What most men fail to realize

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A woman is not supposed to like you simply because you exist.

That idea comes from either ego, delusion or inexperience. Some of you wonder why you meet crazies/ girls with mental issues or girls tha tare just wildly promiscuous and just looking to f- you a few times, until they realize you're the type to get more invested, then play you like a fiddle for the attention.. and fun of it.. These girls are just looking for fun, so their interest in you meant absolutely nothing. If it wasnt you, it was the next guy.

Most women don't care about you until they see/hear/experience something that relates to stuff they admire/like --because unlike desperate or horny men, women don't go seeking out guys with their eyes and ears just waiting to see some tits and booty and pretty faces.. like guys do. Women are in their own little world, especially the more attractive they are. Yes, maybe an asian, latina or white older woman/milf whos bored in her marriage might be eyeing down hot younger guys -- but most women dont. Women relish off knowing that they can get a plethora of guys /have options/ that men like them. The same way most dudes who know they can get girls don't really care about women-- and often fumble good opportunities in their teens/early adulthood because of a lack of care or concern, and not having had to do much to pull women.

To a woman your value as a man is often initiated by how you look outwardly, but moreso when you start speaking, showing your personality, the things you say, the people you hang around/your social tribe, what you've made for yourself, earned in this life, etc

So often, actually Too often, and for as long as I can remember I've always heard guys say things like "Man I dont know why she didn't like me, we were off to a good start, had a good conversation, etc".

Its because she doesn't giv ea fucc. You gave her no reason to. You didn't even figure out what she really admires in men or what kind of stuff shes into that would make her want/like you.

Ie: I'll use the example of a this girl I knew a while back. Chick was a total gearhead, big into cars.. one of those typical car enthusiasts who ended up getting a Subaru WRX STI, etc. Naturally beautiful girl, atypical latina as shes wasnt very cultural -- She didn't care for most guys, infact she dated some dudes who are really far from "ideal" in terms of looks/height/etc. But the reason she dated some of these guys was because they were also gearheads/super into cars. When she got into bikes/motorcycles, she ended up dating someone who was already adept in that. Becuase that's what she admired.. She was focused on her passions.--

I knew another girl..infact, this is the chick that unknowingly got me fired froma job I took up last year. She was a vendor for a luxury brand called YSL (Yves Saint Laurent) -- I just went into that cosmetics department on my break from my department to go flirt with/talk to some of the girls I knew over there while ignoring another girl I knw there intentionally because she was acting up. This girl and I kinda instantly saw each other and I started talking to her. She htought I was trying to buy fragrances.. I played along and she was admired at how I knew so much about the fragrances, and how i was describing each one, and saying yeah this one smells ike it has a bit too much <specific fragrance note taht most people wouldnt know).. she found like it real interesting how in depth i was and could talk about all these fragrances, and how Iknew most of them. (I own alot of expensive fragrances, around ~50) .. I took her around and showed her all thes diff ones and called her out on not knowing too mcuh about fragrances, while being a fragrance vendor. It also interested her that I worked in jewelry and dressed nice.. How I dressed was actually the first thing she noticed. She didnt knew I worked there initially. She asked me if we had emeralds.. I Was like are you kidding ofc we got Emeralds.. took her over to the jewelry department and showed her.

She might not be the best example though because she was a flirt, and our chemistry was instant.. ( This usuall yhappens hwen I meet women who are jus as confidence as me, and also quite sexually experienced (for a woman). But the point is, she told me why she was really interested in me because it seemed like I was not just an ordinary guy that I spoke about stuff passionately, seemed like I was high maintenance but also really confident/skilled with words)

Ofc, just like any of my threads, I could sit and think of better examples for like 10 minutes but , I dont have time for that. I just use what I recall first or what comes to mind. As someone who has around 40-50 successful approaches per year, I have too many experiences to pick from. Call it a humble brag or w.e but if you cared enough about game and social skills and women you'd prob be at that level one da ytoo. To me it snot a big deal. Talking to women for me is just a byproduct of being into women and sociable. Its not something I put too much thought into, it just happens.
 

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I go on dates and don't get sex on first date. What do you think is happening?

My hygiene is good, car is clean, etc etc. We interact prior so I doubt it's my social skills. What's up?
 

Men frequently err by talking too much. They often monopolize conversations, droning on and on about topics that bore women to tears. They think they're impressing the women when, in reality, they're depressing the women.

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There used to be a girl out of my social circle that I'd see every now and then. We didn't know much about each other, but we always ended up dancing together and both recognized there was chemistry. I tried to push things towards sex, but never succeeded. Got shut down at her apartment door one night so that was the final attempt.

A few years later her and I are dancing together again, we knew each other a lot better by then from hanging out in our social circle together. She is telling me how great of a guy I am. blah blah blah. I told her she had her chance a few times with me and I wasn't interested like that anymore. That's when she told me, "well I didn't know you very well, I had no idea you were a really solid guy. I needed to get to know you better and I love your personality."
 

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I think this is why a lot of women struggle with online dating. Its tough to for them to connect because its typically nothing more than visual attraction. They aren't as visual as we are.
 

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I go on dates and don't get sex on first date. What do you think is happening?

My hygiene is good, car is clean, etc etc. We interact prior so I doubt it's my social skills. What's up?
Its not a big deal I think it prob comes from just not having too much experience with women and having that confidence to guide them into sex in a smooth way. I mean theres a process. people dnt just whip it out and try to stick it in ..


When you say "40-50 successful approaches?" do you mean lays?
"Successful" as in, did not end in rejection and majority of which ended in a lay/getting pu55y .. but not always. Ive had times hwere I made out with a chick, go tto feel on her ass, even mark up some titties (sucking/hickies), but after getting the number it went nowhere.. also important to note that not all the lays were same day.. sometimes gotta put in work /phone game to make things happen. But point is, I have alot of experiences per year to draw from so It can be hard to find the best situations to use as examples.. especially when some of the chicks im approaching i barely get to know anything about them.. and jus get str8 down to business lol
 

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Create self-fulfilling prophecies. Always assume the positive. Assume she likes you. Assume she wants to talk to you. Assume she wants to go out with you. When you think positive, positive things happen.

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There used to be a girl out of my social circle that I'd see every now and then. We didn't know much about each other, but we always ended up dancing together and both recognized there was chemistry. I tried to push things towards sex, but never succeeded. Got shut down at her apartment door one night so that was the final attempt.

A few years later her and I are dancing together again, we knew each other a lot better by then from hanging out in our social circle together. She is telling me how great of a guy I am. blah blah blah. I told her she had her chance a few times with me and I wasn't interested like that anymore. That's when she told me, "well I didn't know you very well, I had no idea you were a really solid guy. I needed to get to know you better and I love your personality."
Don't fall for this Duke lmao. A "few years" to build rapport?

Maybe you can start dating and have sex after a few more.

Years, that is, not drinks.
 

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Don't fall for this Duke lmao. A "few years" to build rapport?

Maybe you can start dating and have sex after a few more.

Years, that is, not drinks.
I hear you and that's usually the case, not with this one though.

We only saw each other once every 4months or so. And we never ever sat down and talked until I was no longer really interested. It was always drinking and dancing. We both knew very little about each other.
 
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