Good day folks, I have been dating my girlfriend for 4 years and she has moved into my house, well everything everyone has said is true, it feels like my mum has moved in, constantly cleaning etc, constantly nagging, don't think he can keep it going, anyone been in this situation how did there girlfriend take the news? Andy
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Scaramouche
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Hi Andy,
Sadly you have created an insoluble situation...While you are still running the Ship...put her over the Side....It doesn't get easier and it will be a real test to see what you can retrieve,because she is not going to like it!...If it were done,best be done quickly!
Sadly you have created an insoluble situation...While you are still running the Ship...put her over the Side....It doesn't get easier and it will be a real test to see what you can retrieve,because she is not going to like it!...If it were done,best be done quickly!
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You are the sole master of your own destiny and you live with what you choose. You have to be honest with yourself and then with the others to make the world as you want it to be - for yourself. To put it simply, talk to her and set the boundaries extremely early on otherwise you will start to suffer in your most sacred place - your home.
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Girlfriend of four years is the bigger question.
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I don't get your post.
In a wider picture are you happy / in love with this girl or not?
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* me talking on OPs behalf**
***Yes, but its baffling how much she changed. Its like iam dealing with a completely different person..if if if I'd known this before ( which I SHOULD as I've read countless testimonies here and elsewhere) i wouldn't even try this..now I'm STUCk with this MONSTER. ***
You can't unthrow a stone, or unsay a word. You cant go back to "how things were". If you kick her out ,or I should say, tell her to take a step back,move out, so the relationship might survive, she'll detest you forever.
Really difficult. I'll think about this and respond later today again. Let me start by asking this: are you guys compatible when it comes to housekeeping, organizing and general lifestyle choices?
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Does she have reason to be doing that? Are you a closet slob? A person that presents himself well and the house well when people come over but normally let's it go?
You know...clothes on the floor, dishes in the sink for days, stuff left all over the place?
Trash not taken out and piled up in the corner?
This is why you don't let people move in that you are engaged to and planning on marrying. You've been dating her for four years, that's probably the thing bothering her more than any of the stuff at the house, she is just transferring that so she can express frustration. At this point if you don't plan on marrying her you are simply wasting her time.