Dealing with this sh1t test

[Bingo-Player]

Approached a chick in the gym yesterday very attractive girl very responsive to my approach

Got her insta followed me back, I sent her some banter in the evening and arranged a date for Friday and she gave me the green light

Little bit more banter but I purposely left her last message unread and went to sleep as it was late

Replied this morning asking for her number and giving her details of the date

She just responds with some more banter , but no number ....... I haven't opened her message yet

Screams sh1t test to me and she seems the type to use them

Seems a little premature to hard next her at this stage though ?

Just wondering how you lot would proceed as I think I currently have HB blinkers stuck on and can't think clearly ?

 

[CornbreadFed]

Sounds like you got rejected and she does not want to be rude. Lets look at it in reverse situation. If some hot girl asked for your instagram at the gym and then followed up with a date, would you do the same thing? What if this girl was ugly and you didn't want to be rude and she followed up with a date?

Exactly!

 

[holidayad_]

I would go for it. I was going out with some girl that we only exchanged cellphone numbers by the 4th or 5th date.

 

[Dr.Suave]

Low interest. High probability of flake.

 

[Gamisch]

This one is more about the journey than the destination. What I mean is the process of approaching, talking and closing went pretty good even if you didn't get to bust a actual nut(yet).

Look,especially when you exchange IG, a lot can and will happen once she's at home. It basically becomes Tinder deluxe for her! She can scroll though your pictures, see your posts,stories and (ammount of) friends , (how many women and how hot are they!!)and she can and will judge you on this again.

That's why you gotta ask for her number and eliminate IG if possible. Unless she pushes for IG, if that's the case you already know it might as well be a soft rejection. Just say you dont have IG anymore or whatever, lost your password whatever. Just push for her number.

Only use IG if you KNOW that your IG will blow her away. Like driving a awesome car or you having a awesome house; so you can confidently show it off knowing it will impress her. If that's not the case, then don't use IG or FB.

 

[Bingo-Player]

Sounds like you got rejected and she does not want to be rude. Lets look at it in reverse situation. If some hot girl asked for your instagram at the gym and then followed up with a date, would you do the same thing? What if this girl was ugly and you didn't want to be rude and she followed up with a date?

Exactly!

Chicks above an 7 have absolutely no issue with being rude they dish out rejections and ghosts mercilessly across IRL , swipe apps and socials

She could have quite easily told me she has a boyfriend , not followed me back ,ghosted my initial message or declined the date offer

All of which would have been 100X simpler than where we are currently at

She's playing

Low interest. High probability of flake.

Suspect she could be an attention seeker last night she was responding to messages within 5 mins ,flirting and sending voice notes generally low interest wouldn't do this responses would be hours apart and dry

I agree on the potential flake , will respond with ****y funny and attempt to confirm the date once more maybe tomorrow

Anymore nonsense I will hard next

 

[Bingo-Player]

This one is more about the journey than the destination. What I mean is the process of approaching, talking and closing went pretty good even if you didn't get to bust a actual nut(yet).

Look,especially when you exchange IG, a lot can and will happen once she's at home. It basically becomes Tinder deluxe for her! She can scroll though your pictures, see your posts,stories and (ammount of) friends , (how many women and how hot are they!!)and she can and will judge you on this again.

That's why you gotta ask for her number and eliminate IG if possible. Unless she pushes for IG, if that's the case you already know it might as well be a soft rejection. Just say you dont have IG anymore or whatever, lost your password whatever. Just push for her number.

Only use IG if you KNOW that your IG will blow her away. Like driving a awesome car or you having a awesome house; so you can confidently show it off knowing it will impress her. If that's not the case, then don't use IG or FB.

I asked for her insta because I wanted to check her out , I agree in this case it probably would have been better to go for the number

But we live and learn

Was very happy with the approach and her response so will take confidence from that

This was her

 

[Gamisch]

I asked for her insta because I wanted to check her out , I agree in this case it probably would have been better to go for the number

But we live and learn

Was very happy with the approach and her response so will take confidence from that

This was her

I get that.

I don't like sharing IG because of what i said , plus if things don't work out ( as in no sex) perhaps I'll have to go through the feminine act of removing her, or wait untill.she removes me . Maybe its a bs reason I admit...

On top of that it creates an extra barrier, because now you'll STILL have to sweet talk to her to get her number..so she only allowed you to slide in her DM..WhatsApp conversation is always more personal, and a phonecall beats both WhatsApp and social media.

First thing I learned when working construction was to never carry the same item twice/ take it in yourhands one time....

 

[The Duke]

All that matters is this....she didn't take you up on your offer. You can step all over your dihk with a chic that has high interest and its not a big deal, but I don't see where you did anything wrong.

Go find 5 more and maybe come back to this one at a later date.

The time spent over analyzing is better spent finding more girls.

