Dealing with playing hard-to-get

[sceneparade]

Recently I got talking to a woman. I noticed that she became interested when I talked about my ambition, qualifications and career progress. She turned her body towards me and, at some point, put her hand on my thigh above the knee. We spoke for about an hour.

Then, I had to go meet a trainee of mine and told her I needed to go outside and wait for my trainee to come back from his driving test. She then told me she would come and wait with me. So as we were waiting for my trainee, I said something and she lightly punched me in the arm.

Later on, when we arrived at a depot, after I followed her, because she knew the way, she asked me if I was going home, to which I told her yes. She then asked me to go with her to drop her trainee off with the training manager. We then both came back down together.

On the way to our cars, I told her she had a nice car (GLE Mercedes), to which she said she had seen me in my blacked out BMW.

At this point, I asked her to put her number in my phone and and she did. She then dropped called mine so that I have hers.

In the evening, I contacted her about work-related stuff. We were texting back and forth a few times. She told me she can't believe we had not talked before except hello/goodbye on passing, as we got on well. So I told her I would have spoken sooner, but I was a little introverted. She did not respond.

The next morning, I parked up two rows behind where she was parked. As I walked towards her passenger window she wound it down to start talking to me. She then said for me to wait a moment while she reverses her car next to mine. We then spoke for a while and went to work.

I have texted her and she responds within a few minutes, but then stops just as she did the day before.

So, I need advice on what to do next? Is she playing hard-to-get or is she not interested? Do I go back to before with a hello on passing and that is it?

Thanks

 

[BillyPilgrim]

So do you work together or what?

 

[sceneparade]

So do you work together or what?

Different companies at the same site.

 

[sceneparade]

I think I should go back to being polite but showing no attention. In other words, hello and goodbye.

Is that the right approach until she shows more interest?

 

[Dr.Suave]

Bro, dont say fag stuff like "Im introverted". What she hears is "Im insecure af and put women on a pedestal. I dont deserve your poozy" and her poozy dries off, so she stops responding.

Then you go on and on over text forever, never escalating or asking her out, never leading or taking charge like a man. This again, dries her poozy. She was clearly attracted to you before when she put your her on your leg and punched you in the arm; you were doing great so far. Maybe you can still save this or maybe you already messed up too much.

 

[sceneparade]

Bro, dont say fag stuff like "Im introverted". What she hears is "Im insecure af and put women on a pedestal. I dont deserve your poozy" and her poozy dries off, so she stops responding.

Then you go on and on over text forever, never escalating or asking her out, never leading or taking charge like a man. This again, dries her poozy. She was clearly attracted to you before when she put your her on your leg and punched you in the arm; you were doing great so far. Maybe you can still save this or maybe you already messed up too much.

I asked her out for coffee and she said "aww thank you"

Whenever she sees me she waves or wants to chat. Shall I go back to before where I gave no attention apart from hello? What shall I do now?

 

[Dr.Suave]

I asked her out for coffee and she said "aww thank you"

Attention *****. Soft Next

 

[BackInTheGame78]

How about you stop worrying about trying to talk to her via text and just ask her out on a date and talk to her face to face.

EDIT: saw you already did and she brushed you off.

Stop giving her free attention, it won't get you laid. She isn't interested.

The thing that costs men the most when working to build a pipeline is getting stuck on women like this who waste your time but give you nothing to show for it...basically they are Lucy's...you know, like how Lucy holds the football for Charlie Brown and he takes a running head start but right when he goes to kick it she pulls the ball away and he falls flat on his back after trying to kick thin air?

Stop wasting time with Lucy's and spend the time you are wasting on her on getting new women, new contacts and new dates.

 

[sceneparade]

Attention *****. Soft Next

Sorry, I mean I said I would buy her a coffee. Basically, I said I would buy her a coffee in the morning at work.

 

[The Duke]

Her interest isn't high enough to go out with you. But she sure likes the free attention you are providing her. Find someone else.

 

[sceneparade]

How about you stop worrying about trying to talk to her via text and just ask her out on a date and talk to her face to face.

EDIT: saw you already did and she brushed you off.

Stop giving her free attention, it won't get you laid. She isn't interested.

The thing that costs men the most when working to build a pipeline is getting stuck on women like this who waste your time but give you nothing to show for it...basically they are Lucy's...you know, like how Lucy holds the football for Charlie Brown and he takes a running head start but right when he goes to kick it she pulls the ball away and he falls flat on his back after trying to kick thin air?

Stop wasting time with Lucy's and spend the time you are wasting on her on getting new women, new contacts and new dates.

I have asked another girl out and she did agree. She is away at the moment. But when she gets back, we are going Thorpe Park for a fun date.

 

[sceneparade]

Her interest isn't high enough to go out with you. But she sure likes the free attention you are providing her. Find someone else.

So in future, when I see her and she winds down the window on her car to speak, or just stops me to talk, shall I just make an excuse to leave after a simple how are you etc. and then eject?

 

[BackInTheGame78]

I have asked another girl out and she did agree. She is away at the moment. But when she gets back, we are going Thorpe Park for a fun date.

Ok now keep going. Don't stop at one. Find two more and ask them out. You need to have multiple irons in the fire, don't stop just cause you have one date set up.

Then once you go on that date, no matter how it goes, your goal should be to go on at least two more with different women before seeing her again if there is a second date in store.

That's how you build a pipeline and make good decisions with women. When you only have one option that option will look far better than it actually is if you had more options.

 

[sceneparade]

Ok now keep going. Don't stop at one. Find two more and ask them out. You need to have multiple irons in the fire, don't stop just cause you have one date set up.

Then once you go on that date, no matter how it goes, your goal should be to go on at least two more with different women before seeing her again if there is a second date in store.

That's how you build a pipeline and make good decisions with women. When you only have one option that option will look far better than it actually is if you had more options.

Okay. Question. What if said woman sees me with date woman? We will meet each other. Fact!

 

[Styr]

Okay. Question. What if said woman sees me with date woman? We will meet each other. Fact!

Good. Let her see you with other women. It makes you appear to be in higher demand. now you just have to escalate from there.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Okay. Question. What if said woman sees me with date woman? We will meet each other. Fact!

And? Say hi and keep it moving.

 

[MatureDJ]

Eh, if she wants your peepee in her, she'll make it happen; it sounds like she isn't all that interested.

 

[SmoothSmooth]

There’s no such thing as hard to get. Think about it logically. How do you know she wants you to ‘get’ her - unless your penis has been inside her yet you cannot claim she wants you to get her - you are projecting your hope onto her. Girls do this all the time to men because they use our lust against us.
A girl that wants you will make it easy.

In seduction it is the man’s role to play hard to get. Think rockstar -> groupie dynamic

 

[sceneparade]

There’s no such thing as hard to get. Think about it logically. How do you know she wants you to ‘get’ her - unless your penis has been inside her yet you cannot claim she wants you to get her - you are projecting your hope onto her. Girls do this all the time to men because they use our lust against us.
A girl that wants you will make it easy.

In seduction it is the man’s role to play hard to get. Think rockstar -> groupie dynamic

So let's say it all goes well with either girl. How do I play hard to get? When would I play hard to get?

 

[We_ArE_VeNOM]

So, I need advice on what to do next? Is she playing hard-to-get or is she not interested? Do I go back to before with a hello on passing and that is it?

Thanks

Mode One is a great way to tell if she is/isn't interested.

That will answer all of your questions.