Kicked a disrespectful 304 out of my house tonight!

[The Duke]

I already made a post about this chick few days ago. Been seeing her around 6 weeks!

Today she came to my house and I made dinner for her. Something I noticed is, throught dinner she kept going on her Instagram. I asked her politely not to do that as I want to enjoy this meal without social media in the way!

How did she respond? Well she became agressive, argumentative, gaslighting etc etc.

This behaviour completely Turned me off... Later in the night I didn't have sex with her.

Why? Because I was completely turned off by her. Honestly any type of sexual attraction I had for her, went out of the window.

My dik literally couldn't get hard, after she raised her voice at me and became very argumentative and agressive.

Later in the night around 3am she woke me up and asked me why I didn't have sex with her.

I told her the brutal truth... Your behaviour was disrespectful and out of order and I simply won't tolerate that.

Again she became agressive and argumentative and blamed me for everything and began gaslighting!

So how did I deal with that at 3am in the morning? I told her to get the fuk out of my house and leave!

This is a chick I cooked for, treated like a guest and her Instagram became more important than my efforts for her.

Then came the attitude!

I literally felt like I have no choice but to kick her the fuk out.

Good for you. I would have done the same thing. She deserved getting the boot at 3am for running her mouth a 2nd time. Comply or bye.

I used to date a girl and when we would head out on a date, she would pull out her phone driving down the road while we were trying to have a nice conversation and not seen each other all week. After a few times of nicely asking her to stop and her not getting the message, I turned the truck around and went home. Told her she could spend the whole nite on her phone, I was doing something else without her.

For me I like quality time and that means someone's undivided attention. There's a time and a place for playing around on your phone and its not on a date.

@soulforge this one would have showed even more schitty behavior down the road. She can't accept constructive criticism. People like that make relationships difficult.

 

[The Duke]

Play your cards right and she'll come back crawling.

Women love dudes that set hard boundaries and stand by them. Just not at first

You are very right, She probably will. But eventually a man has to reach a point that he surrounds himself with better women. Even keeping these types around for sex keeps a man from bettering himself. You are the company you keep.

 

[RazorRambo24]

Good for you for kicking her out. I can't recall how many women I've kicked out of my place throughout the years.. It's funny seein my dudes look at my face whenever a girl is actin wild obnoxious and or crazy/disrespectful to see how I'm going to react--just waiting for me to kick them out. Then again we've hung out with alot of drunk bimbos we pick up from the bars/clubs..

 

[BillyPilgrim]

Good for you for kicking her out. I can't recall how many women I've kicked out of my place throughout the years.. It's funny seein my dudes look at my face whenever a girl is actin wild obnoxious and or crazy/disrespectful to see how I'm going to react--just waiting for me to kick them out. Then again we've hung out with alot of drunk bimbos we pick up from the bars/clubs..

Gotta be careful when you run strangers out of town, Rambo.

 

[Gamisch]

Good for you for kicking her out. I can't recall how many women I've kicked out of my place throughout the years.. It's funny seein my dudes look at my face whenever a girl is actin wild obnoxious and or crazy/disrespectful to see how I'm going to react--just waiting for me to kick them out. Then again we've hung out with alot of drunk bimbos we pick up from the bars/clubs..

I used to kick women out real fast too. One time I had to work a one day job for a public transportation company doing a big promotion. They made pairs and I ofcourse get this short haired hot blonde girl who was over me all day, and at the end of the shift invited herself to my crib.

Kinda like Sarge's situation. She got a call ,went to the hallway and stayed for ten minutes. I asked who it was and it was in the way she said "nobody ", which made me kick her out on the spot.

When I even write it I feel like an idiot, a over emotional man who should stay just a tad calmer...

Play your cards right and she'll come back crawling.

Women love dudes that set hard boundaries and stand by them. Just not at first

Yes probably. The only thing that makes it tricky is the short period of six weeks. Might've been too short to put an imprint.

