Guys need advise, so there is this cute girl WHO has a two year old and lives with the boyfriend, we have been having sex . She drive two hours to come for sleep over now most weekends. She says they are just like friends with the boyfriend … the son is James and boyfriend is Albert.
Today she wrote me this text saying she is confused. She want to come over this Friday for goodbye sex what should i do. Her message is attached below, its abit long.
Hi, ive had a rough week to be honest. I am having bad dreams, bad sleep.. Finding a space to speak my mind at home, lacking the energy.. Ive thought about it a lot. Like i said i owe it to james to give and invest in the relationship home. Even though doing that is not an easy task and i don't see now how to do it. But i feel a lot of pressure aswell, since ive met you and more happened . Because i feel more and more emotions gets invested feelingwise and I dont want to hurt you or keep you hanging in limbo as they say. I believe you genuinely care for me. You are attentive, caring, intresting,.. You know how a relationship should work. But it gives me pressure because i am not in that place to give you what you properly deserve.i really feel bad for that. It does blur my mind and i think at some level i am also not opening up to Albert because I vent my frustration to you and i feel a bit lighter but I should say it to him. And i dont want to compare you to him because he just has a different charachter. But unconsciously i do think i compare. And i do feel guilt towards james doing what we do. I dont expect you to wait for me. I do want you to be in my life as a friend. But I understand if its easier to just have distance from me. I just feel like i just want to take James and disappear from everybody to just clear my head. But that's not how it works. So i have to take it step by step and i need to take away the static noise around me and do what i can, so i can never blame myself or my efforts. It will maybe work or maybe not. Time will tell. But i need to know if it doesnt work because it just doesnt, there is no effort on 2 sides, and not because off another party is involved. I couldnt start a new relationship and caring guilt with me. If and when i would start a new relationship i needs to be with a clear conscience and without caring guilt because that wouldnt work either. I hope you can understand that. And understand that it has nothing to do with who you are or what you do. You are a wonderfull person with a good heart. But i understand if you can't do just friends. I wont look at you differently for that. I am. Writing this down because i dont want to forgot anything. If you want we can videocall later. But have to wait till James is in bed.
Today she wrote me this text saying she is confused. She want to come over this Friday for goodbye sex what should i do. Her message is attached below, its abit long.
Hi, ive had a rough week to be honest. I am having bad dreams, bad sleep.. Finding a space to speak my mind at home, lacking the energy.. Ive thought about it a lot. Like i said i owe it to james to give and invest in the relationship home. Even though doing that is not an easy task and i don't see now how to do it. But i feel a lot of pressure aswell, since ive met you and more happened . Because i feel more and more emotions gets invested feelingwise and I dont want to hurt you or keep you hanging in limbo as they say. I believe you genuinely care for me. You are attentive, caring, intresting,.. You know how a relationship should work. But it gives me pressure because i am not in that place to give you what you properly deserve.i really feel bad for that. It does blur my mind and i think at some level i am also not opening up to Albert because I vent my frustration to you and i feel a bit lighter but I should say it to him. And i dont want to compare you to him because he just has a different charachter. But unconsciously i do think i compare. And i do feel guilt towards james doing what we do. I dont expect you to wait for me. I do want you to be in my life as a friend. But I understand if its easier to just have distance from me. I just feel like i just want to take James and disappear from everybody to just clear my head. But that's not how it works. So i have to take it step by step and i need to take away the static noise around me and do what i can, so i can never blame myself or my efforts. It will maybe work or maybe not. Time will tell. But i need to know if it doesnt work because it just doesnt, there is no effort on 2 sides, and not because off another party is involved. I couldnt start a new relationship and caring guilt with me. If and when i would start a new relationship i needs to be with a clear conscience and without caring guilt because that wouldnt work either. I hope you can understand that. And understand that it has nothing to do with who you are or what you do. You are a wonderfull person with a good heart. But i understand if you can't do just friends. I wont look at you differently for that. I am. Writing this down because i dont want to forgot anything. If you want we can videocall later. But have to wait till James is in bed.
