This is a women who can pay her own rent. Even if she can pay her own rent, she’ll need to hire ppl to do tasks she can’t do herself.
When women says it, it’s a form of virtue signaling. “I don’t need a man, I’m a big girl now.” Sure honey, until something breaks. This “independence” has various levels depending on life experience.
I once tried to fill a woman’s car with gas and she lost her sh!t. I was being “too patriarchal” by taking that away from her. Crazy b!tch. That’s a mindless task with no meaning. The only thing that was being held down was the lever on the gas nozzle. When a women spews this rhetoric, she’s usually an “independent woman” who has been brainwashed by feminazis.
But at the same time this is not a bad change. My wife has been one of my biggest financial burdens as she has not financially contributed to our marriage for the past 20 years. Sure it honorable to be the man and provide for the family. At the same time, it gets exhausting paying for everyone else and having to settle for the scraps that remain. She’ll make comments about people on social media.
I’m like, ”yeah, no kids and they both make $150k.” I’m having to take $150k and divide it over a family of five.
I’ve been the independent woman. Raised that way by a mother who resented being financially dependent on my dad (who insisted she not work, stay home and have babies and keep house) despite her having a law degree and an excellent federal job.
I’ve been so dam independent that my first husband didn’t pick himself up as a man ought after his business fiasco happened and I supported him AND 3 kids that I had to carry through pregnancy and birth and nurse and STILL support the whole family.
Not that I’m complaining really as I managed to do it and raise my children in a comfortable lifestyle but being independent is for the bloody birds as far as I’m concerned…I am self sufficient and that is just fine, but I’m plenty dependent on other people. Just today I went to the tailor, dry cleaner and car wash.
It’s not a rah rah thing to me.
Know what I really enjoyed this week? Going to see my son & his very NOT independent girlfriend. He is going to be a military officer and she is going to make a great wife & mother, one who can go where he is assigned, one who can be a good partner & teammate in life. She does work, she’s an early childhood teacher, but her goal is to be a great woman to my son. And that’s as it should be.
The irony is that part of how my son learned what kind of woman to choose was to take my former mother-in-law (a career military officer wife who was widowed and never remarried), as a template rather than me in looking for a woman to date/marry. And I think that’s just great.
And my 18 year old daughter is very close with her boyfriend’s parents, a traditional couple who married in their youth and have stayed together. My daughter is deferential to her boyfriend (as well as his parents) and consults with him on everything. They just moved in together. The boyfriend’s older brother is already married. So lots of traditional values in that family, good examples.
The feminist narrative does a disservice to women in some ways. I’m all for equal pay if the skillset is the same. Doctors of equivalent skill should be paid the same irrespective of gender in my view for example, but men and women are not equal in relationships.
Rather they are complimentary and are interdependent, which is a higher vibration/evolution than just being independent.
Independence is about self; interdependence is about partnership; something larger than self.
