8 random things I've learned so far on Sosuave

[Gamisch]

1. If you worrying about her, you're losing.
Soon as you feel anything negative you must IMMEDIATELY correct yourself. If you feel like checking up in her and you feel like acting needy; reframe immediately! once you care, you're fecked.

2. Everyone is in someone's rotation.
Dont worry if she is talking with other men. All that worrying does for you is making your life miserable. I don't say you should want her to talk to or sleep with other men. But dont be dumbfounded if it happens. Just assume you are in her top 5. Do you have a top 5 yet?

3. Being a man means carrying them all.
Its our burden to carry everyone. Family, friends , women, neighbors. The more you grow the more people will flock towards you for guidance and wisdom.

4.jealousy =anger.
What are you (jealous) angry for? That someone or something else is better than you? Jealousy =anger. Something a lotta people are unaware of. They think these are two different emotions, but their similar like being happy vs being content vs being satisfied. Same bracket.

5. Dont worry,they'll always know how to find you.(you'll get new women)
If you don't have women now, it can all change in the blink of an eye. Remember not too long ago you were juggling 2/3 women simultaneously? Just be sure you are always on point and prepared for women to enter your life.

6. Wait at least 10 times before you emotionally let your self go/flip out.
Getting ignored, gaslighting, ect. Its maddening, i know. Still you should learn to contain your negative thoughts and emotions. Let your silence speak, thus make your words be worth more.

7. Take women with a grain of salt./ be the rock.
Dont take women too seriously. Never let them be a priority in your life. Their behavior ,mood swings ect are just female nature. Be a solid rock. Never let her decide how YOU feel. If she manages to make you feel ANY kind of way; REFRAME immediately!

8. Create a women-friendly environment.
Yes, women love luxury and comfort. Make sure that your house and your locations where you take her to are woman friendly. Your bed, shower, house shoukd ALWAYS be neat and clean.


Your thoughts gentlemen?

 

[CornbreadFed]

1. If you worrying about her, you're losing.

Agree and disagree. This makes sense for plates, but in a LTR or marriage this is impossible

2. Everyone is in someone's rotation.

strong agree for first date, but you want the girl to have high interest before you are LTR.

 

[CornbreadFed]

5. Dont worry,they'll always know how to find you.(you'll get new women)

Agreed, I wish I would’ve known this when I was younger. Women will always be there.

7. Take women with a grain of salt./ be the rock.

Easier said than done lol

8. Create a women-friendly environment.

Agreed, the biggest pvssy dryer is some tech lead minimalist mentality

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

Good list.

 

[Gamisch]

Good list.

Feel free to add ,criticize or like you did; compliment.

 

[Divorced w 3]

Excellent post!!!

 

[member160292]

 

[manfrombelow]

@OP:

Fantastic list. I agree wholeheartedly with everything. I just want to add some extra topping:

Number 3:

Its our burden to carry everyone. Family, friends , women, neighbors. The more you grow the more people will flock towards you for guidance and wisdom AND RESOURCES (be it anything from tangible ones such as money to invisible ones such as, well, your experience/wisdom/charisma... etc)


Number 8:

Your bed, shower, house, AND YOUR CAR=> Don't forget your fvcking car. Make sure it smells good, clean, always has tissue (for obvious reasons), water, condoms, functioning speakers so women could listen to their favourite songs in it. Trust me, women can't wait to blow you off inside your car if they love it.

 

[Dr.Suave]

1.- Frame is everything

2.- Never go back to an ex

3.- When texting, more or less mirror her response time.
3.1 Dont double text or send long texts

4.- Always be on the lookout fot Red Flags

5.- Haters are Losers. Hate usually comes from "below" it rarely comes from "above".

6.- Ignore their words and pay attention to their actions
6.1- Dont be vulnerable in front of women. They will tell you its ok because its politically correct but you will repel them

7.- Always ask yourself: What would Femin@azis, White Knights, Blue Pills, Captains Save a H0, and Social Justice Warriors position on this be? If you are on the same page as them, You are probably in the wrong.

8.- You are the prize. If you are not convinced that you are, fake it till you make it.

 

[Gamisch]

Agree and disagree. This makes sense for plates, but in a LTR or marriage this is impossible

Especially in a LTR. Nothing I've said is set in stone obviously. But when you start to worry she might do feel go or think xyz, you're sucking all the fun out of ot for yourself.

