Learn to not hang onto anything for too long / Learn to Let things go.

[RazorRambo24]

There will always be a plethora of different situations and scenarios in life where you may feel bothered or may be questioning why something happened, etc.. It's best to just address it and move forward. Try not to hang onto it for too long because all you that does is create a pattern of negative belief and emotion. This habit can turn real deadly for your inner game and consciousness.

Best way for me is to just talk about it with someone or just simply go do something else instead of stay in the same place where I'm feeling those thoughts or emotions.

I usually try to address it with positivity and think the best case scenario/explanation and just leave it at that.

You never know what people are going through. I think what helps me get ove rsh.t quickly is just knowing that i'm blessed to have a great life and be happy and fulfilled. Many people are struggling to just find happiness and balance in their life.. We gotta excercise a bit of empathy/sympathy for them.. because it helps us understand that, we're not the problem and we're not what's bothering them-- They got alot of their own sh.t they are carrying.

I kept this post pretty vague because It can go for MANY different situations like I mentioned.. Involving work, neighbors, women, friends, random people, mistakes you made, mistakes someone close to you made.

When you exercise the power to let things go and be okay with the fact that a mistake was made, or some words were said, or whatever the case, like a misunderstanding-- The better we get at not letting sh.t bother us, and usually after a while, more solutions come about and you learn to harness positive outcomes more and more often to any scenario.

 

[Gamisch]

There will always be a plethora of different situations and scenarios in life where you may feel bothered or may be questioning why something happened, etc.. It's best to just address it and move forward. Try not to hang onto it for too long because all you that does is create a pattern of negative belief and emotion. This habit can turn real deadly for your inner game and consciousness.

Best way for me is to just talk about it with someone or just simply go do something else instead of stay in the same place where I'm feeling those thoughts or emotions.

I usually try to address it with positivity and think the best case scenario/explanation and just leave it at that.

You never know what people are going through. I think what helps me get ove rsh.t quickly is just knowing that i'm blessed to have a great life and be happy and fulfilled. Many people are struggling to just find happiness and balance in their life.. We gotta excercise a bit of empathy/sympathy for them.. because it helps us understand that, we're not the problem and we're not what's bothering them-- They got alot of their own sh.t they are carrying.

I kept this post pretty vague because It can go for MANY different situations like I mentioned.. Involving work, neighbors, women, friends, random people, mistakes you made, mistakes someone close to you made.

When you exercise the power to let things go and be okay with the fact that a mistake was made, or some words were said, or whatever the case, like a misunderstanding-- The better we get at not letting sh.t bother us, and usually after a while, more solutions come about and you learn to harness positive outcomes more and more often to any scenario.

Absolutely.

Although the message is kinda generic,it can't be said often enough. Letting go is like the jab in boxing, the most important attribute to be successful.

You said all kinds of situations but I'll keep it about women now. With every woman there will be situations where you AT LEAST must take away your attention. I'd say; put her on time out.

You gotta be able to set ,and actually hold your ground. Remember, you teach people how to treat you.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

That is pretty much how I have always been. I'll get mad about something and get it off my chest and then 5 minutes later be totally fine and be done with it.

And not mad as in throwing stuff or hitting something, mad as in like "WTF is this person doing!" Then I'll be good. It's like releasing the pressure valve for me.

 

[RazorRambo24]

That is pretty much how I have always been. I'll get mad about something and get it off my chest and then 5 minutes later be totally fine and be done with it.

And not mad as in throwing stuff or hitting something, mad as in like "WTF is this person doing!" Then I'll be good. It's like releasing the pressure valve for me.

The type of mentality I grew u pwith and the type of life I come from, there was alot that as a man you felt like you could not let go .. and had to respond to or react to.. Especially someone calling me out or saying something that they'd do x, y or z to me.. especially if it was someone i knew, because out of anyone they should know better. I would really have to put them in their place when I saw them or just make it to their front door or wherever they stayed. I grew up a real tough mofo and still am. Now I'm just more mature and can learn to let things go.. but alot of the time, when a person Is operating in their ego and think their the toughest man ever or is likely to cheat, harm, scam, rob or hurt someone.. I llove to put them in their place or burst their little bubble.. as crazy as that sounds.. IT doesnt need to be always violent or anything.. But, sometimes, you just put the fear of God in them.. A single confrontation with no violent actions but just directly speaking to a persons soul through their eyes .. with the right energy is more powerful than a scared boy with a crazy father who he respects greatly who he fears more than he fears anything else in the world being upset with them. When you concentrate intense and volatile anger down into a very calm and focused energy, you can do so much with just eyes and words.

