Gamisch
Master Don Juan
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Been through so many toxic relationships that bland and easygoing seems like new territory.Advice from the old lady:
Jordan Peterson has an interesting view about this. He calls it finding a “worthy adversary” in relationships. He talks about how if everything goes too smoothly all the time and your woman is unwilling or too fearful to call you on your shjt? You’re going to get bored.
On the other hand if the chick is too toxic, constantly creating drama that eventually becomes toxic and exhausting.
Neither extreme is sustainable long term. Peterson says that there should be enough unpredictability to keep it interesting, and you need a girl with the guts to call you out when you need calling out (and we all need calling out at times.). What this does is creates mutual investment and respect.
Where there is mutual investment and respect love can take root and grow. Real love, not just infatuation.
Passionate people are spicy at times. You need a girl who loves you but has a healthy amount of sass. You need someone who can give and take a little razzing. If you are a passionate dude you are going to get stale if your girl is too plain vanilla. A passionate girl is going to be more drama, but more interesting. So you need to understand who you are to understand what you need.
Boredom may be around the corner if she’s bland. Or you may crave bland, much depends on you.
Made the thread more as a brain fart, because honestly, i was wondering (from a positive but suspicious perspective) how long these positive vibes will last.
Ironically it a started with me not giving a F about the outcome. At least , me projecting this energy.