 

[CornbreadFed]

Chicks above an 7 have absolutely no issue with being rude they dish out rejections and ghosts mercilessly across IRL , swipe apps and socials

She could have quite easily told me she has a boyfriend , not followed me back ,ghosted my initial message or declined the date offer

All of which would have been 100X simpler than where we are currently at

She's playing

She just wants to toy with you. I do that to girls all of the time because I like the ego stroke. Regardless, she's not interested.

 

[Bingo-Player]

She just wants to toy with you. I do that to girls all of the time because I like the ego stroke. Regardless, she's not interested.

You are on here all the time chatting rubbish about swipe apps being the best thing since sliced bread ,

your opinion is worthless to me

 

[Barrister]

I feel a flake coming your way for Friday evening. You said she initially gave the "green light." Meaning she said Friday sounds great before you asked for her number?

I would go silent at this point with no more banter unless she initiates. I would, however, send a confirming text Friday morning. Not a "are we still on?" text but a "Let's talk about what you're going to wear tonight" text. That way you don't waste your time.

 

[Bingo-Player]

I feel a flake coming your way for Friday evening. You said she initially gave the "green light." Meaning she said Friday sounds great before you asked for her number?

I would go silent at this point with no more banter unless she initiates. I would, however, send a confirming text Friday morning. Not a "are we still on?" text but a "Let's talk about what you're going to wear tonight" text. That way you don't waste your time.

I have similar suspicions and suspect she is a classic hot/cold type ,I doubt I will leave it as late as Friday for confirmation.

Yea initially she agreed and said we can definitely arrange something , but today ignored my request for her number and instead responded with some banter I'd been referring too earlier in the conversation

It feels like a test to me , to see wether I will ask her again or get angry that she didn't send it ( otherwise why bother replying at all )

I sent a ****y response and ignored the fact she hadn't sent it .

Tomorrow I will reaffirm the date if she shrugs me off again she defenitley has cold feet and from there I go ghost.

I haven't had a hot / cold girl like this in a long long time so will be interesting to see the outcome

Either way she's a baddy and this experience alone will have been worth the 2 day headache.

 

[CornbreadFed]

You are on here all the time chatting rubbish about swipe apps being the best thing since sliced bread ,

your opinion is worthless to me

Hope strategy is strong

 

[soulforge]

Honestly man some of these chicks love to toy with a man.

Some months back I got talking to this chick in the gym, she was Hella fit.

She sounded very keen, told me she is single etc. We exchanged Facebook.

So I contact her the following day and try arrange a date. She tells me that she is LESBIAN and doesn't date men.

Haha absolute jokes

 

[Bingo-Player]

Honestly man some of these chicks love to toy with a man.

Some months back I got talking to this chick in the gym, she was Hella fit.

She sounded very keen, told me she is single etc. We exchanged Facebook.

So I contact her the following day and try arrange a date. She tells me that she is LESBIAN and doesn't date men.

Haha absolute jokes

Yea i’ve seen , heard and witnessed a lot of odd behaviours myself in my time and if i hadn’t slept with a lot of women i’d start to think i was going crazy

as men we really struggle to see the benefits of all this nonsense, ultimately we just want to get the broad on a date and smash her

looking at it from a female perspective i’d imagine it’s a bit of a rush to have a man dangling on a string , probably in some cases more of a rush than actually submitting and having sex with him


But honestly I’m not really sure what they get out of it when the man won’t play and ends up removing her from his interests quickly which is where this chick of mine is headed

I know Female dating strategies absolutely abhor men who fast next women trying to use them

I think a part of the female mind has the ultimate goal of have men running around drooling after them for months on end with absolutely nothing coming from it

 

[The Duke]

Don't forget the currency being traded. Women want attention/validation. We want sex. You don't keep sticking coins in the vending machine when it refuses to drop a candy bar do you?

 

[BoostedArrow]

Waiting for the date and then getting the number is your best bet. Getting things (like numbers) is way easier in person with girls.

I'm curious to hear how it'll turn out and what you'll report back to us.

 

[RazorRambo24]

Not everything is a shi.t test. Girls will be nice and give you their insta. if she followed you back, that's a nice gesture but I'm pretty sure after she realized you were into her in a diff way than just friendly and she's letting you know shes not interested without saying it bluntly as no girl wants to hear "fucc you then b.itch, youre probably a fuccin slut anyways .. " something they get alot from crazies and yet never get used to.. Unlike men they are not used to acts or gestures of serious aggression.. whereas men we are aggressive af and ready to fight each other quite often over nothing

Here's a golden rule for any and all men in here: If you're not used to dating girls who are 7+, or plating them, what makes you think a random 7+ is interested in you? had your lucky charms on that day and shes supposed to be the one that changes the trend?

 

[BillyPilgrim]

I asked for her insta because I wanted to check her out , I agree in this case it probably would have been better to go for the number

But we live and learn

Was very happy with the approach and her response so will take confidence from that

This was her

She's hot. I saw your UK location and then saw the thumbnail, and my first thought was the Loch Ness Monster. But she's hot.