3rd date with her friends

[holidayad_]

Hey guys,

So, I want some advice from you guys for the following situation.

I went on two dates with a girl and after a few days without contacting her she texted me saying she wanted to go out with her friends and with me and my friends, to a "lively" place, on what would be a "3rd date".

What would you do? Would you go alone or with a wing man, or would you just not go?

 

[Divorced w 3]

Generally not a fan of this. Having the minimal time you have spent together, too much is out of your control to direct the narrative of your situation. I took a girl once out with my boys after about a 5 or 6 date period and it didn’t even go well. And that was a friendly crowd. I would not recommend.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

I'd lean towards not going and giving a counter-offer. What has been the extent of your sexualization with this girl so far? If you do go and you it ends up being a power play/scrutiny fest she's orchestrating (to see how her friends like how, how you would react to the situation, etc), be sure to check out the other girls (including her friends) at the venue.

 

[Divorced w 3]

I'd lean towards not going and giving a counter-offer. What has been the extent of your sexualization with this girl so far? If you do go and you it ends up being a power play/scrutiny fest she's orchestrating, be sure to check out the other girls (including her friends) at the venue.

Personally I wouldn’t counter offer as it would tip his hand about not wanting to go. Imo I would just say thanks have a great time but I am doing something and definitely let me know how it goes

 

[SW15]

I wouldn't go and meet her friends at this point.

 

[holidayad_]

Generally not a fan of this. Having the minimal time you have spent together, too much is out of your control to direct the narrative of your situation. I took a girl once out with my boys after about a 5 or 6 date period and it didn’t even go well. And that was a friendly crowd. I would not recommend.

I see. I'm not comfortable going. It sounds like some test or opportunity that they are wanting for "free drinks". What happened when you went out with your guys that didn't go well?

I'd lean towards not going and giving a counter-offer. What has been the extent of your sexualization with this girl so far? If you do go and you it ends up being a power play/scrutiny fest she's orchestrating (to see how her friends like how, how you would react to the situation, etc), be sure to check out the other girls (including her friends) at the venue.

Got it. Well, I banged her in the first date. Second date we went bowling, got some drinks but not closed the deal again. If you do go, would you think that it would be okay to go alone, or it would be better to bring some fellas?

 

[Divorced w 3]

I see. I'm not comfortable going. It sounds like some test or opportunity that they are wanting for "free drinks". What happened when you went out with your guys that didn't go well?

48 laws of power, law 2. Friends are prone to screw you. They know you inside and out. I’d trust them with my life but that doesn’t mean they aren’t gonna give me ****.

Secondly, I don’t know it’s so much about free drinks as it is about her controlling the situation completely. I went out with her friends 5-6 weeks in and absolutely killed it, to this nightclub on Staten Island and it was almost comical. If you’re not sniper level sharp on your nightgame do not do it.

 

[SW15]

I'm not comfortable going.

It is simple then. Don't go.

I banged her in the first date.

Solid outcome. At some point, you'll propose a third date. That will be a one-on-one date.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

I see. I'm not comfortable going. It sounds like some test or opportunity that they are wanting for "free drinks". What happened when you went out with your guys that didn't go well?



Got it. Well, I banged her in the first date. Second date we went bowling, got some drinks but not closed the deal again. If you do go, would you think that it would be okay to go alone, or it would be better to bring some fellas?

If you go, go alone. You can always be friendly and sociable with her friends and the people at the venue to demonstrate you're a social person. Since you've banged already I would imagine this is more of a "comfort sh1t test" than a validation or power play at this point. She might just want to see your more "natural" side and less of your "player" side so she can feel more comfortable with having a sexual relationship. If that's you in your pic, you do have a bit of a player vibe.

 

[RazorRambo24]

Hey guys,

So, I want some advice from you guys for the following situation.

I went on two dates with a girl and after a few days without contacting her she texted me saying she wanted to go out with her friends and with me and my friends, to a "lively" place, on what would be a "3rd date".

What would you do? Would you go alone or with a wing man, or would you just not go?

Why wouldn't you go ? Confused at you asking that as an option.. Chick clearly wants to see what your friends are like.. Something that girls do when they're interested in finding out more about you.

 

[Dr.Suave]

If you had not had sex yet this would be a terrible idea. But you already banged her at least once so its up to you how you want to play your cards.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

Why wouldn't you go ? Confused at you asking that as an option.. Chick clearly wants to see what your friends are like.. Something that girls do when they're interested in finding out more about you.

Imo OP should think twice about bringing a wingman or any overtly player-type dudes. If his friends are an asset, then yes

 

[Divorced w 3]

Why wouldn't you go ? Confused at you asking that as an option.. Chick clearly wants to see what your friends are like.. Something that girls do when they're interested in finding out more about you.

Fvck that - you’re ‘alpha’ and you care what she wants?

 

[RazorRambo24]

Fvck that - you’re ‘alpha’ and you care what she wants?

As an alpha male, I'm not threatened by a woman asking me out where her friends will be or telling me to invite my friends.. Nuff said.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Nah...meeting the friends is something that happens after banging her not before.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

Nah...meeting the friends is something that happens after banging her not before.

They've banged. On the first date but not the 2nd. This would be the 3rd.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

They've banged. On the first date but not the 2nd. This would be the 3rd.

Hmm...even so, to me it seems a little too soon to be doing stuff with others. They barely know each other, dates should be focused on improving that not adding others to the mix.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

Hmm...even so, to me it seems a little too soon to be doing stuff with others. They barely know each other, dates should be focused on improving that not adding others to the mix.

I'm thinking they maybe banged too soon for the girl's tastes

 

[holidayad_]

I'm thinking they maybe banged too soon for the girl's tastes

In a sense that she looks like more like LTR material? Don't think that I get it.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

In a sense that she looks like more like LTR material? Don't think that I get it.

Buyer's remorse/ASD. It may not be that she looks like LTR material to you, but she would like to regard herself as such.