Are you actually attracted to the women you're having sex with?

[Parallelophone]

Just about every lesson in Don Juanning/pick up artistry comes to this point: Go somewhere where there are women you'd like to have sex with. Case the joint, prepare yourself for some pick up artistry. But here's the thing: I'm not finding any women I'd like to have sex with. Not in my actual daily life, anyway. I hear people talking about "There's this cute cashier, I'm gonna try her." I've maybe seen one truly ****able cashier in my entire life. Yes, I've been to the nightclubs and bars. I wouldn't **** any of those women.

But you guys (allegedly) are closing multiple deals. And I gotta wonder why. I congratulate you and I hope that you're happy, but I feel like maybe the vast majority of men here aren't actually attracted to the women they're having sex with. Not really. If I had to ask you, I feel like you'd say "I do it to scratch a biological itch I have as a man. They're not supermodels, but now and then a man needs to **** in order to pursue what really matters." Or you might say "I'm a narcissist and what makes me feel good isn't getting to have sex with women I'm attracted to, but being such a cool guy that I was able to get this many women to have sex with me. I'm attracted simply to the idea of being a Don Juan."

I'd like to be proven wrong. But what I'd REALLY like is to find women I'm attracted to. Because I dunno about you guys, but being free of the "distraction" of women has not been liberating. I just feel empty inside.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

Pretty face. Nice body. Not too weird. Fertile. I'm attracted.

 

[Parallelophone]

How come I didn't get an alert for @Hamurabimbi posting in my thread?

 

[Hamurabimbi]

How come I didn't get an alert for @Hamurabimbi posting in my thread?

I've noticed I haven't been getting any alerts either.

 

[Parallelophone]

I've noticed I haven't been getting any alerts either.

See, I got a notice for you quoting me, but not for you posting in this thread. Even though I'm Watching this thread and I have alerts turned on.

EDIT: I got a notice for this reaction too.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

Just about every lesson in Don Juanning/pick up artistry comes to this point: Go somewhere where there are women you'd like to have sex with. Case the joint, prepare yourself for some pick up artistry. But here's the thing: I'm not finding any women I'd like to have sex with. Not in my actual daily life, anyway. I hear people talking about "There's this cute cashier, I'm gonna try her." I've maybe seen one truly ****able cashier in my entire life. Yes, I've been to the nightclubs and bars. I wouldn't **** any of those women.

Sounds like you're not going to the places where women are that you're attracted to. Have you tried other locations?

But you guys (allegedly) are closing multiple deals. And I gotta wonder why. I congratulate you and I hope that you're happy, but I feel like maybe the vast majority of men here aren't actually attracted to the women they're having sex with. Not really.

I don't know about you, but I wouldn't have sex with a woman I'm not attracted to. And I think that goes for most members here, although they may have different standards of what they consider attractive.

I'd like to be proven wrong. But what I'd REALLY like is to find women I'm attracted to. Because I dunno about you guys, but being free of the "distraction" of women has not been liberating. I just feel empty inside.

You're not 'free of the distraction', because you're still craving intimacy. I think you're 'gaming' in the wrong locations, instead of connecting with cute attractive women. But then, I have no idea where you live. Here in Amsterdam I'm surrounded by attractive women.

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

Beauty is subjective, as I’ve seen multiple times here when someone posts a picture of a gal they think is a hard 9 I’d think “glad he thinks so that’s a 6.5”. Do I mention it? Nope, because if she is to him that’s what matters, I’m not trying to get in her pants.

Men who aren’t finding success with women are always looking for an external force for their failures, instead of looking inwards which is most likely the cause of their failures with women. They say “well is X is sleeping with 4 women a week they must all be land whales” it’s such a common reaction here it’s cliché. You cannot fathom the idea that anyone else is better than you so they must be lying or dumpster diving.

Why would you give a rats arse who I’m sticking my cawk into? You shouldn’t, do what makes YOU happy, and fack the naysayers.

Find out why you’re not attracted, keep a journal after you go out write objectively about why someone isn’t attractive to you, then compile the data and look for patterns. You probably are torpedoing yourself.

Maybe you have ridiculously high standards again that’s you and your choices. If the venues you frequent do not contain females that attract you find out where the ones that do hang out and go there.

You’re going to see different people at Best Western than you do at the Four Seasons…but there’s a barrier to entry there, if you want what’s available there find a way in.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

I never 'rate' women, I merely divide them into 'attractive' and 'not attractive'.

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

Call it whatever you want, the advice stands.

I never 'rate' women, I merely divide them into 'attractive' and 'not attractive'.

 

[manfrombelow]

In the past, when I was attracted to a certain woman, it meant I would let her consume my thoughts, aka simping over her. Now? I'm no longer attracted to a woman once I've done fvcking her the third time. Don't know if this is healthy longterm or not, but at least no simping from me to any chicks anymore.