Still I feel like a man should be more aloof and less emotional.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

I used to kick women out real fast too. One time i had to work a one day job for a public transportation company doing a big promotion. They made pairs and I ofcourse fet this short haired hot blonde girl who was over me all day, and at the end of the shift invited herself to my crib.

Kinda like Sarge's situation. She got a call ,went to the hallway and stayed for ten minutes. I asked who it was and it was in the way she said "nobody ", which made me kick her out on the spot.

When I even write it I feel like an idiot, a over emotional man who should stay just a tad calmer...

Yes probably. The only thing that makes ot tricky is the short period of six weeks. Might've been too short to put an imprint.

Still i feel like a man should be more aloof and less emotional.

I'll go a little easier on ya man, that blonde girl also had short hair. She was additionally taking charge of the interaction (trying to lead things it sounds like). If the girl's in charge, it's not her in charge it's her whimsical emotions.

These things add up.

 

[ThisIsSparta]

I already made a post about this chick few days ago. Been seeing her around 6 weeks!

Today she came to my house and I made dinner for her. Something I noticed is, throught dinner she kept going on her Instagram. I asked her politely not to do that as I want to enjoy this meal without social media in the way!

How did she respond? Well she became agressive, argumentative, gaslighting etc etc.

This behaviour completely Turned me off... Later in the night I didn't have sex with her.

Why? Because I was completely turned off by her. Honestly any type of sexual attraction I had for her, went out of the window.

My dik literally couldn't get hard, after she raised her voice at me and became very argumentative and agressive.

Later in the night around 3am she woke me up and asked me why I didn't have sex with her.

I told her the brutal truth... Your behaviour was disrespectful and out of order and I simply won't tolerate that.

Again she became agressive and argumentative and blamed me for everything and began gaslighting!

So how did I deal with that at 3am in the morning? I told her to get the fuk out of my house and leave!

This is a chick I cooked for, treated like a guest and her Instagram became more important than my efforts for her.

Then came the attitude!

I literally felt like I have no choice but to kick her the fuk out.

That was justified from what i read here.

She disrespected you, she was not compliant and she escalated the topic 2 times in a couple of hours.

3 o clock or not, she needed to walk, otherwise you might have been end up arguing all night. There are bytches out there not knowing when to shut up and they need to learn it the hard way.

 

[soulforge]

You should have kicked her out earlier. From your previous thread I said may

That was justified from what i read here.

She disrespected you, she was not compliant and she escalated the topic 2 times in a couple of hours.

3 o clock or not, she needed to walk, otherwise you might have been end up arguing all night. There are bytches out there not knowing when to shut up and they need to learn it the hard way.

I actually don't feel good about this. Kicking a girl out at 3am isn't really my nature. I rather just let her stay and tell her to Walk first thing in the morning.

However fueled with alcohol, I kinda couldn't help but tell her to get the F out.

This is one of the reasons I have decided to quit drinking.

Something I need to clarify.. Maybe I typed my original post incorrectly.

She didn't actually pull her phone out and begin using it at my dinner table. She did that the last 2-3 occasions when she came over.

However on this gone Saturday, I simply mentioned to her, Hey at the dinner table I feel like it's best we don't use our phones, nothing wrong with a little time out, from our devices when having a meal. I actually aimed this at myself too, not just her.

However she took things the wrong way, and kept arguing about how it's not possible to curb a persons phone usage. I don't care about her phone usage.. just not at my dinner table.

So yeh chit just escalated. I kinda feel bad about it too, as because of the alcohol I over reacted with anger.

Ideally I should have let her carry on being combative. Simply gone to bed and got some sleep. In the morning politely ask her to leave as I have chit to do.

And no I haven't heard from her.. I actually removed her off my Facebook book.

However she has my contact number, can easily text me, or ring me. But I doubt I will hear from her again.

 

[Learning Curve]

I actually don't feel good about this. Kicking a girl out at 3am isn't really my nature. I rather just let her stay and tell her to Walk first thing in the morning.

