I'm attracted to younger girls, but are they interested in older men?

[Pierce Manhammer]

Sweet baby, Jesus!

We’ve been over this so many times in so many threads. It’s absurd that we’re still talking about it Jesus.

I have personal experience that flies in the face of the statements that are being made about younger women being attracted to men in their 40’s. Of course, you have to be better than average looking. Yes, you have to have a great physique. Yes, you have to have presence and confidence. Yes, you have to act a little younger than your age and with it.

The biggest issue is that guys think that they possess all of the things I’ve listed above, but they don’t and then they fall flat on their faces when trying to approach younger women.

In my personal experience, all I had to do was hang out in a public place, reading a book or working on my laptop. Coeds would approach me. In a college town.

You guys need to stop worrying so much about theory and go do something. Fack.

I'm attracted to younger girls, but are they interested in older men?

Ty everyone whose commented so far. Everyone has been blunt, shared their anecdotal experience, perspectives, and have given helpful tips to my circumstance. What I've noted is to keep fit, find opportunities at school, and dress sharp but age appropriate. It is possible. Attraction to...

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[sangheilios]

So status/finance does help? Can other people give their view on this?

By the way, SW15, I've seen you on other posts, and I'm glad you posted on mine. You have the signature phrase/motto "Most men 30+ are vagina beggars." I love it.

You should be careful using money as a means to draw women in. You are setting the tone as a "provider" from the get go by using money as a means to attract that woman and she will expect you to maintain this if the relationship progresses. Think about just any instagram thot you'll find on there, these women often use it as a sort of only fans advertisement where they are being pursued by wealthy men. These women will be flown out to Dubai or some other vacation spot, stay at high end hotels, etc. Granted, this is a more extreme example.

Think of it this way, it'll turn into a high maintenance relationship where you need to be spending money in order to maintain your image to her. This may not be sustainable and something that could quickly spiral out of control. She may slowly become desensitized to what you can provide and then expect increasingly more and more from you.

Honestly, I wouldn't even go there because you are attracting a woman that isn't really into you and would be working your ass off for some fake relationship. It definitely works for certain people but it's definitely not something I'd go for and may not be for you as well.

 

[sangheilios]

I find that the immigrant girls, tend to settle for an older man, as they want the stability and a meal ticket out of there situation.

There's definitely a cultural element to that, it's not unusual for women to marry much older men in non western cultures.

 

[soulforge]

Sweet baby, Jesus!

We’ve been over this so many times in so many threads. It’s absurd that we’re still talking about it Jesus.

I have personal experience that flies in the face of the statements that are being made about younger women being attracted to men in their 40’s. Of course, you have to be better than average looking. Yes, you have to have a great physique. Yes, you have to have presence and confidence. Yes, you have to act a little younger than your age and with it.

The biggest issue is that guys think that they possess all of the things I’ve listed above, but they don’t and then they fall flat on their faces when trying to approach younger women.

In my personal experience, all I had to do was hang out in a public place, reading a book or working on my laptop. Coeds would approach me. In a college town.

You guys need to stop worrying so much about theory and go do something. Fack.

I'm attracted to younger girls, but are they interested in older men?

Ty everyone whose commented so far. Everyone has been blunt, shared their anecdotal experience, perspectives, and have given helpful tips to my circumstance. What I've noted is to keep fit, find opportunities at school, and dress sharp but age appropriate. It is possible. Attraction to...

www.sosuave.net

What I works for me is this.. I'm in my late 40's however in excellent shape.. In better shape than most guys in there 20's.

However looks wise, I have been told many times that I look no older than 33-35

So getting off with a 25 year old isn't that difficult.

Lots of 25 year olds would date a guy who is maybe 7 years older than her.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

What works for me is this: I tie up kinky girls with daddy issues and have them blow me. Find your niche.

 

[mikedee]

You can pull young girls in your 30s it's possible, but it's going to be more and more difficult as you get older (past 33-34 and up). After 35 it's very unlikely that you will pull a hot 18-22. Most young girls in that age range care about age, they really do. They say they don't but they do. They are easily influenced by their peers and really care about what people are going to think of them, especially their parents, relatives, etc. Since they can get pretty much any guy that they want they will go for a guy of their age or slightly older. Big age gaps are not common, and it's a cultural thing too, some cultures are more permissive, some less.

I'm 37 and look like 27-28. I can approach any 18-22+ as I have the looks the vibe etc, but as soon as they know my age, most of the time it quickly fizzles out. Looks, money, status help but at the end of the day it's just the way it is, you get oldet and they stay young. Again, it's not impossible but don't expect anything. In your late 30s aim for 27-31, it's still a good range (more 27 than 31 though)

 

[mikedee]

There's definitely a cultural element to that, it's not unusual for women to marry much older men in non western cultures.

What interesting is that the more "liberal" the culture is, the less tolerant it is in terms of age gap. Big age gaps are common in cultures where women have no rights (muslim cultures) or in cultures where money is considered as a value - women marry older men with money (money is always involded directly or indirectly) to live a better life and depending on the woman's look, live in luxury. Very common among east euro. girls.

