Deceptive Shady Practices by Bumble Dating App

[Slowhandluke]

The dating apps business model is to sell a problem not a solution

Dating apps don't make money if you form long term relationships. More and more men are leaving dating apps... Only the chads remain. Pretty soon, like speed dating, and single events; dating apps will need to pay men to show up. There's just so many chads to go around. After a while, women will notice that they are dating the same guys over and over again (and getting pumped and dumped)... and they will slowly leave dating apps.

In the future, to bring back the women, they have to bring back the guys. Average guys are walking away. Dating apps in the future will have to figure out how to make money -- without alienating men which ultimately will alienate the women.

https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverthirty/comments/11tiyyp

 

[I_have_BDE]

Dating apps don't make money if you form long term relationships. More and more men are leaving dating apps... Only the chads remain. Pretty soon, like speed dating, and single events; dating apps will need to pay men to show up. There's just so many chads to go around. After a while, women will notice that they are dating the same guys over and over again (and getting pumped and dumped)... and they will slowly leave dating apps.

In the future, to bring back the women, they have to bring back the guys. Average guys are walking away. Dating apps in the future will have to figure out how to make money -- without alienating men which ultimately will alienate the women.

https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverthirty/comments/11tiyyp

Those match events are a joke from what ive read. Lame activities and usually like 5 women and 7 guys will show up if lucky. Guys are socially awkward and the women are also odd or quiet. Just going off what someone posted on here before.

If you're socially normal and hopefully there is a cute and shy chick there it might be a lot easier hitting it off and better odds than old.

Someone mentioned fb singles groups to go out with. Around here the singles groups is mostly older folks and they're fat and socially inept looking and ugly. I wouldn't want to be seen in public with those people.

 

[Bingo-Player]

Someone mentioned fb singles groups to go out with. Around here the singles groups is mostly older folks and they're fat and socially inept looking and ugly. I wouldn't want to be seen in public with those people.

The FB social groups in my area are exactly that socially awkward middle aged people that are overweight and lonely

 

[Gamisch]

You don't understand, it's not worth it for me to learn cold approach and I have no way of meeting women naturally. I got both of these things working against me

Nah man. You're 27, in ten or even 20years you WILL regret this statement.

I've read your posts and I know how you feel about C approach. Yet, imo you glorify and thus fear (pedestalize ) the concept way too much.

You as a man are ALWAYS "allowed " to try to get women. Talk, smile, say hi, dance with them ect . Each man decides for himself how he makes this work.

Eventually the chasing of women is like any other activity we fear untill we've done it. Once you're actively doing it you'll notice that it much more "natural " than you'd think, and women are way more receptive to us than we think they are .

 

[I_have_BDE]

The FB social groups in my area are exactly that socially awkward middle aged people that are overweight and lonely

Usually their meetups are going out to eat weekly.

 

[BergischerLöwe]

Nah man. You're 27, in ten or even 20years you WILL regret this statement.

I've read your posts and I know how you feel about C approach. Yet, imo you glorify and thus fear (pedestalize ) the concept way too much.

You as a man are ALWAYS "allowed " to try to get women. Talk, smile, say hi, dance with them ect . Each man decides for himself how he makes this work.

Eventually the chasing of women is like any other activity we fear untill we've done it. Once you're actively doing it you'll notice that it much more "natural " than you'd think, and women are way more receptive to us than we think they are .

Even if I was more comfortable with cold approach I wouldn't have any more success than what I see swiping on apps tho

 

[SW15]

Those match events are a joke from what ive read. Lame activities and usually like 5 women and 7 guys will show up if lucky. Guys are socially awkward and the women are also odd or quiet. Just going off what someone posted on here before.

If you're socially normal and hopefully there is a cute and shy chick there it might be a lot easier hitting it off and better odds than old.

Someone mentioned fb singles groups to go out with. Around here the singles groups is mostly older folks and they're fat and socially inept looking and ugly. I wouldn't want to be seen in public with those people.

We have a thread about this.....

Are Structured Singles Events a Waste of Time?

Mostly every unattached person has dealt with this. The potential invitation to a "singles event" or "singles mixer". It is a chance for unattached people to meet. It's not a general night out at a bar, which has unattached people interspersed with attached people. Everyone here is unattached by...

www.sosuave.net

You don't understand, it's not worth it for me to learn cold approach and I have no way of meeting women naturally. I got both of these things working against me

Your options are approaching strangers, forming a social circle, or swiping on apps/sending random DMs on Instagram.

You need to get over yourself and start approaching strangers. It's likely your best option of the 3 options you have.

The only way that you can have success on an app is if you are 6'0"+, fit/big muscles, and above average income. Since you're 27, it's better to play the looks game than the money/status game. You are a trust fund kid, so you could play money/status.

If you're going to base your game on sending DMs on Instagram, I hope you have more Followers than accounts you are Following. Women consider your Followers-Following ratio and your Followers quantity. Having 50 Followers while Following 30 accounts is a good ratio, but too low quantity to impress women. You would want at least 5,000 Followers with something like 2,000 Following. The more Followers, the more likely you can get responses to your DMs.