However fueled with alcohol, I kinda couldn't help but tell her to get the F out.

This is one of the reasons I have decided to quit drinking.

Something I need to clarify.. Maybe I typed my original post incorrectly.

She didn't actually pull her phone out and begin using it at my dinner table. She did that the last 2-3 occasions when she came over.

However on this gone Saturday, I simply mentioned to her, Hey at the dinner table I feel like it's best we don't use our phones, nothing wrong with a little time out, from our devices when having a meal. I actually aimed this at myself too, not just her.

However she took things the wrong way, and kept arguing about how it's not possible to curb a persons phone usage. I don't care about her phone usage.. just not at my dinner table.

So yeh chit just escalated. I kinda feel bad about it too, as because of the alcohol I over reacted with anger.

Ideally I should have let her carry on being combative. Simply gone to bed and got some sleep. In the morning politely ask her to leave as I have chit to do.

And no I haven't heard from her.. I actually removed her off my Facebook book.

However she has my contact number, can easily text me, or ring me. But I doubt I will hear from her again.

I already made a post about this chick few days ago. Been seeing her around 6 weeks!

Today she came to my house and I made dinner for her. Something I noticed is, throught dinner she kept going on her Instagram. I asked her politely not to do that as I want to enjoy this meal without social media in the way!

How did she respond? Well she became agressive, argumentative, gaslighting etc etc.

This behaviour completely Turned me off... Later in the night I didn't have sex with her.

Why? Because I was completely turned off by her. Honestly any type of sexual attraction I had for her, went out of the window.

My dik literally couldn't get hard, after she raised her voice at me and became very argumentative and agressive.

Later in the night around 3am she woke me up and asked me why I didn't have sex with her.

I told her the brutal truth... Your behaviour was disrespectful and out of order and I simply won't tolerate that.

Again she became agressive and argumentative and blamed me for everything and began gaslighting!

So how did I deal with that at 3am in the morning? I told her to get the fuk out of my house and leave!

This is a chick I cooked for, treated like a guest and her Instagram became more important than my efforts for her.

Then came the attitude!

I literally felt like I have no choice but to kick her the fuk out.

She became aggressive because her level of respect dropped for you quite dramatically.

Most of us probably would have responded the same way and told her about that phone. But here is the catch.

You could have actually pulled up your phone and ignored her. Why?

Well because it gives her the message of the same level of disrespect she is giving to you. I have done this in the past and you know what the response was?

Her: Why you are on the phone when you are with me?
Me: Are you not doing the same thing?
Her: So you are doing this to take revenge on me?
Me: Do you like my little revenge?
Her: You are a d1ick. Fine, I will stop.

But this is an exception. She never got defensive or aggressive. She realized what she was doing wrong. But this is not the case with all the chicks.

When she tried to kiss you you should have gone for sex that's my opinion. But if you got turned off indeed it's a lost cause. But I don't believe you are that turned off since you are saying that "maybe I was too aggressive" means you care.

Let her chase, but again you lost nothing, this chick once again showed that:

"I have nothing to do, let him cook for me as I'm bored if sex happens that's fine if not again I'm fine, and while he is cooking let me scroll in social media"

 

[soulforge]

She became aggressive because her level of respect dropped for you quite dramatically.

Most of us probably would have responded the same way and told her about that phone. But here is the catch.

You could have actually pulled up your phone and ignored her. Why?

Well because it gives her the message of the same level of disrespect she is giving to you. I have done this in the past and you know what the response was?

Her: Why you are on the phone when you are with me?
Me: Are you not doing the same thing?
Her: So you are doing this to take revenge on me?
Me: Do you like my little revenge?
Her: You are a d1ick. Fine, I will stop.

But this is an exception. She never got defensive or aggressive. She realized what she was doing wrong. But this is not the case with all the chicks.

When she tried to kiss you you should have gone for sex that's my opinion. But if you got turned off indeed it's a lost cause. But I don't believe you are that turned off since you are saying that "maybe I was too aggressive" means you care.