 

[CAPSLOCK BANDIT]

Yo, I'm just having a conversation with that other poster, you are looking far too deeply into this.

The facts are that it would be incredibly UNUSUAL for a man approaching 40, or even over it, to be able to pull a woman that is 18-22.

Think about a theoretical scenario where a guy that is 40 goes out to hit up the local nightlife and specifically targets women that are in their early 20s. Let's give this man the luxury of playing the numbers game, so we'll give him 10 nights out where there are an abundance of potential young women he could approach. What do you think the results would be from an experiment like this?

Let's use another experiment where a man like this uses OLD sites and apps, where he specifically messages women in this age range. Again, what do you think the results would be?

I'm not saying this to be mean or insult anyone, these are just facts that I'm discussing here. If a man was approaching 40 he is going to be wasting a lot of his time by going for women in such an age bracket and is very likely to have nothing to show for it. However, a man of this age that took care of himself, is fit, etc. could realistically still go for women that are around 27-32.

I don't think there is anything wrong with going for younger women, it's just that some of the expectations being discussed on here are honestly ridiculous. As I mentioned on my previous post, I also don't see why a 40 year old man would even want to go for women in the 18-22 bracket anyway. These women are going to be immature and annoying to deal with to where you should have literally NOTHING in common with them.

Sex and procreation is enough commonality, like am I the only one that feels this way?

 

[BeExcellent]

This lady managed to get herself a guy 23yrs younger.

Sam Taylor-Johnson, 56, poses with ripped shirtless husband Aaron, 33

The director, 56, and actor, 33, met on the set of Nowhere Boy in 2009, when he was 18 and she was 42 and tied the knot in June 2012.

www.dailymail.co.uk

THAT is a cougar, lol. But Mae West was also well known for taking up with younger men.

 

[IamtheAlphamale]

If an older man, 38-40s, was highly successful, would age still be a barrier to dating them? Would they give these men a chance to approach and open them?

My first post, I'm 32, and I've decided to go back to law school and to spend the next 4 years working on myself. I've put a hold on dating, and I'm trying to improve my career.

It hurts me to think of my age by the time my grind is over, that I'll be too old to attract the women I'm interested in. My friends have suggested that I should temper my expectations, and that it's not within social norms. I've heard it all, and I've thought it over for years. I still want to date younger women.

I can't remember which member on here posted this, but his quote inspired me, "It is men's duty to strive and become the outliers".

Are younger girls, 18-22, generally attracted to "successful" men in their late 30s? Men who'd make a 7 figure income, are very fit, good looking for the age of late 30s early 40s, and have lived a little more life than younger men?

OR are these kinds of girls outliers, is it then more common for these girls to be attracted only within their age group?

Thank you for reading.

The groups are brainwashed to think that dating people their own age is the best. (Feminism?)

But women don't usually hang around older men, because we don't have the same social groups. But that's why older men are not dating younger women as much, because we're not in their social circles.

But they like older men. And are hardwired to like us. When you approach a younger girl, if you approach properly, she will be open to it. I'm 40 and not fit and don't have a high paying job and I have a really good reaction dealing with young women. It's just a matter of learning to smoothly open a conversation. 'Rules of the game' is a good book that will have you really good at getting into conversations, if you do all the daily challenges.

Dating app data says that men reach peak desirability at 50. I can believe this because I have heard women talk about me many times as I'm leaving ghe area and they don't know I'm in earshot.

 

[IamtheAlphamale]

You are missing the point on that. The things you prioritize in your 30s and 40s will be totally alien to that of a person in their late teens and early 20s. People that are 18-22, so barely out of high school/college aged, are still trying to find their way in the world, discover themselves, experiment with life, etc. If you are in your 30s and 40s you are going to be prioritizing things like family, career success, enjoying personal time, etc. Women that are 18-22 are looking to have fun and excitement, a man that is 40 should be looking forward to having some personal time to himself, peace and quiet, etc. lol.

Seriously, what the hell would a 40 year old man an 18 year old woman talk about with each other? She's busy thinking about what college she might go to, maybe what sorority she will join, what party or nightlife venue she'll be going to this weekend, etc. I'll use myself as an example, and I'm 33 so a bit younger lol. I'd be busy thinking about my main job, investing/money, my side business, the gym, running errands, making dinner, sleeping/resting, etc. Totally different existences there.

Why are you talking about life with women. I just talk about random light stuff. I'm 40, lots of 20 year olds are very very interested in me. Cab be done. U just gotta have self belief, confidence and an iron will.

 

[Bigpapa]

Why are you talking about life with women. I just talk about random light stuff. I'm 40, lots of 20 year olds are very very interested in me. Cab be done. U just gotta have self belief, confidence and an iron will.

WTF can you talk about life with someone just barely finished high school

WTF most of the people knew when they were in the early 20s about life? Most of them were following the city lights and having no idea why they did this

Dumb as f8ck to try to talk about serious stuff with most people

 

[Solomon]

Sweet baby, Jesus!

