Having a girl do pictures/video

[anonymous12345]

I have this delicious plate but she doesn’t want pictures/video taken. We have great sech, good trust and connection (“When’s your birthday?”) but she’s a no no on the camera, which hence is a bit odd. It can be a question of trust — she do give signals on trust but also mentioned taking it slow with opening up which could spill onto that.

What is a good way to get a girl to like it?

I doubt “arguing”/discussing it is a good idea, but somehow it needs to be approached. My approach have been to simply pick up the phone, twice on different days, but she stopped. One way is to slowly move forward, normal pictures of her, me and us, and then gradually escalate. She’s h0rny as hell, so it’s odd. Other girls of mine have simply liked it. My guess is she needs to be more comfortable and this will solve itself over time.

How do you do it?

 

[Styr]

What do you need picture and videos for?

 

[anonymous12345]

What do you need picture and videos for?

Nothing in particular. I don't fap so I don't see such a purpose, for instance.

However, I am an amateur photographer and think and enjoy visually, so I see that aspect in it. I have consumed porn (long time ago but much), so that's a frame of reference for me. Though good question, enjoying her in person over and over is good. But yeah, I'd love to be able to revisit the media.

 

[Bokanovsky]

If thar woman asked me for dating advice and said that the guy she was banging persistently tried to take pictures and videos of her in the act, I would advise her to dump him immediately.

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

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This is the simple truth. If you allow yourself to be recorded or photographed in a personally identifiable way (tats, scars, face, or other identifying features), you are taking a chance. Everyone has heard about revenge porn. She's smart not to let you do it. Most women you have established trust with will allow it, even if they have never done it before. In some ways, it is a litmus test of how much a woman trusts you. If you behave impeccably insofar as honor and integrity are concerned, it is easy to get consent.

Personally, I never ask; I do - hasn't failed yet. I usually plant a seed in the woman's mind about it before trying to test the waters...and proceed accordingly.

As to why I do it? Because I want to.

p.s. I consider the media I have taken to be inviolate, it is for me and me only, and I have never broken this trust. Anything I have shared I have been told specifically that it was allowed, or the video/pics are shot in a way that makes it simply impossible to identify the actors.

 

[EyeBRollin]

Take pictures of other women. Appreciate that this girl is not a camera whvre.

I am still skeptical however. She might have a boyfriend. Or a husband.

 

[Smooth_texter]

OP, I think that @Pierce.Manhammer has summarized it well. In short, if she's attracted and comfortable enough - she will send you herself, unsolicited.

In addition to that, don't ask her more than 1-2 times, because that would come off as needy, and elevate her SMV and decrease yours in her eyes.

 

[The Duke]

I'd give this girl a few points for not going along with the idea. She has a little more value than the other women because it's a part of herself she holds sacred. Probably doesnt trust you enough either.

Is it really that important to you?

 

[BackInTheGame78]

It means she has someone else in the picture.... someone she doesn't want to know or have evidence that could end up on social media.

You are her "hideaway".

But I am betting you already know that deep down, you just don't want to admit it.

 

[johnrambo]

I have this delicious plate but she doesn’t want pictures/video taken.

Are we talking about pics/videos in compromising situations?

 

[Serenity]

Depending on her stance on it she either doesn't trust you enough with it or she will never do it regardless of trust level. If it's the former your best bet is patience and not pushing her for it. If it's the latter there's nothing you can do. At this point you can't know which one it is, so you have a choice to accept her, knowing it might never happen or move on. You also choose when to face this decision, how long you want to wait.

Super unhelpful, I know, but I'm not a wizard.

 

[anonymous12345]

I'd give this girl a few points for not going along with the idea. She has a little more value than the other women because it's a part of herself she holds sacred. Probably doesnt trust you enough either.

Is it really that important to you?

No. Might be a little bit.

Are we talking about pics/videos in compromising situations?

;-)

It means she has someone else in the picture.... someone she doesn't want to know or have evidence that could end up on social media.

You are her "hideaway".

But I am betting you already know that deep down, you just don't want to admit it.

That was a quick and dramatic interpretation. My answer: I don't know. I don't think she had someone steady before she met me. It's a really good connection and she's onto me in many ways. It's still early, time will tell. I have the gut feeling she's an experienced girl and considering how attractive she is she can get swept away during a weekend by someone else. A bit of daddy issues perhaps, bonds strongly to me, although I look 29.

Depending on her stance on it she either doesn't trust you enough with it or she will never do it regardless of trust level. If it's the former your best bet is patience and not pushing her for it. If it's the latter there's nothing you can do. At this point you can't know which one it is, so you have a choice to accept her, knowing it might never happen or move on. You also choose when to face this decision, how long you want to wait.

I think this is a good overview.

No ring yet, to put it that way. I keep approaching.

One of those demanding things to live with as a man is that you only have yourself.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

No. Might be a little bit.



;-)



That was a quick and dramatic interpretation. My answer: I don't know. I don't think she had someone steady before she met me. It's a really good connection and she's onto me in many ways. It's still early, time will tell. I have the gut feeling she's an experienced girl and considering how attractive she is she can get swept away during a weekend by someone else. A bit of daddy issues perhaps, bonds strongly to me, although I look 29.



I think this is a good overview.

No ring yet, to put it that way. I keep approaching.

One of those demanding things to live with as a man is that you only have yourself.

It's my take based on personal experience. I WAS her in the male form. With someone but dating around and one of the things I made sure of is there was no social media trace of me with other women anywhere to be found.

I would bet quite a bit of money she is as well.

 

[corrector]

It means she has someone else in the picture.... someone she doesn't want to know or have evidence that could end up on social media.

You are her "hideaway".

But I am betting you already know that deep down, you just don't want to admit it.

Or she might just have a nosey ex.

 

[Luni]

It means she has someone else in the picture.... someone she doesn't want to know or have evidence that could end up on social media.

You are her "hideaway".

But I am betting you already know that deep down, you just don't want to admit it.

ouch

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

Or she might just have a nosey ex.

How are you qualified to participate in this thread?

 

[Hal9000]

Been with a couple of girls who wanted to take pics/videos constantly and I thought it was a pain in the ###. I have no problem imagining a woman not having any interest in you possessing intimate pics/vids of her since there's a 99% chance you will break up at some point.

 

[johnrambo]

Been with a couple of girls who wanted to take pics/videos constantly and I thought it was a pain in the ###. I have no problem imagining a woman not having any interest in you possessing intimate pics/vids of her since there's a 99% chance you will break up at some point.

No I think the OP wants to take videos/pics in compromising situations