Let her chase, but again you lost nothing, this chick once again showed that:

"I have nothing to do, let him cook for me as I'm bored if sex happens that's fine if not again I'm fine, and while he is cooking let me scroll in social media"

Thanks for the reply. I think everyone will have a different version on how to deal with this type of situation.

Some might mirror her actions just like you suggested. Some will call her out and observe how she reacts to that.

Call me old fashioned man, but my dik is a REWARD for her... My attention my time.

I didn't respond to the kiss, because I simply wasn't enjoying her company any longer, it became a little tense.

Also the kiss she gave me, was more of her trying to lower the tension kiss, rather than a "Bend me over" kiss.

Hey it is what it is.

Ideally she should have apologized to me, and then maybe we could have salvaged the night.

 

[Learning Curve]

Thanks for the reply. I think everyone will have a different version on how to deal with this type of situation.

Some might mirror her actions just like you suggested. Some will call her out and observe how she reacts to that.

Call me old fashioned man, but my dik is a REWARD for her... My attention my time.

I didn't respond to the kiss, because I simply wasn't enjoying her company any longer, it became a little tense.

Also the kiss she gave me, was more of her trying to lower the tension kiss, rather than a "Bend me over" kiss.

Hey it is what it is.

Ideally she should have apologized to me, and then maybe we could have salvaged the night.

Yep, but since the chick seems play-hard-to-get mentality you are way off better with a chick that is going to respect your time.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Good for you for kicking her out. I can't recall how many women I've kicked out of my place throughout the years.. It's funny seein my dudes look at my face whenever a girl is actin wild obnoxious and or crazy/disrespectful to see how I'm going to react--just waiting for me to kick them out. Then again we've hung out with alot of drunk bimbos we pick up from the bars/clubs..

Honestly if that happens regularly, you probably should be focusing on getting better quality women.

Or you are the type that tries to create a major problem our of minor things.

 

[soulforge]

Honestly if that happens regularly, you probably should be focusing on getting better quality women.

Or you are the type that tries to create a major problem our of minor things.

Actually i'm pretty chill with chicks. However she he needs to atleast have some level of common courtesy, and she should be able to handle that odd occasion of constructive criticism without her losing her mind over it.

 

[Solomon]

OP you did the right thing, my only thing is this is a boundary I establish early on with women especially if were cuddling watching a movie

But I digress I run two businesses so I'm on my phone a lot, I had a girl mad at me once but I'm not letting a thot get in between me and my paper

 

[soulforge]

Been there. Got her home from the bar. 2x LMR and said. Welp you gotta go. Kicked her out. Lol

Damn was this just a plate or someone you seeing.

 

[Barrister]

OP,

I think you overall did the right thing by giving her the boot. Not because of the phone per se, but because of the attitude and the gas lighting. Those are the real issues here. Because they are foreshadowing of what would be to come with this chick. So you saved yourself a huge headache.

Now, I will say I think you could be slightly more tolerant and it wouldn't be a bad thing. People have to be on their phones a lot in this day in age. Instagram is one thing, but if someone is checking email, etc., I think being more tolerant is a good thing so long as it isn't going on for 10+ minutes at the expense of whatever you doing together.

 

[Gamisch]

She became aggressive because her level of respect dropped for you quite dramatically.

Most of us probably would have responded the same way and told her about that phone. But here is the catch.

You could have actually pulled up your phone and ignored her. Why?

Well because it gives her the message of the same level of disrespect she is giving to you. I have done this in the past and you know what the response was?

Her: Why you are on the phone when you are with me?
Me: Are you not doing the same thing?
Her: So you are doing this to take revenge on me?
Me: Do you like my little revenge?
Her: You are a d1ick. Fine, I will stop.

But this is an exception. She never got defensive or aggressive. She realized what she was doing wrong. But this is not the case with all the chicks.

