Teasing vs insulting or being a ****

[anour]

DJ’s everybody know that teasing is one of the methods of flirting. I tease a lot and sometimes i feel that people perceive it as insulting as i see people are repelled by teasing.


For example, there is this girl who is also short, who i speak to every once and a while. Today we spoke and asking about plans for the summer and she said she is going to an island for a vacation. Since she is short and tiny my instinct was to ask her if she was going to wear floaties (the yellow things kids use when learning how to swim) to me that **** is funny, but her facial expressions said otherwise (kinda).

My question is am i being a **** or is that appropriate form of teasing?

 

[anour]

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[Dr.Suave]

I think its more how you say it than the actual words. Body language, tone of voice, sexual tension, etc

 

[kavi]

I feel that things are changing fast and concepts like teasing and negging dont work aswell anymore. Personally I would feel kinda beta a doing so as it feels try-hard. I would rather just be cool, and say nice things here and there but less is more in these situations for me. Negging and teasing feels like I am bringing myself down to toxiticity.

 

[HaleyBaron]

The game is different for everyone. I embrace my boyhood and treat women like I did when I was in grade school. I especially do it toward obvious hoes. For more introverted, trad girls, I'm usually a little better. I still tease them, but not as much as a girl with OnlyFans. You have to bring them down to that level because they are suffering an overdose of attention from guys lusting for them. Meanwhile, their insecurities are at their greatest so they have no respect for men that simp for them.

You have to have experience with women and know where they come from so you can adjust yourself. I use to feel like I did something bad when I upset a girl or when a girl called me an a*shole. But seeing that they just come back to me after saying that means it's not a bad thing. We were conditioned to never upset women and this is a wrong philosophy.

 

[anour]

I think its more how you say it than the actual words. Body language, tone of voice, sexual tension, etc

What kind of bodylanguge, tonality should you aim for?

 

[Dr.Suave]

What kind of bodylanguge, tonality should you aim for?

Im not sure I can put it into words but be C0cky & Funny when possible, Agree & Amplify when possible, maybe a little push-pull here and there, Smirk, good eye contact, have fun, enjoy the interaction.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

I’ve found girls are fine with gentle teasing. I’d stay away from insulting as modt are very insecure & get hurt.

 

[We_ArE_VeNOM]

"F#ck'em if they can't take a joke".

-My Drill Sergeant

 

[anour]

I feel that things are changing fast and concepts like teasing and negging dont work aswell anymore. Personally I would feel kinda beta a doing so as it feels try-hard. I would rather just be cool, and say nice things here and there but less is more in these situations for me. Negging and teasing feels like I am bringing myself down to toxiticity.

Kinda feel the same but i feel only girls of very low interest would label it as toxicity.

I’ve found girls are fine with gentle teasing. I’d stay away from insulting as modt are very insecure & get hurt.

can you define gentle teasing with an example? How about the one in the post is it gentle or insulting?

 

[anour]

W

"F#ck'em if they can't take a joke".

-My Drill Sergeant

We be tryna f8ck em that’s for sure. It’s simply a behavioral type of thing.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

Kinda feel the same but i feel only girls of very low interest would label it as toxicity.

can you define gentle teasing with an example? How about the one in the post is it gentle or insulting?

I’m not familiar with ‘floatie’. So I can’t comment on that. Generally avoid teasing about physical features. I teased a girl about her hat. She was fine with that. There are a fee girls I’ve encountered who are very self confident. They tend to be 30’s +. They are fine with snarky. semi-insulting teasing. But. You have to be able to identify them.

 

[RazorRambo24]

No two people are going to react the same way to a joke. Women are quite complex/quite different when it comes to personalities.

The other thing is she didn't necessarily say shes going swimming.. she said shes going to an island for vacation so your joke was a bit misplaced.. Rather you could have continued the convo , asking her where she's going before jumping straight into what sounds like a misplaced joke. Sounds like you just blurted it out nervously in a way.. maybe she didnt know what a floatie was and since she didnt say anything about swimming she prob thought u were sayin some creep ****

In her mind it prob had the same effect as asking her if she was wearing panties or some sht

 

[anour]

No two people are going to react the same way to a joke. Women are quite complex/quite different when it comes to personalities.

The other thing is she didn't necessarily say shes going swimming.. she said shes going to an island for vacation so your joke was a bit misplaced.. Rather you could have continued the convo , asking her where she's going before jumping straight into what sounds like a misplaced joke. Sounds like you just blurted it out nervously in a way.. maybe she didnt know what a floatie was and since she didnt say anything about swimming she prob thought u were sayin some creep ****

In her mind it prob had the same effect as asking her if she was wearing panties or some sht

Idk how you came to that conclusion but in all honesty it’s wack. I do however agree with leading up to a tease would be more effective so you have my probs on that one, it’s better to lead conversations in that sense.

 

[RazorRambo24]

Idk how you came to that conclusion but in all honesty it’s wack. I do however agree with leading up to a tease would be more effective so you have my probs on that one, it’s better to lead conversations in that sense.

What conclusion is wack? I mean you said some random forced ass joke to a girl who probably doesn't know you well, and you got a weird face and suddenly reacted to it like a beta male..

Alphas dont care what face a girl makes, we stand by what we say anyways.

Ill give you a good example of this from myself:
I was at a Cuban bar that is basically like a nightclub after 12 midnight, .. I was standing by some random table and realized I hadnt really been drinkin any water th ewhole day so I saw an untouched water at a table and jus started drinking it.. This latina girl comes up to me and says "hey thast my drink, you cant drin kthat".. i just looked at her like oh my bad, smirked and took another sip of it.. long story short, it led to us flirting and dancing, I improvised and was able to wing dancing Merengue which i didnt know how to, and ended up going home with her. Any other dude woulda been like embarrassed, put the drink down and said sorry and walked away..

P.s. You're still a young dude whos learning how to just be a man..not even at a man stage yet.. i wouldnt question sh.t until you have an empire of your own. Currently just reading the stuff yout ype, you're worried about your face size, head size, height,.. you're like a tadpole in life.. swimming wit no legs just a tail right now.. I wouldn't question my logic at all from where you stand.

 

[anour]

What conclusion is wack? I mean you said some random forced ass joke to a girl who probably doesn't know you well, and you got a weird face and suddenly reacted to it like a beta male..

Alphas dont care what face a girl makes, we stand by what we say anyways.

Ill give you a good example of this from myself:
I was at a Cuban bar that is basically like a nightclub after 12 midnight, .. I was standing by some random table and realized I hadnt really been drinkin any water th ewhole day so I saw an untouched water at a table and jus started drinking it.. This latina girl comes up to me and says "hey thast my drink, you cant drin kthat".. i just looked at her like oh my bad, smirked and took another sip of it.. long story short, it led to us flirting and dancing, I improvised and was able to wing dancing Merengue which i didnt know how to, and ended up going home with her. Any other dude woulda been like embarrassed, put the drink down and said sorry and walked away..

P.s. You're still a young dude whos learning how to just be a man..not even at a man stage yet.. i wouldnt question sh.t until you have an empire of your own. Currently just reading the stuff yout ype, you're worried about your face size, head size, height,.. you're like a tadpole in life.. swimming wit no legs just a tail right now.. I wouldn't question my logic at all from where you stand.

You’re right sensi

 

[BillyPilgrim]

OP people are more sensitive these days, but you have to be aware of Short Petite White women psychology. They like being put down as much as a small dog likes visitors. Try to avoid these women, they also tend to be loud. If she's white, shorter than 5'3" and thin, she's going to have some kind of Napoleonic Complex.