We’ve been over this so many times in so many threads. It’s absurd that we’re still talking about it Jesus.

I have personal experience that flies in the face of the statements that are being made about younger women being attracted to men in their 40’s. Of course, you have to be better than average looking. Yes, you have to have a great physique. Yes, you have to have presence and confidence. Yes, you have to act a little younger than your age and with it.

The biggest issue is that guys think that they possess all of the things I’ve listed above, but they don’t and then they fall flat on their faces when trying to approach younger women.

In my personal experience, all I had to do was hang out in a public place, reading a book or working on my laptop. Coeds would approach me. In a college town.

You guys need to stop worrying so much about theory and go do something. Fack.

I'm attracted to younger girls, but are they interested in older men?

Ty everyone whose commented so far. Everyone has been blunt, shared their anecdotal experience, perspectives, and have given helpful tips to my circumstance. What I've noted is to keep fit, find opportunities at school, and dress sharp but age appropriate. It is possible. Attraction to...

www.sosuave.net

Pierce just admit it you're a Chad sir, Most 40 year old men aren't nothing wrong with that lmfaooo

But no seriously this topic is getting old if you have to make a thread about this then you're no were near to the point to get hotter younger women which means that you have to take a critical look at yourself and improve on the areas that need to be fixed

 

[IamtheAlphamale]

You can pull young girls in your 30s it's possible, but it's going to be more and more difficult as you get older (past 33-34 and up). After 35 it's very unlikely that you will pull a hot 18-22. Most young girls in that age range care about age, they really do. They say they don't but they do. They are easily influenced by their peers and really care about what people are going to think of them, especially their parents, relatives, etc. Since they can get pretty much any guy that they want they will go for a guy of their age or slightly older. Big age gaps are not common, and it's a cultural thing too, some cultures are more permissive, some less.

I'm 37 and look like 27-28. I can approach any 18-22+ as I have the looks the vibe etc, but as soon as they know my age, most of the time it quickly fizzles out. Looks, money, status help but at the end of the day it's just the way it is, you get oldet and they stay young. Again, it's not impossible but don't expect anything. In your late 30s aim for 27-31, it's still a good range (more 27 than 31 though)

When they ask you age try this : instead of saying your 37, say that your like 60 and then be like I look amazing eh. Still super hot. And then get them to pry the number out of you. 'If you give me a dollar I'll tell you'

It's part of that negotiation psychology I think. You ask for more than you want and settle on a lower price. I dunno.

Anyways try that. Generally girls don't like straight up answers and like to work for things.

 

[IamtheAlphamale]

WTF can you talk about life with someone just barely finished high school

WTF most of the people knew when they were in the early 20s about life? Most of them were following the city lights and having no idea why they did this

Dumb as f8ck to try to talk about serious stuff with most people

Yup I agree. Besides it being zero fun. People on here are always saying girls want fun etc. So be fun. Don't be talking about stupid boring serious stuff.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

[QUOTE="Solomon, post: 3058537, member: 53038"

But no seriously this topic is getting old if you have to make a thread about this then you're no were near to the point to get hotter younger women which means that you have to take a critical look at yourself and improve on the areas that need to be fixed
[/QUOTE.

This.

 

[Stoic]

I am 40 and earn significantly more than most men. I also have a lifestyle where I travel all over Latin America for work and fun. Admittedly and shamelessly, I do use this to pull young women in that range you speak about. I realize that yes a lot of the time, they are attracted because of the money. However, they are also attracted to my mindset and ambition that got me the money in the first place.

 

[mikedee]

When they ask you age try this : instead of saying your 37, say that your like 60 and then be like I look amazing eh. Still super hot. And then get them to pry the number out of you. 'If you give me a dollar I'll tell you'

It's part of that negotiation psychology I think. You ask for more than you want and settle on a lower price. I dunno.

Anyways try that. Generally girls don't like straight up answers and like to work for things.

Rookie stuff, doesn't work.

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

Pierce just admit it you're a Chad sir, Most 40 year old men aren't nothing wrong with that lmfaooo

Can't rightly tell if that's sarcasm or not - I'm opting for sarcasm.

So for sheets and grins, let's come up with a GO/NOGO definition of Chad. Given how much the term gets used to dismiss or justify things around here I think we should agree on definitions, and maybe even grow this nascent effort into a SS Lexicon.

What makes one a Chad? Let us use measurable characteristics that are understandable.

 

[Solomon]

Can't rightly tell if that's sarcasm or not - I'm opting for sarcasm.

So for sheets and grins, let's come up with a GO/NOGO definition of Chad. Given how much the term gets used to dismiss or justify things around here I think we should agree on definitions, and maybe even grow this nascent effort into a SS Lexicon.

What makes one a Chad? Let us use measurable characteristics that are understandable.

I wasn't being sarcastic moreso complimenting you in a cheeky way sir