When she tried to kiss you you should have gone for sex that's my opinion. But if you got turned off indeed it's a lost cause. But I don't believe you are that turned off since you are saying that "maybe I was too aggressive" means you care.

Let her chase, but again you lost nothing, this chick once again showed that:

"I have nothing to do, let him cook for me as I'm bored if sex happens that's fine if not again I'm fine, and while he is cooking let me scroll in social media"

Yes.Every interaction with a woman is a book, existing out of different chapters. Lets say 10 chapters.

Chapter 1-3 was all fun and games. Chapter 4 you put her on a pedestal (unconsciously). You'd think chapter 5 she appreciates you and your effort, BUT the opposite happened.

Chapter 6 she's disrespectful and chapter 7 she tries to kiss you. How do you want this book to end?

Chapter 8-10 could've been about how you hate fecked her. You already read this book before, no surprises. Little silly girl tries to stir up the pot to get some agression from you.

Democratically the opinion here is that OP is right despite OP STILL feeling like shyte due how it ended. Imo he missed an opportunity to
- let her know hos rules and laws
- punish-feck the shyte outta her and thus make her actually more submissive.

E.g :i knew a woman who would CURSE you if you'd tell her good night or good morning. The type of woman who only knows power, and is turned off by any form of weakness. Extreme case, but also extremely good learning experience


Edit: e.g " I've warned you before about that damn phone. You know bad girls who don't listen get punished."


This way you get your point acros, plus you make it sexual. She keeps doing it? You walk up to her and pull her hair/ smack her azz HARD. She probably will challenge you even more....

 

[soulforge]

OP you did the right thing, my only thing is this is a boundary I establish early on with women especially if were cuddling watching a movie

But I digress I run two businesses so I'm on my phone a lot, I had a girl mad at me once but I'm not letting a thot get in between me and my paper

Yeh actually I am on my phone too quite abit, however I don't do any social media at all.. I have a couple of YouTube channels and I make money off them, so 90% of time, you see me on my phone it's actually business related.

She actually pulled that one on me...

"Hey your on your phone alot too"

I am yes business related. However I'm not telling you to spend less time on your phone, I'm simply stating not on my dinner table.

Big difference.

 

[soulforge]

Here is where I think I fuked up with this situation.

Round One Argument.. Well I simply Shut her down when she began becoming combative and i let her know, that it's my rules in my house, she can either accept that, or leave!

Later that night around 9ish she went upto my bedroom to sleep, as the atmosphere was not quite good between us.

I thought to myself, this is good, when it's morning time I will tell her to leave.

It was early in the night, so I decided to chill with some music and enjoy a few vodkas. I actually haven't had a drink in a good while.

Some hours later, I've had around 4 vodkas and a beer, and was getting quite tipsy, so thought best get to bed.

She was asleep in my bed, I'm actually a DJ, so before hitting the bed, I decided to spin a few tracks. The music wasn't too loud, actually quite low, but it's woke her up.

She asked me to turn it down, which I did. She then mentioned something about us not having sex, and began complaining etc.

I was already quite drunk, and definitely didn't want to end up in another argument with her, so I tried to shut her down, but she kept going.

Anyway because I was quite tipsy I acted in a way that I normally wouldn't have.

I simply told her, you need to fukin leave right now. I'm not in the mood to argue, get the fuk out!

I offered to call her an Uber and offered to give her some uber money but she declined. She grabbed her chit and left.

I seriously think I could have handled things better if only I had not been under the influence of alcohol.

Getting angry with a chick is pointless. Raising your voice, swearing etc, telling her to get the fuk out at 3am is pointless.

Calm silence is the answer, then politely telling her to leave in the morning is ALWAYS the best way.

I think because I wasn't expecting her to wake up and kick off again, I decided to keep drinking, as my plan was to simply go to bed and sleep.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Actually i'm pretty chill with chicks. However she he needs to atleast have some level of common courtesy, and she should be able to handle that odd occasion of constructive criticism without her losing her mind over it.

That was directed at the poster I quoted not at you, btw...