Ex gf looks through my phone and texted other girls

[Luni]

You got what you deserved. We told you to block and ignore her but instead you were spending time with her in person.

You clearly don't want to learn anything of value here so I don't even know why you bother posting on the forum to be honest.

You simply want people to validate that it's OK to do whatever you are going to do anyway.

Well, well. There's history behind this? No pitty for OP..

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Well, well. There's history behind this? No pitty for OP..

The man has created many thread about 2 or 3 women and they are all the same. Toxic women who see OP as a target for them to use and then dump when he has served his purpose. OP acts needy and all he cares about is sex and no matter what they do or how badly they treat him, his self respect and dignity have no importance to him as long as he can figure out a way to continue getting sex from them. Honestly starting to think OP is some kind of sex addict and he uses it like a junkie uses drugs for a fix

OP hasn't learned anything and continue to make the same mistakes over and over again and does the opposite of what many have advised him to do. Why? Because he doesn't want help he wants people to make him feel better about what he is doing and tell them he is OK to do it. But, no, you aren't getting that here.

 

[CornbreadFed]

Why is your ex gf using your phone?

 

[Barrister]

OP, a few things:

1. Why are you continuing to hook up with an ex-girlfriend? You have been here long enough to know this ALWAYS leads to trouble in some way. It is always a guess in the how but it essentially always does without fail. In this case, she essentially sabotaged your entire rotation of plates and you will likely to need to replace all of them (although the more damaged ones may like this in some way). Ouch.

2. Never allow a woman access to your phone in any way. Period, end of story. And yours is a harsh lesson in why you don't use the facial recognition feature.

Ditch her 100% immediately and block and go into No Contact. Try to mend the fence with your plates if you can, but I would use minimal effort. A clean slate is probably in your future and is likely best anyway. Hopefully you don't live in a small community where this could be more problematic.

 

[Divorced w 3]

Yike. Ok I will go a bit softer on OP. Nothing in disagreement with back in the game. However. Be honest with yourself and then be kind with yourself. Look into your habits, maybe get help with therapy. Look into attachment theory. Good luck.

 

[Divorced w 3]

OP, a few things:

1. Why are you continuing to hook up with an ex-girlfriend? You have been here long enough to know this ALWAYS leads to trouble in some way. It is always a guess in the how but it essentially always does without fail. In this case, she essentially sabotaged your entire rotation of plates and you will likely to need to replace all of them (although the more damaged ones may like this in some way). Ouch.

2. Never allow a woman access to your phone in any way. Period, end of story. And yours is a harsh lesson in why you don't use the facial recognition feature.

Ditch her 100% immediately and block and go into No Contact. Try to mend the fence with your plates if you can, but I would use minimal effort. A clean slate is probably in your future and is likely best anyway. Hopefully you don't live in a small community where this could be more problematic.

Nothing about this if done properly is problematic from his PR. Some broad texted other broads. I hope for his sake it gets out like covid. Op is a pimp.

the real issue comes from marrying her. Again, see my handle.

 

[RickPound]

Yes, some of you know my history and it’s terrible. The reason I post on here is to hear the “tough love” because I am struggling with doing what I know is right. I’m definitely not looking for anyone to make me feel better - I certainly have a problem - at least in the last two years - getting wrapped up with toxic, dangerous woman and the pain is self inflicted by not having the ability to permanently exit when I should.

 

[Barrister]

Nothing about this if done properly is problematic from his PR. Some broad texted other broads. I hope for his sake it gets out like covid. Op is a pimp.

the real issue comes from marrying her. Again, see my handle.

I agree it won't impact him if he is living in a small metro or larger community. And further agree nothing is completely permanent and you can bounce back from anything. But if he lives in a small community it will have the potential to affect his ability to pull there - at least on a temporary basis.

 

[Divorced w 3]

I agree it won't impact him if he is living in a small metro or larger community. And further agree nothing is completely permanent and you can bounce back from anything. But if he lives in a small community it will have the potential to affect his ability to pull there - at least on a temporary basis.

If he’s in a small community he needs to get in front of it and tell everyone before she does.

 

[Millard Fillmore]

My ex-gf who I’m going through a messy breakup with looked through my phone the other night and texted three girls “hey, I’m just figuring out if I need an STD check so texting all the girls Rick’s been with. This is (her name) his on and off girlfriend”.

I didn’t find out until the next day when one of the girls called from an unknown number and left me a VM. She had blocked every girl in my phone after sending that message.

Once I realized I sent an apology text to the girls, and only one laughed it off. The others, plus one I was really trying to make progress with, is ignoring me.

This is a great lesson for guys.

DON'T go through phones and get crazy possessive like the OP's girl.

DO ignore women whose lives are drama - like the OP's plates did.

 

[Gamisch]

Nothing about this if done properly is problematic from his PR. Some broad texted other broads. I hope for his sake it gets out like covid. Op is a pimp.

the real issue comes from marrying her. Again, see my handle.

Nah man, although I kinda get what you mean ( I already said it's a form of social proof), but this shouldn't be glorified. So many things went wrong, that the ONLY possible positive outcome COULD be that the other women are somehow intrigued.

If (big if) this was all orchestrated its genius. But imo its more about failing to set personal boundaries and thus allowing a extremely toxic woman to do damage.

 

[EyeBRollin]

What would be the next move with the girls who got that text? I sent a quick but sincere apology and told them my phone obviously got “stolen”.

