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Going on vacation with a woman. To do or not to do

FlexpertHamilton

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As you may already know, I did this last year; hadn't even meet the chick in person before hand and the trip was 6 days in a foreign country (not hers, but much closer to her home country than I was). Was a risk, but whatever.

The first 4.5 days were great and had a really nice time, explored the city, had great food, and good chemistry. Also had some of the best sex, if not the best sex, I've ever had. However, on the 2nd to last night, we got in a huge fight which immediately highlighted a problem - you have nowhere to escape. Women know this, that's why they may choose fights in car rides etc. I actually left the hotel our like 2am to go for a walk (and she had the nerve to say it was "dangerous" to leave her alone in the hotel which is actually hilarious). Next day when she was still a cold bvtch I straight up debated ditching her but I decided not, mostly because I couldn't get cell service (another thing to research, I thought I had it taken care of in advance but apparently not).

It's a risk for sure. Just be aware that if you fight, you will have nowhere to go. I'd recommend making backup plans. Worst case scenario, you enjoy the rest of your trip alone. Also yes, 9 days is WAY too long. 3-5 days is much better imo.
 
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I have done this a couple of times. In your situation, this is how I would do it, regardless of how long I’ve known the person (assuming is not a stranger I met 24hrs ago) or even if we havent had sex ( kisses and kino is a must though).

my first check would be: do I genuinely want to do this? If yes continue, if not, just don’t.

I’ve gone out of my way to make international friends. There is so much to win from this.

Then say you or she have the idea of going to DR/Mexico/Spain and you actually have the time and some money. First thing I would do is reach out to my friends in given country, and plan a visit. If they are decent friends they should be excited to have you and your friend. Even if they are busy, assuming they are nice enough because why befriend people who’s not invested in you? they will offer some kind of help: example, hey I’m busy but you can stay with my brother.. or hey I cant give you a room in my house rn but let’s hang out once you’re here and we’ll give you a tour etc… point is you make the plan with them. and depending on said friends, set the length of the trip.

if they are super busy, and you end up getting an Airbnb (one bed for both or hit the brakes) , go for a weekend or a weekend+ ,you can always figure out a night or two if things backfire.

Next thing is that I would plan the trip to have fun myself, let her tag along, you can also do things she like if you like them, but you having fun and doing stuff you haven’t done before should be the main goal.

also this might not be super relevant, but if your flights have stops make sure there is enough time to transfer. Just saying This because nowadays i feel flights get delayed more often and I’ve seen people having a terrible time because a lost flight. Not fun.
 

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So this womam asks me to take a 1 week trip with her far away from home.

I am intrigued by the idea of the adventure. But being the chess player I am I also see some possible problems that might occur.

Despite the latter I do love adventure. Not even necessarily because I'm with her, more for my personal development.

What do you guys think about going on vacation with women in general?
Don't overthink it.

Go for it.

Just don't get puzzy whipped and lose frame.
 

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Don't overthink it.

Go for it.

Just don't get puzzy whipped and lose frame.
Should he do some Mode One if his girl is in bed all day with a hangover?
 

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Your bullsh!t aside; he ain't ready for Mode One yet.
If you mean direct approach, I am getting there..I am starting to do more "light" approaches (talking to women whenever possible, evenif its just being social) .

Small step for you, huge step for me, so..
 

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If you mean direct approach, I am getting there..I am starting to do more "light" approaches (talking to women whenever possible, evenif its just being social) .

Small step for you, huge step for me, so..
No shot at you.

I was just letting Billy Boy here know after he condescendingly suggested Mode One for you.
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

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No shot at you.

I was just letting Billy Boy here know after he condescendingly suggested Mode One for you.
Backhanded compliment sir, not condescension.
 

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I remember a guy that was dating a "re-virgin" single mommy (evidently she was quite hot.) :rolleyes: He wasn't getting to 2nd Base, so he invited her to a weekend getaway trip out to the Emerald Coast, where he had made sure to book a room with a single queen-size bed. When he got to the lobby, she relentlessly pestered him to make sure that the lobby agent got them a room with a pair of twin beds. :rofl: After yet another "dry hole" (ahem), he wondered how he had gone wrong; I told him to only take a chick on a trip that has let you dip. :cool:
 

Do not be too easy. If you are too easy to get, she will not want you. If you are too easy to keep, she will lose interest in you. If you are too easy to control, she will not respect you.

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