Lack Of Impulse Control & Cheating

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Is there a Coleration between a girl lacking impulse control & cheating?

Let's say for example she goes to visit a friend & ends up getting drunk.

She gets invited to a barbeque & ends up getting drunk.

She suddenly decides to get another tattoo or a another piercing.

She might have a permiscues past, which is more likely due to her having a lack of self control to some degree & ending up having sex with Chad.

Personally I think this type of behaviour, increases the chances of her cheating on a guy.
 

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I tried dating a girl with tattoos before and her lack of impulse control made me dump her. It was some stupid impulse control BS every week and she kept getting more tattoos. Tattoos are a huge red flag that screams lack of impulse control imho.
 

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Getting your body splattered with ink is the clear definition of lack of impulse control lol.
Women who have lots of tattoos and piercings have spent a lot of time around men who are not masculine but lack the control to say No, so instead they try to appear as masculine as possible in an attempt to intimidate lesser masculine men from ever asking in the first place.

Im not saying your a beta or something, I don't find it attractive either but that's the way I view it, tattoos and piercings are just masculine in nature, you look at the women who don't have any at all, they ALWAYS have some hyper aggressive masculine presence in their life.
 

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Is there a Coleration between a girl lacking impulse control & cheating?
Lack of impulse control is rooted how they view time.

Those with "high time preference" tend to be unable to "feel" how actions today will play out in the future.

Those with "low time preference" tend to much more "feel" how actions today will play out in the future.

So yeah, low time preference, inability to delay gratification, lack of impulse control, "yolo" type living, all add up to a bad choice for a long term partner.
 

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Personally I think this type of behaviour, increases the chances of her cheating on a guy.

No, you guys dont think far enough with this .....

the point is, while they may lack impulse control, that lack of impulse control also leads to ending relationships in an impulsive way.

Meaning, it will be a lot less unlikely to find an impulsive woman in an unsatisfying relationship compared to a woman that tends to overthink everything and is scared of decisions (to end a relationship f.e.).


The women that have been openly cheating with me on their boyfriends have all been without or with no ink worth speaking of.
 

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I think (lack of) character plays a much larger role than lack of impulse control in cheating. Cheating doesn't just happen. It's not an accident, it's either premeditated over a longer period of time (for instance with a work colleague) or at the very least she deliberately places herself in a situation where there's an increased likelihood of it happening (for instance ONS after getting drunk in a nightclub).
 

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No, you guys dont think far enough with this .....

the point is, while they may lack impulse control, that lack of impulse control also leads to ending relationships in an impulsive way.

Meaning, it will be a lot less unlikely to find an impulsive woman in an unsatisfying relationship compared to a woman that tends to overthink everything and is scared of decisions (to end a relationship f.e.).


The women that have been openly cheating with me on their boyfriends have all been without or with no ink worth speaking of.
I can definitely confirm this. My ex had many impulsive traits.

One time over a disagreement, she disrespected me & my reaction was to walk away quietly.

Her reaction to me walking away, was sending me a text message ENDING the relationship. I agreed with the break up.

The following morning, begins blowing up my phone wanting to talk to me. Sending me a text asking to talk to her, as she doesn't want to lose me.

This is exactly the definition of lack of impulse control, that causes massive damage to a relationship, then Peddling back on your decision.
 

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I think (lack of) character plays a much larger role than lack of impulse control in cheating. Cheating doesn't just happen. It's not an accident, it's either premeditated over a longer period of time (for instance with a work colleague) or at the very least she deliberately places herself in a situation where there's an increased likelihood of it happening (for instance ONS after getting drunk in a nightclub).
Yes impulsive behaviour can be like the example I gave you.

Getting drunk at a barbeque, not having control over herself in the moment, and in an intoxicated state, she ends up sucking Tyrone's dik.
 

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Tattoos, especially the bigger pieces, require dedication and commitment. Just because you fvcked a flake with a tramp stamp doesn't mean all tattooed women lack impulse control.
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Although I'm pretty sure this woman here would have difficulty suppressing the impulse to kick your ass for your disrespect.
Maybe should have taken off her undercrackers first :rofl:
 
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Tell her a little about yourself, but not too much. Maintain some mystery. Give her something to think about and wonder about when she's at home.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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Getting your body splattered with ink is the clear definition of lack of impulse control lol.
What if you thought for months about each tat before you got it? That's not impulsive thinking. Maybe lack of long term thinking, but not impulsive.
 

