Dating in your 40's...the women are bat s crazy

[BillyPilgrim]

Well we'll have to agree to disagree. I think it's unreasonable to believe people will show you who they are in the first 3 dates. If that was the case, most women wouldn't end up in abusive relationships. People are on their best behavior early on. You don't really get to know somebody until a few months have passed.

Seems like most people would agree it takes a few months....

how long does it to take to know the real person when dating - Google Search

Imo if you focus on congruency that can lead to gleaning insight

 

[BadBoy89]

My last gf was:
-Top university educated.
-Six figure (total comp 200/250K) salary at Fortune 50 company.
-Parents still married.
-Never married.
-No kids.
-26.
-96 lbs

WTF.

The average 13 year old teenage girl weighs 101 lbs.

How does a 26 year old woman weigh 96 lbs?

 

[BillyPilgrim]

WTF.

The average 13 year old teenage girl weighs 101 lbs.

How does a 26 year old woman weigh 96 lbs?

I used to live in California and there are many women like this. They come from Asia.

 

[jnMissouri]

WTF.

The average 13 year old teenage girl weighs 101 lbs.

How does a 26 year old woman weigh 96 lbs?

Height...she was 5 feet tall. Vietnamese, they are petite.

 

[jnMissouri]

I used to live in California and there are many women like this. They come from Asia.

She was Vietnamese...

 

[jnMissouri]

Imo if you focus on congruency that can lead to gleaning insight

3 dates is too small of a sample size...you're talking 3-6 hours to decide if someone is crazy. Will likely DQ prematurely. With my girl, there weren't any red flags at all. Same with the previous Viet girl a few gf's ago in 2021-2022. Perfectly fine. It was at the 3 month mark her mask came off. In fact it was a picture I saw in her phone while we were at the airport and she was scrolling to show me something from a year prior...that her lies started to unravel...It's why narcissists try to lock you down quickly and love bomb you. They know they can only keep the mask on for so long before their real personality and flaws come out. Covert narcissists are experts at hiding it...for a while.

 

[corona20]

THIS >> " I'm honestly at the point where I've slept with enough women that I don't really care. I got my "validation" and a high body count. I want a relationship with an attractive and stable woman who understands how to treat a man. "

now, reverse this, to

I'm honestly at the point where I've slept with enough man that I don't really care. I got my "validation" and a high body count. I want a relationship with an attractive and stable man who understands how to treat a woman.

something u can't unsee. next time you see a woman with a "BF" means, she sucked and ****ed enough dudes already..for that year..

 

[BadBoy89]

Height...she was 5 feet tall. Vietnamese, they are petite.

Companies don’t give six figure salaries, $250K to Vietnamese girls who are 5’0.

They have be at least 5’4.

 

[jnMissouri]

THIS >> " I'm honestly at the point where I've slept with enough women that I don't really care. I got my "validation" and a high body count. I want a relationship with an attractive and stable woman who understands how to treat a man. "

now, reverse this, to

I'm honestly at the point where I've slept with enough man that I don't really care. I got my "validation" and a high body count. I want a relationship with an attractive and stable man who understands how to treat a woman.

something u can't unsee. next time you see a woman with a "BF" means, she sucked and ****ed enough dudes already..for that year..

You're a woman? Most women aren't like that. Some, sure. I've found most traditional Asian women have low body counts. My recent gf actually called the guys she dated before me and proved without them knowing I was on the phone that they never slept together. Kissed a couple times, couple dates, that's it. Her ex boyfriends, took months to sleep with her. She was 26, body count three, including me.

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

While this certainly may be the case with this woman, the exception does not prove the rule.

There are low count women, but they are rare nowadays. As has been said repeatedly here their real body count is a close guarded secret.

Here’s a classic:

"I've only had sex with five guys."

