The almost tragic truth about guys that end up being successful at cold approach.

[TheMage]

Elevator shoes and lifts will help us 5'11 guys.

If I was below 5'9, I would try to get as buff as possible. Shorter dudes put on muscle faster and I would capitalize on that. A role model for short guys would be dudes like Alexander Volkanovski (UFC Featherweight champ). Bulk up and dress stylish, some girls will fall for it.

Dude I’m like 5’6-5’7 :’(

 

[SW15]

I feel like the mid 30s women complaining about older guys dating younger girls :/

Boo hoo for them. Mid-30s women are still heavily pursued and have more options than most men their own ages.

 

[BadBoy89]

So if you’re not 6’2, should you just forget about said hot gym girls under 30 at all?

The chance that a hot girl under 30 at the gym is available is very low.

Even if she is available, the guy has to be everything before approaching. Doesn’t have to be 6’2, but 5’10 isn’t going to cut it.

 

[SW15]

The chance that a hot girl under 30 at the gym is available is very low.

Even if she is available, the guy has to be everything before approaching. Doesn’t have to be 6’2, but 5’10 isn’t going to cut it.

So true. Women's standards on the general gym floor are high. Even the available ones are often wearing earbuds to discourage approaches, but most of the earbud wearing women on the general gym floor are women with boyfriends.

Fitness classes are a little bit better option because you can work around the earbud problem. Ratios are good too. However, most women are not very sociable before/after fitness classes.

 

[Divorced w 3]

Ashley’s. Sally’s. Fvck you. Peace

 

[BillyPilgrim]

Ashley’s. Sally’s. Fvck you. Peace

Agreed.

 

[Gamisch]

I'm very curious to understand this "it" factor that some guys missed in terms of social development in their earlier years. Makes me wonder if I missed it too lmao. Never had issues making friends but did have issues expressing interest in women when I was younger due to low self esteem.

The "it " factor is made up in your own mind. Believing in The "it " how you are at it now,makes you feel like a "dont", or a "not".

You gotta have a hard think what's your definition of "it". Y'all be asking Jesse, but you should figure it out yourself individually. Because once you do, you'll have a goal post. And only you know how you view your ideal self.

You can now start shaping the best version of yourself(b.v.o.y). Could be that the bvoy drives xyz car, has an sixpack, makes xyz amount of money ect. Also include rather more mental things like talking to people at a bar, joining activites here and there ect.

That's when you set yourself up to get "it".
Because imo the secret behind IT is confidence in oneself(B.V.O.Y!!), combined with social skills , good looks and style, a story to tell ect , class ect. Your presence gotta add value.

" It "could stand for "individual technician"; The art of fixing yourself.

 

[Pandora]

So let's say you find yourself a Filipina girl. You can go there, but you will need to learn the culture and language enough to know the legal system and that's excluding non-citizenship rights that you will have. So yes, you will essentially be tied down to this woman if you decide to move to the Philippines. If you bring her back to your country, you risk her using you for a passport/money and leaving you down the road.

Im doing this now. I will let you know how it goes. Regardless its still more pleasant than dealing with American chicks.

I went out last weekend in a major American city. I had a lot of fun meeting the foreign chicks in the USA that night. Trust me foriegn is slightly more interesting. Its also cheaper too.

 

[Pandora]

I went out " sarging" this weekend just to show my friends how its done lol. Cold approaching in a bar is a tough game.The key is learn how to dance. Your boys need to be dancing and having fun by themselves ( then you go up the the women). You need to actually be cool guys. Most men are not cool. They are insecure af. You have to be funny and decent looking etc.

This is one of the many reasons cold approaching will not work for most guys. Once you become a cool, loving, masculine man...then it becomes alot easier. So yes OP i agree with you.

Btw it takes a ton of work to get there. Some guys are great men but are just introverts and not built for it and that is ok. Not everyone is built for sales either ( im not).