How do you establish a f-buddy Relationship without being a jerk?

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I recently have been hooking up with a girl
She is a cool kid and I want to continue sleeping with her, but, I don't really want a relationship.

What is the best way to establish that is is for sex only?

Is it a good move to never go on dates or coffee or anything like that?

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I recently have been hooking up with a girl
She is a cool kid and I want to continue sleeping with her, but, I don't really want a relationship.

What is the best way to establish that is is for sex only?

Is it a good move to never go on dates or coffee or anything like that?

Thanks
The goal here is to let the chick bring up whatever she wants to have or what her idea is. You don't want to bring up the subject of friends with benefits or f3uck buddies.

The best way to do it is to:

1. Keep inviting her over smash-rinse-repeat

2. Don't mention anything about being interested only in s3x some chicks will realize and will go along with it, some will bring the subject up just to clear things out. If that happens just tell her "I like what we have weekly, let's keep it at that." Don't open too many discussions unless the woman is experienced and knows what she wants. Then you can actually further discuss it.

3. Nothing wrong with going for drinks late in the night and then moving to your place to smash. Usually, it's best to do that every 2-3 weeks so they don't feel just like a piece of meat.

Just to give you an example I have one chick on rotation now that I bang weekly. She is highly experienced, crazy sexual chemistry we keep it light every single week meeting once.

The first meetup was for drinks of-course but since then I'm just inviting her straight over to my place.

She brought up the subject of "just sex" in a way and I further agreed upon since this is what i wanted. But the thing is she is experienced and she knows what she wants and I know what I want. This is the best example of a woman to find as it will be easy going without too much drama of what you and her are.

Hope this helps.
 

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Most of my FWB (Fvck bud) either wound up becoming GFs or wanted to. It seems most women actually want a relationship. Even if things just start as sex only.
The only true FBs I’ve had have been BJ related. Like a girl who had me come by her work once a week during her break so she could blow me in my car in the parking lot. Girls that have actual intercourse with you will develop a bond.
 
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Most of my FWB (Fvck bud) either wound up becoming GFs or wanted to. It seems most women actually want a relationship. Even if things just start as sex only.
This.

The main reason is once they start to get attached emotionally it's a downhill from there.

All though my last FWB i had years ago she was around 35 years old and I was younger at that time around 27 she never got attached. She knew how to actually control her emotions. Rare.
 

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Most of my FWB (Fvck bud) either wound up becoming GFs or wanted to. It seems most women actually want a relationship. Even if things just start as sex only.
The only true FBs I’ve had have been BJ related. Like a girl who had me come by her work once a week during her break so she could blow me in my car in the parking lot. Girls that have actual intercourse with you will develop a bond.
FWB in which the man dictates the rules basically means that the woman is in the friend zone. Her actual intentions are to lure you in an LTR.

I have not had an FWB with an easy break up due to this.
 

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This.

The main reason is once they start to get attached emotionally it's a downhill from there.

All though my last FWB i had years ago she was around 35 years old and I was younger at that time around 27 she never got attached. She knew how to actually control her emotions. Rare.
very rare
 

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Only seeing them once a week max is probably the best way

If you only have sex with them and don't do anything else you better be damn good at it
 

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Only seeing them once a week max is probably the best way

If you only have sex with them and don't do anything else you better be damn good at it
This is probably the best answer - ironically though you’re going to have the girl pining for you because you’re not focusing on her
 

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This is probably the best answer - ironically though you’re going to have the girl pining for you because you’re not focusing on her
That's what the in-between-rounds convo is for
 

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FWB in which the man dictates the rules basically means that the woman is in the friend zone. Her actual intentions are to lure you in an LTR.

I have not had an FWB with an easy break up due to this.
Good observation.

I've never slept with a woman who didn't try to lock me down, unless I tried to lock her down... There are basically two flavors: 1. I really want her or 2. I am just need to get my D wet and I have no other options.

Seems like the trick is to get with women you really want and yet PRETEND like they are real 5's to you. Extremely difficult to do, especially if only 2 outta 10 times you come across them. The other 8 will be constantly testing and checking " ,where you stand" with her. Lil' horny ol' me kept lying how much I liked them while I couldn't fecking stand being around them.

I geuss that being a jerk is actually the best way to establish fwb type of arrangements. If she complies, you'll be a jerk in her eyes anyway because you refuse to commit. If you do commit you become a nive guy and we know which place they'll finish..
 
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