I was like "WTF would you drive all that way and the women is basically telling you to fvck her and then not push further?"

 

[corrector]

He got the validation he wanted....he could have got laid. Maybe he is fapping about the potential conquest.

 

[Hal9000]

The lesson here is if you spend a month talking with a woman and end up with her in your bed offering "no resistance" and you don't give her what she clearly wants that you are the problem not her.

I mean imagine the roles had been reversed and he was being super playful and flirty and she responded to that energy by acting like she didn't feel the same way or that she may think men/sex are icky. We'd all tell the guy to run for the hills. It goes both ways gentlemen.

 

[Stuffnu]

He lost me at tag.
Boy in a man’s body…

 

[kenpiffyjr]

A Peter Pan

 

[zekko]

3) If a woman gives you a green light, you better take it or else run the risk of her thinking you don't know how to lead her to sex or worse are afraid to.

Yep, this screams inexperience too. Bottom line is, for a girl like this, she views you as wasting her time.
Men are expected to be men.

 

[Learning Curve]

Well, this does not surprise me at all.

Most guys behave this way as soon as they smell some p3ussy.

30 days of texting for nothing. Again typical simp behavior not surprised at all.

If the guy escalated at least for s3x further he could have sealed the deal.

 

[Gamisch]

The reason why men act like this is again , to defend "her honor".

Some men want to tell their " grand children " that it took 101 dates before he finally got some nookie. A real testimony of how great and disciplined this bloodline is.

Sounds great in theory. In reality the bloodline started due to rape, cheating with the milkman or more romantically; in a piss-smelling ally during a hiphop( rock &roll) party.

 

[Millard Fillmore]

Tag, that's a new one.

Unfortunately in my BP days I chickened out a couple of times with a green light. Guys don't realize women see hesitation as a form of rejection (subconsciously).

Luckily I never drove 12 hours to stand and watch three pitches cross the plate.

 

[Ricky]

12 hours! That would be like driving to Salt Lake City for me. I dont think even a 10/10 would be worth that.

Back in the 90s a friend and i used to joke about how far we would walk to bang a certain supermodel…..

we both agreed we would walk to los angeles from the midwest for a chance to do Jennifer anniston

 

[Solomon]

NO disrespect OP but you're friend sounds like a loser
This reminds of a youtuber who drove 16 hours to meet a chick without letting her know and when he came to town she basically left him on read.

I get it sometimes you can find a hotter woman in another state or country but then you have the risk of what happened to OP's friend. Personally, when I go out of town (and not for women usually cause I have plans to go there) I like to pipeline my meets up. So if shyt falls through with one girl you still have other options, if all options falls through heck at least you can enjoy the scene, your friends, business etc

If you're that desperate to drive 12 hours to meet a woman something is wrong with you and not the woman, heck even driving an hour nowadays is to much(Gas is $4 a gallon going to $5) there are to many women out here if you can't find one who lives 45 minutes away or less you're not hunting hard enough

 

[Hamurabimbi]

Well. My MGTOW friend, who is decent looking, drove two hours to bang an old 3/10 hag.

 

[Solomon]

Well. My MGTOW friend, who is decent looking, drove two hours to bang an old 3/10 hag.

2 hours? did he meet her off TInder? lmfaooo
I can't remember the last time I had to drive 2 hours, typically women come to me if they live 2-3 hours I can't be bothered I live in a small town but even in a shythole where I live you can find women in a 30 mile radius

 

[Hamurabimbi]

2 hours? did he meet her off TInder? lmfaooo
I can't remember the last time I had to drive 2 hours, typically women come to me if they live 2-3 hours I can't be bothered I live in a small town but even in a shythole where I live you can find women in a 30 mile radius

no. He met her in Social Circle. My drive limit is one hour.

 

[FlexpertHamilton]

I genuinely don't understand how men still don't understand how much of a waste of time to chat with a girl online without meeting her right away. Unless you have advanced enough level skills to pick up in their IL, you're most likely going to think she's way more invested and interested than she actually is and it'll be a big disappointment.

The biggest issue is that there's no way to test chemistry with someone until you meet them in person.

 

[Solomon]

I genuinely don't understand how men still don't understand how much of a waste of time to chat with a girl online without meeting her right away. Unless you have advanced enough level skills to pick up in their IL, you're most likely going to think she's way more invested and interested than she actually is and it'll be a big disappointment.

The biggest issue is that there's no way to test chemistry with someone until you meet them in person.

Totally agree this whole thing about waiting for 2 weeks or even a week in 2023 is a fools errand
I remember matching with a girl on a June Friday at 4:47pm by 8:37pm we were having drinks
If it takes you more than 5 days to meet a chick she got low IL

 

[AureliusMaximus]

He said initially things were going well, she came to his AirBNB and things seemed good...they ended up playing around and playing tag and she ran into his bedroom and jumped on his bed and he came in and tagged her and made a move and they started making out on the bed, but he never pushed any further than that...

Said she offered no resistance to anything he did but he never tried to grab her tits, rubbed her butt a few times but never tried to put his hands down her pants or put her hand on his c0ck, etc...

Things cooled off after about 10 minutes he said and then she started acting weird and said she "had to go" a little while later.

Lo and behold he got a text the next day saying she didn't feel they had chemistry and that she liked him but didn't feel it.

My body is aching of all the cringe.

 

[Modern Man Advice]

I guess she was not it...