Ex gf looks through my phone and texted other girls

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My ex-gf who I’m going through a messy breakup with looked through my phone the other night and texted three girls “hey, I’m just figuring out if I need an STD check so texting all the girls Rick’s been with. This is (her name) his on and off girlfriend”.

I didn’t find out until the next day when one of the girls called from an unknown number and left me a VM. She had blocked every girl in my phone after sending that message.

Once I realized I sent an apology text to the girls, and only one laughed it off. The others, plus one I was really trying to make progress with, is ignoring me.
 

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My ex-gf who I’m going through a messy breakup with looked through my phone the other night and texted three girls “hey, I’m just figuring out if I need an STD check so texting all the girls Rick’s been with. This is (her name) his on and off girlfriend”.

I didn’t find out until the next day when one of the girls called from an unknown number and left me a VM. She had blocked every girl in my phone after sending that message.

Once I realized I sent an apology text to the girls, and only one laughed it off. The others, plus one I was really trying to make progress with, is ignoring me.
If she is an ex, why are you even still dealing with her.
 

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My ex-gf who I’m going through a messy breakup with looked through my phone the other night and texted three girls “hey, I’m just figuring out if I need an STD check so texting all the girls Rick’s been with. This is (her name) his on and off girlfriend”.

I didn’t find out until the next day when one of the girls called from an unknown number and left me a VM. She had blocked every girl in my phone after sending that message.

Once I realized I sent an apology text to the girls, and only one laughed it off. The others, plus one I was really trying to make progress with, is ignoring me.
Learn anything about the benefits of phone locking and secure password ?
 

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And disconnect facial recognition. I know someone who had their face scanned while sleeping and the same thing happened.
Yep, this was what she did.
If she is an ex, why are you even still dealing with her.
It’s a recent breakup and it’s been pretty messy. Was doing good keeping her away for a few weeks but she got me to give in during a “crisis” where she had nowhere to go.

Definitely my fault.
 

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My ex-gf who I’m going through a messy breakup with looked through my phone the other night and texted three girls “hey, I’m just figuring out if I need an STD check so texting all the girls Rick’s been with. This is (her name) his on and off girlfriend”.

I didn’t find out until the next day when one of the girls called from an unknown number and left me a VM. She had blocked every girl in my phone after sending that message.

Once I realized I sent an apology text to the girls, and only one laughed it off. The others, plus one I was really trying to make progress with, is ignoring me.
Wait a minute. When did this actually happen.
 

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Apple face recognition should not fall for a two dimensional picture.
 

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A few days ago…
Well, the one I heard, dude was on a family trip and brought his girl and she did that, and the girl I know that got the text is a complete trash basket lol.
 

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What would be the next move with the girls who got that text? I sent a quick but sincere apology and told them my phone obviously got “stolen”.

Just wait until they reach out again? Or give it a few days to blow over and proceed as usual?
 

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My ex-gf who I’m going through a messy breakup with looked through my phone the other night and texted three girls “hey, I’m just figuring out if I need an STD check so texting all the girls Rick’s been with. This is (her name) his on and off girlfriend”.

I didn’t find out until the next day when one of the girls called from an unknown number and left me a VM. She had blocked every girl in my phone after sending that message.

Once I realized I sent an apology text to the girls, and only one laughed it off. The others, plus one I was really trying to make progress with, is ignoring me.
Hahahaha.

Dude sorry I'm laughing but this is ridiculous.

Why she has access to your phone? This is the biggest question in this post.

If my ex grabbed my phone i would cut her hands.
 

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tough luck, thanks for the cautionary tale. yikes
 

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What would be the next move with the girls who got that text? I sent a quick but sincere apology and told them my phone obviously got “stolen”.

Just wait until they reach out again? Or give it a few days to blow over and proceed as usual?
It might even work in your favor. Still a form of social proof.

But the real issue is that your ex is still way too deep into your life . Doesn't sound like an " ex". Be honest man..
 

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What would be the next move with the girls who got that text? I sent a quick but sincere apology and told them my phone obviously got “stolen”.

Just wait until they reach out again? Or give it a few days to blow over and proceed as usual?
Your toast. She ensure that when she blocked them. If she left it open you could have been like haha gotcha etc. but blocking them made it legit.

see my handle? Read it carefully.
 

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This should be an instant dealbreaker. Assuming this relationship was already on the brinks of collapsing, this action should be the final nail.

Personally this would where i set the limit. Unless you are withholding information , as in ,she doesn't even know she's your "ex". Because if she is , then this is her one way ticket out.
 

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You got what you deserved. We told you to block and ignore her but instead you were spending time with her in person.

You clearly don't want to learn anything of value here so I don't even know why you bother posting on the forum to be honest.

You simply want people to validate that it's OK to do whatever you are going to do anyway.
 
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