FML I’m gonna miss the best time of year to meet women again

[needimprovement250]

So I made a thread about this awhile ago and SW15 confirmed it with some data points that break down the best and worst months for meeting women and the months that comprise fall were seen as some of the best months to meet women. I came to this conclusion myself before I ever posted that thread and wanted to see what everybody else’s opinions were. Not only is that the time of year when women will cuff a guy for the holidays, but there’s also plenty of good date options like pumpkin patches, Oktoberfest events, Halloween haunted houses and parties, and that’s before any of the Christmas things start.

From the start of this year, I was hoping to get started with dating once September starts and had goals for myself to get ready for that, but of course life had to throw a wrench in that. I was going back to school and completed 2 classes along with doing DoorDash to pay for school and whatever else I needed, but then my account got hacked and DoorDash told me to delete it and start a new one, only for them to not allow me to create a new account because somehow my identity couldn’t be verified for my new account and they’ve rejected my appeals (I’m still fighting with them to get back on there) but that income loss completely wrecked my financial standing and now I’m living off my credit card and paycheck to paycheck as well. I ended up going back to my seasonal job that I’ve done for the past 8 years and during the work season, my grandma had a health emergency and that has upended everything.

Once that happened, nearly all of my remaining goals got derailed. I was planning on taking some on campus classes at a community college this semester in addition to moving further with my fitness goals and start dating next month, but my grandma’s care and recovery requirements has caused some people in my family to put their lives on hold. Whenever I’m not working at my seasonal job, my family expects me to be at home with my grandma at all times and has greatly limited my freedom to live my life and do anything for myself. On a side note, Corrector was right when he told me before that if something like this happened, my family would probably look at me as the one to be a caregiver since I don’t have my life together. This is why they didn’t expect this of my sister who’s engaged and has her career fully established. When this happened, a few of my family members wanted and were expecting me to move in with my grandma and be her full time caregiver, and zero expectations were being placed on my sister. I pushed back on this and said that while I am willing to help out, I will not have my life be disrupted in such a way.

Hopefully I can still try and get things back on track despite all of this.

 

[SW15]

The 12 Months and How They Relate To Dating and Relationships - Alpha Male 2.0

I’ve spoken at length at this blog and in my books that certain times of the year are good for dating and meeting new women, and bad. Also, certain months are good for relationships while others are more risky or problematic for relationships. Today I...

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The best part of the year for forming new relationships is between January 2 - April 30. May is still somewhat good and September-October are also somewhat good. It would be more upsetting to miss the January-April period for some reason (think injury/major surgery) than missing September-October.

September-October is a good option for those ending the summer with a need to get prospects. In an ideal world, a seducer uses January - April/May to line up prospects that last for a while. There are times that a breakup can happen in summer, but 2/3rd of breakups/divorce filings are in November - March.

November 15 - January 1 is the worst period to try to get new prospects. The only really good option during that period is social circle game with private residence parties. Swipe apps and approaching strangers can be tough during that time. The biggest problem with trying to start a new interaction during that time are family obligations. Lots of women tend to have family obligations and travel that get in the way of socializing. Women that have family within 50 miles are the best bets you can find during this period.

A man can get laid and start something new at any time of the year. The issue is that it is most difficult at certain periods of year, like the November 15 - January 1 period. That six week dead zone can be awful without having some solid prospects in the rotation.

Also, you need to have your penis game on point. You've had PIED issues. No porn, no masturbation. That's way more important than anything you wrote about here.

 

[needimprovement250]

It would be more upsetting to miss the January-April period for some reason (think injury/major surgery) than missing September-October.

Maybe I should aim for that period then. Its a shame though because I enjoy all of the fall and Christmas things that I named and I thought it would be fun to have a girl with me for them, but the odds are that won’t be the case this year, maybe next year.

Also, you need to have your penis game on point. You've had PIED issues. No porn, no masturbation. That's way more important than anything you wrote about here.

That I completely agree with. I’ve come to realize that a lot of my addiction is also chemical because unlike a lot of longtime porn addicts, I can actually still get off to just an Instagram photo or even my own imagination with no porn whatsoever. That has shown me that I’ve become addicted to the dopamine release from masturbation and that needs to be taken into account when trying to recover from this. I know that the PIED is all psychological and that’s what is frustrating because I don’t have this problem with masturbation, only real partners. I wonder if talking to a psychologist who specializes in sexuality would help. In addition to doing no porn no masturbation of course.