Also, your Instagram pictures, videos, and stories would have to be top notch too. You can't just buy 20,000 Followers and not post.

 

[I_have_BDE]

We have a thread about this.....

Are Structured Singles Events a Waste of Time?

Mostly every unattached person has dealt with this. The potential invitation to a "singles event" or "singles mixer". It is a chance for unattached people to meet. It's not a general night out at a bar, which has unattached people interspersed with attached people. Everyone here is unattached by...

www.sosuave.net

Your options are approaching strangers, forming a social circle, or swiping on apps/sending random DMs on Instagram.

You need to get over yourself and start approaching strangers. It's likely your best option of the 3 options you have.

The only way that you can have success on an app is if you are 6'0"+, fit/big muscles, and above average income. Since you're 27, it's better to play the looks game than the money/status game. You are a trust fund kid, so you could play money/status.

If you're going to base your game on sending DMs on Instagram, I hope you have more Followers than accounts you are Following. Women consider your Followers-Following ratio and your Followers quantity. Having 50 Followers while Following 30 accounts is a good ratio, but too low quantity to impress women. You would want at least 5,000 Followers with something like 2,000 Following. The more Followers, the more likely you can get responses to your DMs.

Also, your Instagram pictures, videos, and stories would have to be top notch too. You can't just buy 20,000 Followers and not post.

This is why you see women posting their links to instagram, facebook, and twitter everywhere. Even OLD. the rare times you see a "hot chick" on OLD and it's not a fake profile they have a link to instagram in order to beef their follower count up.

 

[BergischerLöwe]

Your options are approaching strangers, forming a social circle, or swiping on apps/sending random DMs on Instagram.

You need to get over yourself and start approaching strangers. It's likely your best option of the 3 options you have.

The only way that you can have success on an app is if you are 6'0"+, fit/big muscles, and above average income. Since you're 27, it's better to play the looks game than the money/status game. You are a trust fund kid, so you could play money/status.

If you're going to base your game on sending DMs on Instagram, I hope you have more Followers than accounts you are Following. Women consider your Followers-Following ratio and your Followers quantity. Having 50 Followers while Following 30 accounts is a good ratio, but too low quantity to impress women. You would want at least 5,000 Followers with something like 2,000 Following. The more Followers, the more likely you can get responses to your DMs.

Also, your Instagram pictures, videos, and stories would have to be top notch too. You can't just buy 20,000 Followers and not post.

Yes it is true that I'm a trust fund kid, but I don't really broadcast that to people and I'm not one of these bro trust fund kids going to EDM festivals and traveling around a lot. I live a fairly simple and uncomplicated life in the grand scheme of things. I've never mentioned to women that I have money since I don't want them to take advantage of that fact. If I play up the fact I have money, I'm more likely to attract women that are more shallow. I don't think approaching strangers is my best bet. It would take too long to learn and the returns would be no better than apps. I also don't really like going out much, most of the time the only times I ever went to bars in the past is when my band had a gig there.

I feel weird about the prospect of doing daygame in a public place, I feel like I'd get cancelled or shamed on the internet for doing it. People have tried to cancel me online before, but for a different reason. In college I very nearly got into a fight with a communist after I took down a flyer that the pipsqueak had just put up. I insulted him and told him something to the effect that communists weren't welcome in town and that they should fvck off, and then after exchanging insults back and forth he took a picture of me and posted it on social media and claimed I was a nazi and that I had physically attacked him. Both of these claims were of course baseless and untrue, and being German I took great offense to being called a nazi, especially since my German family members that were around back then suffered greatly under national socialist rule. In hindsight all of this was a pretty stupid thing for me to have done and I largely regret doing so, but I really hate communists and I wanted to let at least one of them know how I felt about their kind. Had it actually come to blows I would have snapped that kip dynamite lookin mf like a twig. At least the cops never got involved and the fgt who made the post ended up taking it down. I'm likely going off topic here but the point is that whole experience left a sour taste in my mouth and made me afraid of being named and shamed online like that again. With daygame I'm afraid some SJW will notice what I'm doing and cause a scene about it. Even if this fear is irrational, the experience of already being cancelled once has made me paranoid about it happening again.

Also, socially I'm fairly introverted and reserved and it takes me a long time to really warm up to people. Trying to approach women in public in any setting would just be too much for me. Any woman I approach would be able to sense the fact that I'd be uncomfortable and it would be off putting. Warm approach would be better but again I'm not in situations where I'd be able to actually do that. Social circle game also isn't ideal since I actually prefer to keep my social circle small and as an introvert with ADHD I often quite frankly just don't really have the energy to socialize very much. When I've wanted to I've been able to make friends naturally tho. For example, thru my time attending religious lectures at the temple I go to there's people there that I'm friends with now and the people all know me there and think well of me. I'm not really socially inept and the last time I was that socially awkward was when I was in middle school, but at the end of the day I'm an introvert and a homebody. I often think that if there's a girl out there for me she's probably at home smoking weed and listening to rock n roll just like I am, not going out all that much. So of course I don't find her in the end.