Fwb reached out.

[RicBoy]

For the guys who know my case.

She reached out yesterday and said she left because things became to serious too soon and she don’t want that. I replied ok, what do you want then. She said nothing from you.
Then I asked if we could try again and be just fwb and she said she thinks it’s not gonna work so her answer is no. I think she knows I have feelings and that’s why she left me. She wanted casual exclusive fwb and I kept pushing for more.

Back to no contact?
Any chance here to bang her again?

 

[manfromitaly]

My friend, forget it quickly, so better to lose than to find one. If you really had feelings for her and she answered you like that it would have ended badly anyway, she told you what she wants and what kind of person she is,

I don't know how good it can make you feel to **** her one more time.

It cannot be excluded that she has already met someone else, in many cases when a woman tells you so it is because she already knows where to go

 

[RicBoy]

My friend, forget it quickly, so better to lose than to find one. If you really had feelings for her and she answered you like that it would have ended badly anyway, she told you what she wants and what kind of person she is,

I don't know how good it can make you feel to **** her one more time.

It cannot be excluded that she has already met someone else, in many cases when a woman tells you so it is because she already knows where to go

Point would be to be fwb with her. I don’t think she has anyone yet. I’m trying to convince her that I’m ok with fwb only but she doesn’t seem to want it anymore because she knows we can’t go back in time and probably thinks I have feelings

 

[manfromitaly]

Point would be to be fwb with her. I don’t think she has anyone yet. I’m trying to convince her that I’m ok with fwb only but she doesn’t seem to want it anymore because she knows we can’t go back in time and probably thinks I have feelings

What made her realize you have feelings? Is it about how you behaved with her in person or because you wrote her too much?

 

[RicBoy]

What made her realize you have feelings? Is it about how you behaved with her in person or because you wrote her too much?

Both but she also acted like we were in a relationship and now she blames me. I think it’s done. I go no contact and I don’t expect to hear from her again. She is adamant about fwb wouldn’t work more between us

 

[manfromitaly]

Both but she also acted like we were in a relationship and now she blames me. I think it’s done. I go no contact and I don’t expect to hear from her again. She is adamant about fwb wouldn’t work more between us

In my experience it is difficult to make her change her mind, don't blame yourself, for example I am temperamentally very "romantic" even in fwb relationships, it is part of my character. I'm not the cold type. Trying to change her mind will only make the situation worse because it seems like you need her and it would reinforce her idea that you have feelings. Unfortunately, if a woman told you so it's because something has changed in her and she would find other excuses not to see you.

 

[RicBoy]

In my experience it is difficult to make her change her mind, don't blame yourself, for example I am temperamentally very "romantic" even in fwb relationships, it is part of my character. I'm not the cold type. Trying to change her mind will only make the situation worse because it seems like you need her and it would reinforce her idea that you have feelings. Unfortunately, if a woman told you so it's because something has changed in her and she would find other excuses not to see you.

No contact until she reaches out ?

 

[manfromitaly]

No contact until she reaches out ?

If you've already told her that even just a fbw relationship would be fine, you don't have to add anything else, maybe tell her if you change your mind let her know and then stop. But don't expect anything, rather concentrate already on other girls

 

[Divorced w 3]

You responded in no contact? She was testing the waters and if you had simply not replied you would have built some intrigue

 

[CornbreadFed]

Smdh

 

[manfromitaly]

@RicBoy Sorry but I just read your previous post, is it from the girl who slept with more than 100 guys? Because if it's her it's unacceptable that you're still following her, I understand that you're having a difficult time and I'm sorry for that. But if it's that girl you're talking about, you have to find the courage to pull the balls out and kick her out of your life. Who would ever want to deal with such a person? But not even the worst women have slept with so many men

 

[RicBoy]

Ricboy let it go. The question themselves are unattractive to her. You ignore my advice in the other thread and your right back to where you were.
Stop talking. Stop answering her. If she did initiate at all.

Kinda hurted she said wants nothing from me. Seems like she really wants to hurt me

 

[manfromitaly]

Kinda hurted she said wants nothing from me. Seems like she really wants to hurt me

I'm sorry but it seems you are really weak emotionally, that's a *****, why on earth would you be hurt by a *****'s opinion

 

[RicBoy]

I'm sorry but it seems you are really weak emotionally, that's a *****, why on earth would you be hurt by a *****'s opinion

Im a bad loser. I broke two PlayStations once haha. And computer mouse too against the wall. I hate losing. When a woman leaves me I analyze to exhaustion all the mistakes I did during relationship and strategize how to get her back.

 

[manfromitaly]

Im a bad loser. I broke two PlayStations once haha. And computer mouse too against the wall. I hate losing. When a woman leaves me I analyze to exhaustion all the mistakes I did during relationship and strategize how to get her back.

It is right to learn from your mistakes as it is right to try to win back a girl. But this is not the case, that is a girl of very low value, her past says so, no serious relationships, more than 100 guys, if you see one like this you shouldn't even say hi

 

[manfromitaly]

Sometimes mistakes aren't made, things go as they should, there isn't always a strategy but above all many times it's not worth it, she doesn't seem like a girl with such a good head

 

[RicBoy]

Sometimes mistakes aren't made, things go as they should, there isn't always a strategy but above all many times it's not worth it, she doesn't seem like a girl with such a good head

She ended because she feels things got too serious too soon but I don’t even thing it was that fast. We met mostly twice a week at her place. No sleeps overs only 3 times and no hangout outside. It was fwb type relationship. I know she is avoidant type and she gets smothered easily and that’s why she killed me away. Obviously didn’t help I let my emotions come out through words and actions surely.

 

[manfromitaly]

She ended because she feels things got too serious too soon but I don’t even thing it was that fast. We met mostly twice a week at her place. No sleeps overs only 3 times and no hangout outside. It was fwb type relationship. I know she is avoidant type and she gets smothered easily and that’s why she killed me away. Obviously didn’t help I let my emotions come out through words and actions surely.

Brother don't blame yourself, she's a *****. She must have gotten bored like she did with the 100 people before you, sooner or later she would have found another excuse to dump you, why give so much importance to a girl like that? Better to spend $50 a week on a professional slut

 

[NealIRC]

How was it too serious and too sudden if you didn't push for sex last (the 6th) time? She's revenging against you for not making your move the last (6th) time?

 

[RicBoy]

How was it too serious and too sudden if you didn't push for sex last (the 6th) time? She's revenging against you for not making your move the last (6th) time?

We met twice a week and sometimes once a week for 3 months. We met at her place maybe 20 times and always had 2 to 4 times sex. Sex wasn’t the issue here. I think problem was too much texts from
Me and asking to see her. Never gave some space for her to miss me etc