Worry could be your gut feeling talking with you. In that case you should listen to it. Just dont linger in worrisome thoughts and ways. Imo its toxic like bathing in acid.

strong agree for first date, but you want the girl to have high interest before you are LTR.

This is indeed more about the early stages of dating a new woman. But might as well be applicable to women you've been dating for a while.

It all depends on how you view life ,love and women in general . The main question is, does it matter to you IF she has a top3/top 5 and your position might fluctuate from time to time?

 

[Mike32ct]

3. Being a man means carrying them all.
Its our burden to carry everyone. Family, friends , women, neighbors. The more you grow the more people will flock towards you for guidance and wisdom.

Your thoughts gentlemen?

This really hits home. I feel like I run a 24 hr advice line for family, friends and coworkers lol.

But yeah, I agree.

 

[Gamisch]

Another one; give them time to process the lessons you teach them.

Sometimes it might take some time before your message hits home. Don't (always) expect women will pick shyte up right away.

You might "teach " her something today, amd see the results of this weeks or even months later. She heard ya. Again PATIENT.

 

[Lotus Effect]

Excellent post!
Spot on

 

[Westminster]

Agreed. Very strong post - thought provoking stuff. Number 3 I'd never really thought of, but it's really good point.

 

[The Duke]

Solid Stuff. Only thing I'd add is: Care less about the relationship than they do.

 

[Westminster]

Solid Stuff. Only thing I'd add is: Care less about the relationship than they do.

Good one

 

[Gamisch]

This really hits home. I feel like I run a 24 hr advice line for family, friends and coworkers lol.

But yeah, I agree.

I cant remember which member recently said this and I cant find the post anymore so I can't give hime credit for this. But , all these points are things I've explicitly learned here! (If you know who this was let me know!)

3 . Is not the most manospheric topic as it doesn't talk about literally " manipulating " women . But in the grand scheme of things this is really important to set a certain framework for yourself. A solid one that remains over time and becomes ingrained wity who you are.

Like fitness. I LOVE to lift heavy things now I'm in shape. When I turned into a fat slob I hated any extra gram of weight on my shoulders. Probably the most hippie like and vague point/analogy. But imo a man that becomes a natural leader will carry this with him, it becomes part of his demeanor.

The BEST thing about this is that its actually has nothing to do with how women do or don't treat you . You could be on a Lord knows how long dryspell but yet be " the one who carries them all". A true leader.

 

[member160292]

3 . Is not the most manospheric topic as it doesn't talk about literally " manipulating " women . But in the grand scheme of things this is really important to set a certain framework for yourself. A solid one that remains over time and becomes ingrained wity who you are.

The BEST thing about this is that its actually has nothing to do with how women do or don't treat you . You could be on a Lord knows how long dryspell but yet be " the one who carries them all". A true leader.

Leadership is valuable, not just with women and career, but with anyone you meet. You give off this 'Get sh!t done' attitude that attracts those around you.

 

[CornbreadFed]

Especially in a LTR. Nothing I've said is set in stone obviously. But when you start to worry she might do feel go or think xyz, you're sucking all the fun out of ot for yourself.

Worry could be your gut feeling talking with you. In that case you should listen to it. Just dont linger in worrisome thoughts and ways. Imo its toxic like bathing in acid.

I try not to worry, but being in a relationship I have to always be aware that my girl could get in contact with a better option any day or randomly get the fuzzies for her ex or something silly. With a plate, it's not that big of a deal because of the lack of investment I have in her.

This is indeed more about the early stages of dating a new woman. But might as well be applicable to women you've been dating for a while.

It all depends on how you view life ,love and women in general . The main question is, does it matter to you IF she has a top3/top 5 and your position might fluctuate from time to time?

In a LTR yes because I am not going to invest my exclusivity, time, and resources in to someone that sees me second option or below. Based on my experience, it never works out in the long run. You get more shvt tests and games generally. Any girl that doesn't see me as her number one choice at the time is permanent plate status period.

 

[Gamisch]

I try not to worry, but being in a relationship I have to always be aware that my girl could get in contact with a better option any day or randomly get the fuzzies for her ex or something silly. With a plate, it's not that big of a deal because of the lack of investment I have in her.



In a LTR yes because I am not going to invest my exclusivity, time, and resources in to someone that sees me second option or below. Based on my experience, it never works out in the long run. You get more shvt tests and games generally. Any girl that doesn't see me as her number one choice at the time is permanent plate status period.

Makes sense.