Translation: I've had five boyfriends, who I regularly had sex with but never anal, and then were lucky to get their ****s sucked twice a month. I've also had sex once inside a bathroom stall at a club, but that doesn't count because I was drunk. I've sucked the **** of eight other guys, but that's not sex, and then there was the time I tried anal sex, but it only lasted for five seconds, and after that, I was pissed at the guy for sticking his **** in my ass, so I left immediately, so that doesn't count. I've had four guys eat me out on the first date, and I sucked them off so that I wouldn't have to have sex with them because I'm a good girl, and I don't have sex on the first date. Then there are the three guys that I had sex with on the first date, but that doesn't count, because they said that they just needed to use my bathroom and then they ended up in my vagina, but that doesn't matter, because it just happened and I never texted them again. I also had sex with two guys in high school. Still, it wasn't really sex because they didn't know what they were doing and came in under a minute, so I didn't technically lose my virginity until I had sex with my first boyfriend in college, but not before I sucked another three different ****s during orientation week. But that doesn't count because it was a crazy time in my life.

You're a woman? Most women aren't like that. Some, sure. I've found most traditional Asian women have low body counts. My recent gf actually called the guys she dated before me and proved without them knowing I was on the phone that they never slept together. Kissed a couple times, couple dates, that's it. Her ex boyfriends, took months to sleep with her. She was 26, body count three, including me.

 

[corona20]

I observed my sister when we were young, i can count the number of men that i'm sure she fvcked or svcked by the time she graduated high school,

she had
3 serious boyfriends, i saw this white guy walk into her room after school once. and locked the door on and turned up the music loud..( LOL,) ... i remember this clearly.., another asian guy she was making out with... after high school, she was with 1 mexican guy long term, had a kid with him, another biker dude who i came over to her condo, and i was like "who the fvck is this dude"... then im SURE theres MORE that i never saw or heard. And FINALLY, her HUSBAND she's been with for 10 years currently.

so lets count the ones i was ABLE to observer
3 + 1 + 1 + 1 + 1 + 1 , about 9 and im sure theres maybe, 2 to 4 more. (just my guess. )and this is coming from a conservative/traditional/religious/catholic family. So 10 body count MIINIMUM..easy..

She never went to college with dorm room type, never went to go "clubbing" with her gfs , never went to bars. Anf This was in the 90s Early, 2000s era. No social media, no tinder, none of that....she is 45 now i think. Oh, and she NEVER HAD A TATTOO!!!

SO, imagine those women who went to college and lived in dorms, imagine those who went to go clubbing, those who aren't traditional/conservative, who have access to social media with TATTOOS.

It's not about how many, its about the MINIMUM that we should ask them, obvioulsy, they'll never tell the real number, but theres a chance they might give a MINIMUM number besides the obvious 1. If you want to dig for body counts that is..

 

[jnMissouri]

While this certainly may be the case with this woman, the exception does not prove the rule.

There are low count women, but they are rare nowadays. As has been said repeatedly here their real body count is a close guarded secret.

Here’s a classic:

"I've only had sex with five guys."

Translation: I've had five boyfriends, who I regularly had sex with but never anal, and then were lucky to get their ****s sucked twice a month. I've also had sex once inside a bathroom stall at a club, but that doesn't count because I was drunk. I've sucked the **** of eight other guys, but that's not sex, and then there was the time I tried anal sex, but it only lasted for five seconds, and after that, I was pissed at the guy for sticking his **** in my ass, so I left immediately, so that doesn't count. I've had four guys eat me out on the first date, and I sucked them off so that I wouldn't have to have sex with them because I'm a good girl, and I don't have sex on the first date. Then there are the three guys that I had sex with on the first date, but that doesn't count, because they said that they just needed to use my bathroom and then they ended up in my vagina, but that doesn't matter, because it just happened and I never texted them again. I also had sex with two guys in high school. Still, it wasn't really sex because they didn't know what they were doing and came in under a minute, so I didn't technically lose my virginity until I had sex with my first boyfriend in college, but not before I sucked another three different ****s during orientation week. But that doesn't count because it was a crazy time in my life.

With such a deep red pill state of mind, based on emotions not facts, I can see it being challenging to be with someone emotionally. No, this isn't the reality for MOST women. Yes, some sure. I've had some women outright admit at 29 they slept with 20 guys...

But no, a lot of women are NOT like that. And many have proven it to me by calling guys she had dated. IF she is a club or bar *****, yes, she is that way. But a lot of the younger women in their twenties I was in a relationship with, I was the second or third and they proved it. I think the most a girl I was in a relationship with who was in her 20's was 6 including me. Asian women especially, have a lower count. In Asian countries, once they hit the 4 guys mark they are considered used up.