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Is there a Coleration between a girl lacking impulse control & cheating?
The correlation between cheating and lack of impulse control has been proven hundreds of times. It's a common topic in psychological studies. All about that instant gratification.

If you ever want to understand men and women better, start reading psychologytoday.com.
 

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Is there a Coleration between a girl lacking impulse control & cheating?

Let's say for example she goes to visit a friend & ends up getting drunk.

She gets invited to a barbeque & ends up getting drunk.

She suddenly decides to get another tattoo or a another piercing.

She might have a permiscues past, which is more likely due to her having a lack of self control to some degree & ending up having sex with Chad.

Personally I think this type of behaviour, increases the chances of her cheating on a guy.
If you're not giving your WHOLE self to a woman, she is more likely to cheat. She needs to FEEL your love.
Its the famous old line, if you dont give a woman something, she will go looking for it elsewhere. Attention likely being the main one.

There is a sexy new cleaner woman im working with. Just me and her alone in the building on a nighttime for a hour or so. I have a feeling that if i gave her a cuddle, that could lead to a kiss, then.....well my mind might think....if you have kissed her...why not strip her off to see those nice boobs. Find out what she looks like naked. Nature is smarter than people think. Hundreds of times i have told myself i wouldnt have sex...but when i start kissing and cuddling, nature takes over.
If things were GREAT with me and my GF i wouldnt be asking or thinking of asking cleaner if she would like a cuddle. Thats why i advise if you dont want your wife gf to cheat...you have to give her YOU. Your attention. Listen to her. Treat her well. Or someone else will.
 

It doesn't matter how good-looking you are, how romantic you are, how funny you are... or anything else. If she doesn't have something INVESTED in you and the relationship, preferably quite a LOT invested, she'll dump you, without even the slightest hesitation, as soon as someone a little more "interesting" comes along.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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If you're not giving your WHOLE self to a woman, she is more likely to cheat. She needs to FEEL your love.
Its the famous old line, if you dont give a woman something, she will go looking for it elsewhere. Attention likely being the main one.

There is a sexy new cleaner woman im working with. Just me and her alone in the building on a nighttime for a hour or so. I have a feeling that if i gave her a cuddle, that could lead to a kiss, then.....well my mind might think....if you have kissed her...why not strip her off to see those nice boobs. Find out what she looks like naked. Nature is smarter than people think. Hundreds of times i have told myself i wouldnt have sex...but when i start kissing and cuddling, nature takes over.
If things were GREAT with me and my GF i wouldnt be asking or thinking of asking cleaner if she would like a cuddle. Thats why i advise if you dont want your wife gf to cheat...you have to give her YOU. Your attention. Listen to her. Treat her well. Or someone else will.
Not sure I agree with you there.

Giving your WHOLE self to a girl, might actually be the one thing, that would push her towards cheating.

It's keeping her highly attracted to you, that is likely to stop her from cheating, not simply giving your everything and all your attention to her.

Giving less of your time/attention is more likely to keep her interested in the long run.
 

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Not sure I agree with you there.

Giving your WHOLE self to a girl, might actually be the one thing, that would push her towards cheating.

It's keeping her highly attracted to you, that is likely to stop her from cheating, not simply giving your everything and all your attention to her.

Giving less of your time/attention is more likely to keep her interested in the long run.
Agree yes, that has been my philosopy, be a mystery, if a woman knows everything about you, she will bored etc etc.

With this woman, she knows everything about me and loves me for it. I feel I can do no wrong. I know everything about her too.
 

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Agree yes, that has been my philosopy, be a mystery, if a woman knows everything about you, she will bored etc etc.

With this woman, she knows everything about me and loves me for it. I feel I can do no wrong. I know everything about her too.
But she treats you like garbage.
 

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But she treats you like garbage.
Fair point. She is a daddys girl. He described her as Lovely and will do anything for anyone, but has an evil side.

End of the day. She can turn very nasty behind closed doors. She shows me so much love and DOES treat me like her king! I have explained a few times on this forum...i'm not marrying this girl..im enjoying the ride. Majority of people tell me to show her the door. Thats fine.

Every single woman is different. I still do beleive though that once in a relationship you definatley have to show more of the REAL you. She will find out who you ARE anyway when she is living with you. You have to show her you care and give her your PRESENCE. If she thinks you dont care, she will find someone who does. Period.
 
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