I especially believe the real tough men (not fake tough guys) who are really pure hearted/good hearted have that ability.. Its like God working through them and I feel that about myself when I deal with crazy/evil/bad guys as well.. Never been afraid of no one. Its a good feeling though to have this ability in my back pocket.

I'm glad i was raised in those environments tho .. I never seen a mentality like it anyhwere else. but then again I havent been to Boston and I heard Boston, Philly and Baltimore really have that attitude as well.

 

[manfrombelow]

As our famous homie Buddha said, the root of suffering is attachment.

Chasing after a broad that shows low to no interest in spending time with us is attachment. And it gives us nothing but suffering.

So, I don't do it anymore. I don't want to make myself suffered. I just respect and love myself too much to do that to myself.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

So what happened at the Latex party Rambo. Witchcraft or animal sacrifice? Those peeps are strange man.

 

[BeExcellent]

That is pretty much how I have always been. I'll get mad about something and get it off my chest and then 5 minutes later be totally fine and be done with it.

And not mad as in throwing stuff or hitting something, mad as in like "WTF is this person doing!" Then I'll be good. It's like releasing the pressure valve for me.

Ha ha. I’m like that too. I do not hold things in. If I’m ticked off? I express that. Then I’m fine to move on. Hell I actually forget stuff I was on about at times. Nobody will ever call me conflict averse. People who know me well know this about me. It doesn’t mean I go around blowing up at people, but if there is a problem I get about facing it, I can’t stand stewing over something or holding things in. That’s unhealthy.

 

[member162951]

If I’m ticked off? I express that.

There's another thread I just read discussing "masculine" women and the majority of men said that a female being angry, getting pissed off and expressing it is masculine. What are your thoughts on that?

On a personal level, I think masculine and feminine qualities and roles are interchangeable. My girlfriend is the most feminine woman I've ever been with, her voice, her soft demeanor, the way she carries herself and dresses, her submissive nature with ME.

Yet, like you, she gets angry sometimes and she doesn't hesitate telling me she's angry and why. I love that about her. She's not a doormat, or 100% "compliant" at all times which I would find boring AF. She also has a career and travels which goes against what most of the contributors here believe is *feminine*.

Her loyalty is beyond reproach and she's best girl I've ever had.

 

[Dr.Suave]

I was watching this TV series on HboMax: Succesion. I absolutely hated the ending and Im still losing sleep over it.

 

[BadBoy89]

If the girl is under 30 and hot and fertile, I will hold on to her for dear life until she gets pregnant.

If she is over 30, I will let go in 10 minutes,
if she is over 35, I will let go in 5 minutes
If she is over 40, I will let go in 1 minute
If she is over 45, I will let go in 1 second

 

[BeExcellent]

There's another thread I just read discussing "masculine" women and the majority of men said that a female being angry, getting pissed off and expressing it is masculine. What are your thoughts on that?

On a personal level, I think masculine and feminine qualities and roles are interchangeable. My girlfriend is the most feminine woman I've ever been with, her voice, her soft demeanor, the way she carries herself and dresses, her submissive nature with ME.

Yet, like you, she gets angry sometimes and she doesn't hesitate telling me she's angry and why. I love that about her. She's not a doormat, or 100% "compliant" at all times which I would find boring AF. She also has a career and travels which goes against what most of the contributors here believe is *feminine*.

Her loyalty is beyond reproach and she's best girl I've ever had.

My fiancé would tell you the same thing about me. I travel for work with frequency and he knows I am loyal AF. He trusts me absolutely and believes I’m the best woman he’s ever had, which is nice.

As far as a woman getting angry or upset….women are human beings with emotions. The range of human emotion includes anger, sadness, upset etc. Men who think those emotions as “masculine” do not view women as complete human beings. In all likelihood due to aversion to conflict. A relationship is not a dictatorship, where one person holds all the power and the other has no power. Men who idealize that dynamic are weak because a difference of opinion is seen as a threat and they must be “in charge” at all times or they feel their authority as a man is threatened.

