3rd date with her friends

[holidayad_]

OP, what was the outcome? Did you meet? Decline her invite but set up something else just the two of you?

I answered her questioning if I knew this "lively" spot, which she had asked if I knew and would be a good spot to go with our friends, with "Yeah, I know some spots" - but without going into the merits of whether I would go or not.

From then on, the subject changed, we talked about other random things. I started to do some playful text messaging with her. For example, I sent her an audio of me playing drums and asked her to guess what the song was. That kind of thing.

P.S.: I rarely do that. I like to chat only to work out logistical things. But I thought "F*ck it. I feel good about this girl. I'll build rapport and see how it goes."

Apparently, it went wrong. I texted her "I want to see you this week" and then the chick just went ghost. WTF.

 

[Divorced w 3]

I answered her questioning if I knew this "lively" spot, which she had asked if I knew and would be a good spot to go with our friends, with "Yeah, I know some spots" - but without going into the merits of whether I would go or not.

From then on, the subject changed, we talked about other random things. I started to do some playful text messaging with her. For example, I sent her an audio of me playing drums and asked her to guess what the song was. That kind of thing.

P.S.: I rarely do that. I like to chat only to work out logistical things. But I thought "F*ck it. I feel good about this girl. I'll build rapport and see how it goes."

Apparently, it went wrong. I texted her "I want to see you this week" and then the chick just went ghost. WTF.

Sorry to hear that. Do not text her again. Check in here before you write back if she comes back to you. Remember, you do not need to reply back quickly!

 

[member160292]

OP, I think you were jumping through hoops to keep the attraction going like playing the drums and sending it to her. It might sound playful, but she sees it as a simp move to keep her attention. If she doesn’t have high interest, it’s just adding to the reasons to ghost you.
Her proposal to meet up with her friends sounds innocent enough, I would have went and showed them a fun time. Create some chaos by playfully flirting with her friends subtly, but don’t be a player.
Chicks love their emotions imbalanced, they thrive off it. Trying to send texts to be playful is extremely counter-productive as you have learned the hard way. They got the validation they need from you, they think they got you by the balls, the fun is over and on to the next one to emasculate for them

 

[BillyPilgrim]

OP, I think you were jumping through hoops to keep the attraction going like playing the drums and sending it to her. It might sound playful, but she sees it as a simp move to keep her attention. If she doesn’t have high interest, it’s just adding to the reasons to ghost you.
Her proposal to meet up with her friends sounds innocent enough, I would have went and showed them a fun time. Create some chaos by playfully flirting with her friends subtly, but don’t be a player.
Chicks love their emotions imbalanced, they thrive off it. Trying to send texts to be playful is extremely counter-productive as you have learned the hard way. They got the validation they need from you, they think they got you by the balls, the fun is over and on to the next one to emasculate for them

It's ok to send texts that are sexually playful ime

I think this girl might see OP as viewing her as a 2nd option, he didn't communicate for a couple of days and now she may think he's over doing it, kinda like when we talk about a girl being hot/cold because some other dude was in the picture.

I think OP is in Brazil too, that kinda changes things imo since it's a social/party country and also Catholic. It wasn't the best scenario, but maybe what she was trying to do is more socially accepted (hanging out in big groups, taking things slower sexually) over there

 

[Divorced w 3]

Tell her yea sounds good and then do a no show. Ghost the day.
Then when she texts you that night ignore her until she gets shytty with you then ask her.
"Whats your fcking problem"

Date 3 she wants the group. Nahh start fcking with her head. She is a sparring partner in the beginning. Got the nuts to do this you will reap some knowledge on the otherside.

All this rearranging and politely declining yadda yadda will get you no where. Date 3 this bytch should be chasing you not the group. Too early for that.

This is such a pimp move. I really wish I saw this earlier I absolutely would have endorsed this.

 

[Divorced w 3]

It's ok to send texts that are sexually playful ime

I think this girl might see OP as viewing her as a 2nd option, he didn't communicate for a couple of days and now she may think he's over doing it, kinda like when we talk about a girl being hot/cold because some other dude was in the picture.

I think OP is in Brazil too, that kinda changes things imo since it's a social/party country and also Catholic. It wasn't the best scenario, but maybe what she was trying to do is more socially accepted (hanging out in big groups, taking things slower sexually) over there

If he waited two days to respond that’s def it.

 

[holidayad_]

I think OP is in Brazil too

Right on spot.

taking things slower sexually

Actually, most chicks here are very calientes (horny af, in English), man. It's crazy. Btw, in a general sense, youthful here is totally f*cked up - endorse woke movement and stuff like that. Consequently, traditional values for most people from my generation it's like nothing. At least, here in Brazil.

Check in here before you write back if she comes back to you

This morning she gave me a call - which I didn't answer because I was in a meeting - and then she sent me a text message asking "What are we doing this Friday?". Checking here before answering it.

 

[Divorced w 3]

Right on spot.



Actually, most chicks here are very calientes (horny af, in English), man. It's crazy. Btw, in a general sense, youthful here is totally f*cked up - endorse woke movement and stuff like that. Consequently, traditional values for most people from my generation it's like nothing. At least, here in Brazil.



This morning she gave me a call - which I didn't answer because I was in a meeting - and then she sent me a text message asking "What are we doing this Friday?". Checking here before answering it.

Way to go. Did you have plans Friday with her?

 

[holidayad_]

Way to go. Did you have plans Friday with her?

Not really. I guess it was like an answer to my last text "I want to see you this week" before she went ghost and resurrect.

 

[Dr.Suave]

"What are we doing this Friday?"

She should already know what you are doing this Friday. You are the man. You lead, she follows.

 

[Divorced w 3]

Not really. I guess it was like an answer to my last text "I want to see you this week" before she went ghost and resurrect.

You tell her you’re busy this weekend and then you find a day for you, time and activity next week that works and you counter with that. From experience I will tell you do not get in a pattern of giving her weekends early on. It’s tough to unwind.