Just wait until they reach out again? Or give it a few days to blow over and proceed as usual?

It’s over with them.

 

[devilkingx2]

Once I realized I sent an apology text to the girls, and only one laughed it off. The others, plus one I was really trying to make progress with, is ignoring me.

That one sounds like a keeper. Forget about the other two.

My ex-gf who I’m going through a messy breakup with looked through my phone the other night and texted three girls “hey, I’m just figuring out if I need an STD check so texting all the girls Rick’s been with. This is (her name) his on and off girlfriend”.

If for some reason you give a girl your phone password while you're on good terms with her, you should change it once you're on bad terms.

 

[EyeBRollin]

If for some reason you give a girl your phone password while you're on good terms with her, you should change it once you're on bad terms.

Brilliant. I never thought to do this. Well done, sir.

 

[corrector]

TOP acts needy and all he cares about is sex and no matter what they do or how badly they treat him, his self respect and dignity have no importance to him as long as he can figure out a way to continue getting sex from them.

Isn't that what some people on here believe? You have some posters believing that people need sex like water and cite Maslov's pyramid of needs and think the worst thing you can be is incel. If you have that mindset then the OP has actually made the right decisions. As long as he's not using escorts, watching porn, or God forbid, subscribing to OnlyFans, or fapping, then he's not at the bottom of the barrel even if he has to put up with abuse, has no self-respect or dignity, as that's secondary to being able to have unpaid sex right?

Lets face it, there are at least mixed-messages on here about how valuable sex is to the point I can't even fault the OP. He might listen to your advice, but then he might read one of @SW15 's posts too and then do this. Also, with all the talk of the dating market being too toxic, and if all the options you have is your ex, and a choice to be incel or have someone, then I can see people making the same choice as the OP. If you have no options then you put up with abuse or be celibate.

 

[Luni]

Isn't that what some people on here believe? You have some posters believing that people need sex like water and cite Maslov's pyramid of needs and think the worst thing you can be is incel. If you have that mindset then the OP has actually made the right decisions. As long as he's not using escorts, watching porn, or God forbid, subscribing to OnlyFans, or fapping, then he's not at the bottom of the barrel even if he has to put up with abuse, has no self-respect or dignity, as that's secondary to being able to have unpaid sex right?

Lets face it, there are at least mixed-messages on here about how valuable sex is to the point I can't even fault the OP. He might listen to your advice, but then he might read one of @SW15 's posts too and then do this. Also, with all the talk of the dating market being too toxic, and if all the options you have is your ex, and a choice to be incel or have someone, then I can see people making the same choice as the OP. If you have no options then you put up with abuse or be celibate.

Ruthlessly pragmatic. That said, it's hard to believe most people on this forum lack options. Maybe just a lack of discretion.

 

[Gamisch]

Isn't that what some people on here believe? You have some posters believing that people need sex like water and cite Maslov's pyramid of needs and think the worst thing you can be is incel. If you have that mindset then the OP has actually made the right decisions. As long as he's not using escorts, watching porn, or God forbid, subscribing to OnlyFans, or fapping, then he's not at the bottom of the barrel even if he has to put up with abuse, has no self-respect or dignity, as that's secondary to being able to have unpaid sex right?

Lets face it, there are at least mixed-messages on here about how valuable sex is to the point I can't even fault the OP. He might listen to your advice, but then he might read one of @SW15 's posts too and then do this. Also, with all the talk of the dating market being too toxic, and if all the options you have is your ex, and a choice to be incel or have someone, then I can see people making the same choice as the OP. If you have no options then you put up with abuse or be celibate.

He might as well read Mein Kampf while simultaneously reading the bible.

Perhaps OP should gather information and eventually make a decision based on HIS own conviction?

I'm Tyrone, nice to meet ya. If it wasn't for the toxic women in my life I'd be an incel too. But as I say, they're toxic. So it's on ME to level up. Because there's;
1Incel-- 2subpar/non qualified women---3women you actually wanna roll with.

Being in the second category is as, if not more stressfull than being an incel. As long as you dont touch category 3 you aint "that dude". Yes, Tyrone also gets tired of mediocrity and wants more than just being a BBC fetish to broken women ,ya know.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Isn't that what some people on here believe? You have some posters believing that people need sex like water and cite Maslov's pyramid of needs and think the worst thing you can be is incel. If you have that mindset then the OP has actually made the right decisions. As long as he's not using escorts, watching porn, or God forbid, subscribing to OnlyFans, or fapping, then he's not at the bottom of the barrel even if he has to put up with abuse, has no self-respect or dignity, as that's secondary to being able to have unpaid sex right?

Lets face it, there are at least mixed-messages on here about how valuable sex is to the point I can't even fault the OP. He might listen to your advice, but then he might read one of @SW15 's posts too and then do this. Also, with all the talk of the dating market being too toxic, and if all the options you have is your ex, and a choice to be incel or have someone, then I can see people making the same choice as the OP. If you have no options then you put up with abuse or be celibate.

Sex can be gotten easily enough without compromising your self respect and dignity to do so.

 

[corrector]

Sex can be gotten easily enough without compromising your self respect and dignity to do so.

To you perhaps and the small percentages of chads, chadlites, tyrones and chadrones but appearantly the OP does not believe he is in those tiers.

 

[corrector]

Ruthlessly pragmatic. That said, it's hard to believe most people on this forum lack options. Maybe just a lack of discretion.

They wont admit that if it were true so you would not know that.