Going on vacation with a woman. To do or not to do

[Gamisch]

So this womam asks me to take a 1 week trip with her far away from home.

I am intrigued by the idea of the adventure. But being the chess player I am I also see some possible problems that might occur.

Despite the latter I do love adventure. Not even necessarily because I'm with her, more for my personal development.

What do you guys think about going on vacation with women in general?

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

So this womam asks me to take a 1 week trip with her far away from home.

She's going to steal your liver.

 

[IKO69]

There are only two things that need to be taken into consideration: Who is the woman/how well do you know her (weed out the psychos), and secondly, where are you going? Traveling is very rewarding. I'm going to Egypt next month with a female friend of mine (she is Egyptian).

Nothing will bring incompatibilities into focus more than travelling together, you'll either hit it off great or you'll start to hate each other.

I like this and a few of the other replies. I am assuming Gamisch knows her "well". I think it would be very ill advised to do something like this with a person you don't have much familiarity with.

 

[Divorced w 3]

So this womam asks me to take a 1 week trip with her far away from home.

I am intrigued by the idea of the adventure. But being the chess player I am I also see some possible problems that might occur.

Despite the latter I do love adventure. Not even necessarily because I'm with her, more for my personal development.

What do you guys think about going on vacation with women in general?

As someone in this exact situation I can add a couple experiential thoughts.

It’s relationship territory for sure. If she doesn’t have strong feelings for you now, she will after the trip. You’re giving her a clear indication of your interest in her as a potential partner in doing this. If that’s what you want, you should definitely go for it. It’ll be a lot of fun in that regard.

If you think that it’s not that level, then consequently by taking the trip you’re going to entwine yourself in a way where it gets more tense when you’re not giving her the time she’s expecting after that trip. I just spent the weekend at a wedding with my girlfriend and she thought I was going to see her today as well. When she called me a few minutes ago, and I told her that I was going to probably stick around here and had things to do, you could hear that little brat inside come out and she actually ended the call in under 5 minutes which is totally out of character. No tense language however. Lastly, over the weekend, her brothers friend from college was very physically flirty with her at this wedding so I’m also taking a day off to let the situation marinate.

 

[EyeBRollin]

I assume you have already banged her?

 

[Divorced w 3]

I assume you have already banged her?

That goes without saying doesn’t it?

 

[Dr.Suave]

is it a place you would like to go anyway regardless of her? There are pros and cons of going to that place with her vs going without her. I think that´s what you have to put in the balance and make a desicion.

 

[Divorced w 3]

is it a place you would like to go anyway regardless of her? There are pros and cons of going to that place with her vs going wiuthout her. I think that´s what you have to put in the balance and make a desicion.

Realized this not long ago also. I wanted to go to Austin. That was a trip for me. Keep your ‘you’ trips for you.

 

[corrector]

Make sure you have an exit strategy to either end the vacation with her and return back or continue the vacation solo if things to sideways. Its always good to look for where the exits are in the room.

 

[Kotaix]

Nothing will bring incompatibilities into focus more than travelling together, you'll either hit it off great or you'll start to hate each other.

 

[Gamisch]

is it a place you would like to go anyway regardless of her? There are pros and cons of going to that place with her vs going without her. I think that´s what you have to put in the balance and make a desicion.

Mexicoooooooo. I am somewhat oke in Spanish due my parents native language (creole Spanish for the lack of a better word).

Tbh I wouldn't come up with this myself that quick. But it does sound like fun to travel and see a completely different culture.

Tbh I'm leaning more towards staying a little closer to home and taking a 4 days instead of a 9 days trip.

Nothing will bring incompatibilities into focus more than travelling together, you'll either hit it off great or you'll start to hate each other.

Yeah if I learned anything it is that it ill advised to lean on her. I've always been that guy who connects really well with people. I dont need other people to guide me. So I van imagine she wants to bake on tge beach while I take long walks by myself.

There are only two things that need to be taken into consideration: Who is the woman/how well do you know her (weed out the psychos), and secondly, where are you going? Traveling is very rewarding. I'm going to Egypt next month with a female friend of mine (she is Egyptian).



I like this and a few of the other replies. I am assuming Gamisch knows her "well". I think it would be very ill advised to do something like this with a person you don't have much familiarity with.

Ofcourse. I know her too well. Lately this woman has been acting really good, no(not many) fights headache arguments ect. Lot of this is due my own newfound calmness and expectations when dealing with women.

We are in Europe she wants to go to Mexico or Dominican republic.

 

[Dr.Suave]

Tbh I'm leaning more towards staying a little closer to home and taking a 4 days instead of a 9 days trip.

Sounds like your gut is telling you something. Listen to your gut.

 

[The Duke]

Have her book the trip so if she changes her mind its on her dime. Other than that, go for it. Enjoy life.

9 days is a long time.

 

[SW15]

In general, it's a good idea to not go on a vacation with anyone other than an exclusive girlfriend.

I'd say the best time to take a first vacation with a girlfriend is 1 year into the relationship. It might be possible to do a 3 day weekend somewhere between 6-12 months, but I wouldn't consider that optimal.

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I've seen examples of couples breaking up after a 3 day weekend trip too soon into a relationship (around 4-6 months).

 

[Canadian_Man]

Had a 3-4 day vacation with someone before in the relatively early dating stages.

Her idea. I was already going on the trip for ~2.5 weeks, and she wanted to tag along for a portion of it.

Turns out she implicitly took this to mean that we were much more committed now, and when I didn't put in "a lot of extra effort" afterwards, she got resentful over it.

Things were already going downhill with her anyways, left out a lot of details & context here, though the dynamic that unfolded post-vacation probably didn't help the situation.

Point being, I second DW3's advice here:

It’s relationship territory for sure. If she doesn’t have strong feelings for you now, she will after the trip. You’re giving her a clear indication of your interest in her as a potential partner in doing this. If that’s what you want, you should definitely go for it. It’ll be a lot of fun in that regard.

If you think that it’s not that level, then consequently by taking the trip you’re going to entwine yourself in a way where it gets more tense when you’re not giving her the time she’s expecting after that trip. I just spent the weekend at a wedding with my girlfriend and she thought I was going to see her today as well. When she called me a few minutes ago, and I told her that I was going to probably stick around here and had things to do, you could hear that little brat inside come out and she actually ended the call in under 5 minutes which is totally out of character.

She also made a big deal of relatively minor things, minor incompatibilities:

Nothing will bring incompatibilities into focus more than travelling together, you'll either hit it off great or you'll start to hate each other.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

She's going to steal your liver.

That is something sharks like to do

 

[BillyPilgrim]

Nothing will bring incompatibilities into focus more than travelling together, you'll either hit it off great or you'll start to hate each other.

Almost like a compliance test on her part. "Either were totally compatible or we're not phucking anymore"

 

[Billtx49]

Mexicoooooooo

We are in Europe she wants to go to Mexico or Dominican republic.

If the choice is Mexico, be aware of the ‘Do not travel to’ list of regions produced by their own government.

 

[ThisIsSparta]

We are in Europe she wants to go to Mexico or Dominican republic.

Go to Spain, they speak spanish too ...... its a lot less likely to become a victim there and the way home will be shorter.... just in case.

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

No. In my personal experience, and I speak from experience never travel with a plate. Now, if you have an amazing friendship with a plate and sex is just casual, thatsa different story.

As has been said by others, this is relationship level stuff I would not travel with a woman I met either within three months. All the inconsistencies will come to the surface.

If i was ridiculously wealthy and money didn’t matter to me and I could plan the vacation, and everything were to just flow perfectly because of the amount of money that I was throwing at it? I might do it with a SOLID 9.