I've had women on dating sites message me back and immediately ask me if I would have an issue with them going clubbing all the time. That told me a lot, she had men reject her because of it so she gets it right out there. I guaranteee THAT girl has been passed around A LOT or is an attention *****, not LTR material.

But we men like to assume that ALL women are just sucking and ****ing every guy they meet. It's not how our evolutionary biology is. Men yes, we produce millions of sperm a day. Women produce one egg a month. They guard that egg (most) since they get stuck with the kid if knocked up.

Also, a lot of guys don't realize, yes a hot woman can have any man she wants, but she is not interested in 99% of those men.

There are some girls that are obvious sluts. In my late twenties I used to regularly get sucked off by a 19 year old, no dates, she'd just come over and suck. She was cute, but a 7. The girls that ger around will be super obvious.

Personally, I consider NO woman LTR material these days. I'd never get married to todays women or have kids with them. Even if she is sweet now, she can change. A female coworker who was in an arranged marriage (Asian) was a virgin when she met her husband. She fell for me at work, I was aggressive, unpredictable, dominant she told me. Everything opposite of her husband. She cheated on him with me for months. Moral of the story, even a good girl can stray...

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

You’re allowed to live in whatever reality you’d like to brother. It’s all good.

 

[Borknagar]

And teens and 20s and 30s. It doesn't matter the age, the bull**** is all the same.

 

[MatureDJ]

I'd just be happy with a gal that doesn't keep the legs closed and that doesn't seem to be crazy enough to kill me.

 

[MatureDJ]

No, it is not.

It's pretty much ONLY been the crazy ones that give me sex.

 

[Borknagar]

Maybe you are the problem.

Men are rarely the problem.

 

[evan12]

I swear women are bat s crazy....

They are not crazy , they just have too much options to take any option seriously, especially women who use online dating.

 

[Manure Spherian]

My now ex, 42 (Asian, looked 31, bat s crazy it turned out). Hard core Borderline and Narcissist, had the majority of the signs based on my past experiences.

Her replacement...35 year old "virgin" (vaginal). Bat s crazy, no wonder this hot Ukranian chic had never been proposed to and all her relationships were a couple months except for...a serial killer...no joke. Never even texted me on my birthday...put work deadline before meeting up for my birthday the night before. Not even a text or call on my b day so I ghosted her.

So I'm dating again, one chic won't give me her number until the second date. I'm thinking, OK our second date will be a walk in the park, literally. No way I'm spending more than I did for coffee with such a woman. And she thinks it's fun to tease me with her number (we met on match). OK, then you can pay for your own meal if we go out...."it's more fun that way" loser...

Another girl, 38, Yale MBA, gorgeous, string of relationships with narcisists and borderlines. Literally within 2 days she's talking marriage (my 42 year old ex above took 2 months) and moving to be closer to me...we had never even met. She cops and attitude every few minutes. Volatile. No wonder she's never married, no kids.

44 year old hot girl, on her profile she says she won't be exclusive with a man before marriage...no wonder you've never been proposed to.

38 year old Latina, made plans with me, then reschedules the day of when I message to confirm, she tries to push our date to another date, I'm like, silence and distance...

I'm honestly at the point where I've slept with enough women that I don't really care. I got my "validation" and a high body count. I want a relationship with an attractive and stable woman who understands how to treat a man.

All of my last 6 girlfriends or so took turns paying for dates after we were in a relationship (3 dates or so). I'm really getting tired of the left over women in their 30's+. Heck even my 29 and 25 year old gf's had some issues. More stable than most but obvious emotional issues. Finding a woman who gets it is nigh impossible.

Went on a date with this cute Chinese chic the other night, our second date. We came home to my place, fooled around, no sex though. Invite her over for dinner again and she says I'm sweet, she has no plans, etc. I tell her I'll have dinner ready at 7. Haven't heard from her since last night when I texted her that.

I swear women are bat s crazy....

What are your intentions with women or one woman now?

 

[Manure Spherian]

Yep, my multi millionaire butt is the problem, not the women who are hot and never married and childless or have three divorces behind them by 40. GENIUS!!!

Well, perhaps you are not a “problem”. However, if you are an attractive millionaire, a reasonable thought would be why such a man didn’t get a normal woman some time ago or why, with the millions of women on this earth, why you don’t have such a normal one now.