How to get rid of negative beliefs fast and practical

[anour]

Guys,

I’m from a minority and living in europe. I have a hardtime with this negative **** ass belief that the women here are only attracted to same races. In reality i’ve seen a few women attracted and are in a relationship with people from cross cultures. I live in the netherlands for the sake of context. This belief has been ****ing with me and self-sabotaging.

i need help on it. Any practical tips would be amazing.

 

[anour]

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[BillyPilgrim]

Shoot low for the time being

 

[anour]

Shoot low for the time being

What does that mean?

 

[Bingo-Player]

What does that mean?

Basically take anything you can get

 

[anour]

Basically take anything you can get

Yeah But it doesn’t work that way.

 

[inquisitor]

Guys,

I’m from a minority and living in europe. I have a hardtime with this negative **** ass belief that the women here are only attracted to same races. In reality i’ve seen a few women attracted and are in a relationship with people from cross cultures. I live in the netherlands for the sake of context. This belief has been ****ing with me and self-sabotaging.

i need help on it. Any practical tips would be amazing.

Use your uniqueness to your advantage. Make it enjoyable, interesting. Also, know what you want.

But I'd suggest knowing yourself better first. Know what you are good at, not so good at, and what you fear. Get out of your comfort zone (cliche, but do it). Then, talk to them. Really get to know them, what makes them who they are. You'll enjoy the interactions more as you stay open and curious.

 

[Modern Man Advice]

There is no fast/shortcut way of doing anything in life. And you should not seek it.

If anyone claims to get you somewhere fast, they are lying. And if you find a fast way, it will eventually fall apart (lottery winners are the best example). So especially when it comes to beliefs, you need to override and rewire your brain (look up neuroplasticity), which takes time. But it takes time because it is permanent and sustainable.

 

[RazorRambo24]

It all boils down to self confidence really. Whenever you challenge a belief of yours, at first you might find alot of resistance and signs that fight against your new belief, but after some time you'll start to have opportunities where you realize that you were wrong.

You can't just be a lame dude and expect results tho.. Is your physique dope? do you have a nice smile? what traits stand out for a girl to like you-- when you realize its more about these traits and not your race, you might even find that some girls like you because you're different --not because you're from any specific country