More mature men, or higher self esteem men who are confident in themselves and their intrinsic value see their woman as a partner, as a human being with the full range of human emotions and are not threatened by a different opinion or with anger or upset, so long as it is like a rainstorm, it passes and dissipates.

Look. Sometimes men do inconsiderate things. So do women. When anger is expressed and the pressure relieved then all can proceed in harmony. If anger is repressed because its expression is not allowed then it is ingested. It festers. It rots away the health and mental health of the person who holds that emotion in. It is a type of dishonesty that arises out of fear and conflict aversion. Fear to express honest feelings; fear to hear dissent. Both are destructive over time. My guy & I fight sometimes. Then we get over it, reset and drive on. That’s healthy. He always knows where I stand and doesn’t have to worry if I’m not communicating how I feel. He doesn’t always like what I feel or what I communicate, and vice versa. But he appreciates that he’s not left guessing.

We do not have the “What’s wrong?” and “Nothing” response type conversations. Ever. He will also tell me his honest opinion about what I wear too or whether or not he likes are dislikes a meal I’ve made him, so I get unfiltered feedback if he doesn’t like an outfit or his dinner. Which I’m like, ok. It’s just clothes & I’ll go change or next time I’ll make something else.

You can’t be a control freak over other people and all unpredictable variables in life. That will make anyone miserable and a drag to be around over time.

 

[member162951]

My fiancé would tell you the same thing about me. I travel for work with frequency and he knows I am loyal AF. He trusts me absolutely and believes I’m the best woman he’s ever had, which is nice.

As far as a woman getting angry or upset….women are human beings with emotions. The range of human emotion includes anger, sadness, upset etc. Men who think those emotions as “masculine” do not view women as complete human beings. In all likelihood due to aversion to conflict. A relationship is not a dictatorship, where one person holds all the power and the other has no power. Men who idealize that dynamic are weak because a difference of opinion is seen as a threat and they must be “in charge” at all times or they feel their authority as a man is threatened.

More mature men, or higher self esteem men who are confident in themselves and their intrinsic value see their woman as a partner, as a human being with the full range of human emotions and are not threatened by a different opinion or with anger or upset, so long as it is like a rainstorm, it passes and dissipates.

Look. Sometimes men do inconsiderate things. So do women. When anger is expressed and the pressure relieved then all can proceed in harmony. If anger is repressed because its expression is not allowed then it is ingested. It festers. It rots away the health and mental health of the person who holds that emotion in. It is a type of dishonesty that arises out of fear and conflict aversion. Fear to express honest feelings; fear to hear dissent. Both are destructive over time. My guy & I fight sometimes. Then we get over it, reset and drive on. That’s healthy. He always knows where I stand and doesn’t have to worry if I’m not communicating how I feel. He doesn’t always like what I feel or what I communicate, and vice versa. But he appreciates that he’s not left guessing.

We do not have the “What’s wrong?” and “Nothing” response type conversations. Ever. He will also tell me his honest opinion about what I wear too or whether or not he likes are dislikes a meal I’ve made him, so I get unfiltered feedback if he doesn’t like an outfit or his dinner. Which I’m like, ok. It’s just clothes & I’ll go change or next time I’ll make something else.

You can’t be a control freak over other people and all unpredictable variables in life. That will make anyone miserable and a drag to be around over time.

You should post this on that other thread, very well said. Good stuff.

 

[The Duke]

If the girl is under 30 and hot and fertile, I will hold on to her for dear life until she gets pregnant.

If she is over 30, I will let go in 10 minutes,
if she is over 35, I will let go in 5 minutes
If she is over 40, I will let go in 1 minute
If she is over 45, I will let go in 1 second

Seems like a sad way to live your life. I am guessing You've never had a deep relationship with a woman that cared about you and you cared about her.

 

[RazorRambo24]

So what happened at the Latex party Rambo. Witchcraft or animal sacrifice? Those peeps are strange man.

Lol nah man i dont think its anything crazy like that. and it's not till the end of the month. Not sure if I will go. I might be in Vegas for a boxing match

 

[BadBoy89]

Seems like a sad way to live your life. I am guessing You've never had a deep relationship with a woman that cared about you and you cared about her.

It's not that, it's just that the woman has relatively little value after 38. If she's not fertile, what good is she?

 

[The Duke]

It's not that, it's just that the woman has relatively little value after 38. If she's not fertile, what good is she?

So all a woman is to you is a breeding machine?