 

[CornbreadFed]

My rule of thumb is that if you lead your post with she’s a hb9 or something then she’s not very attractive.

 

[Gamisch]

Just about every lesson in Don Juanning/pick up artistry comes to this point: Go somewhere where there are women you'd like to have sex with. Case the joint, prepare yourself for some pick up artistry. But here's the thing: I'm not finding any women I'd like to have sex with. Not in my actual daily life, anyway. I hear people talking about "There's this cute cashier, I'm gonna try her." I've maybe seen one truly ****able cashier in my entire life. Yes, I've been to the nightclubs and bars. I wouldn't **** any of those women.

But you guys (allegedly) are closing multiple deals. And I gotta wonder why. I congratulate you and I hope that you're happy, but I feel like maybe the vast majority of men here aren't actually attracted to the women they're having sex with. Not really. If I had to ask you, I feel like you'd say "I do it to scratch a biological itch I have as a man. They're not supermodels, but now and then a man needs to **** in order to pursue what really matters." Or you might say "I'm a narcissist and what makes me feel good isn't getting to have sex with women I'm attracted to, but being such a cool guy that I was able to get this many women to have sex with me. I'm attracted simply to the idea of being a Don Juan."

I'd like to be proven wrong. But what I'd REALLY like is to find women I'm attracted to. Because I dunno about you guys, but being free of the "distraction" of women has not been liberating. I just feel empty inside.

Welcome to the game.

I have a few theories why this happens to you. Firstly, we as men are hunters. Every hunter in nature will have a build in weakness for weakness. If our prey is weak, we will look at this as an opportunity. Think about the robber who is in jail now. He robbed an old lady at night, purely based on the moment; night time, nobody around, weak opponent.

Same with "weak" women. So you might smell the weakness, but a weak woman = low quality.

At some point you are like a hungry man shopping in a grocery store with almost nothing but empty shelves. If there's a nasty dried out loaf of bread , you'll be HAPPY to take it. Vs shopping in a high end store where there have everything jn store, BUT its rather expensive...it takes time, effort and patience to get some. If it's even affordable for you right now..

I can talk about this all day long. Let me start by this for now. Your desperation drives you, and unfortunately for you it's stronger than your patience.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

I never 'rate' women, I merely divide them into 'attractive' and 'not attractive'.

I have a 0-3 rating
0=invisible
1= I’d talk to her if she initiated.
2= I’d talk to her if she was in my immediate vicinity
3=I’d walk to the other side of the club to talk to her.

 

[Dr.Suave]

If I wasnt attracted, I wouldnt be able to "rise" to the ocassion.

 

[The Duke]

Years ago when I was still learning game I banged a few that i was only somewhat attracted to. I needed experience and I was horny.

These days, I don't find most girls attractive. My standards have definitely increased over the years along with what I am capable of.

I've always found the best looking women at the higher end bars/lounges. Where ever there is money and nice things will be the best spot to find attractive women.

 

[AureliusMaximus]

Are you actually attracted to the women you're having sex with?

I don´t touch anything that isn't pretty. It's called having personal standards.

All these guys that fvck anything that walk or swim like huge whales is disgusting and weak and I have no respect for it.

 

[CornbreadFed]

Years ago when I was still learning game I banged a few that i was only somewhat attracted to. I needed experience and I was horny.

I would recommend this for any guy struggling with women to get his engine running.

 

[AureliusMaximus]

Yes. I dont go below my 6. Its not healthy to fck girls that dont make you hard

I believe that too.
It is not mentally healthy for you.
If mess around with walruses, fat whales, freaks and ugly creatures it will crush your self confidence in the sense that you might start to believe that you can't get better options.

Not to mention the buyers remorse every time you do it and the heart attack in the morning waking up to that thing.

Regret is a nasty thing that you can never erase from your memory

 

[Solomon]

My rule of thumb is that if you lead your post with she’s a hb9 or something then she’s not very attractive.

I remember a guy once making a story about a girl who he was simping for claiming she was a 9, he posted the picture and the girl was a hard 4
Another guy was bragging about a girl being a 12 on here, saw the picture he private message me and she was a 6. LMFAO

A lot of guys here love to cap if you dealing with 9s regularly you wouldn't be on sosauve (let that sink in)

 

[Solomon]

I believe that too.
It is not mentally healthy for you.
If mess around with walruses, fat whales, freaks and ugly creatures it will crush your self confidence in the sense that you might start to believe that you can't get better options.

Not to mention the buyers remorse every time you do it and the heart attack in the morning waking up to that thing.

Regret is a nasty thing that you can never erase from your memory

Not gonna lie I've harpooned more than I care to admit but I noticed a pattern with those women I'm never sober