Westminster
Senior Don Juan
- Joined
- May 31, 2023
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- Age
- 58
One thing I have come to learn is that I would much rather be in a criminal court than a civil court.Family Court can be brutal and horribly unfair for men.
My ex-wife was awarded five years durational alimony. As expected, she sued me again for an alimony modification before the end of the five years (the law allows that). The reasons stated in her lawsuit were groundless. However, I had to lawyer up again. My lawyer filed a motion for summary judgment with many items demonstrating the reasons for her lawsuit were not valid. In addition, it contained evidence proving that she was in a supportive relationship with her boyfriend, which nullifies justification for continued alimony. There was overwhelming evidence that the case should be dismissed, however, the judge disregarded all this information and she sent us to mediation.
At that point, I realized the outcome had absolutely nothing to do with justice or fairness. If a resolution was not reached during mediation, I would have to go to trial again with the same judge who had just refused to dismiss in spite of overwhelming evidence. I had to assume that the judge would grant my ex something since she had refused to dismiss, I would also be incurring additional legal fees over and above how much it cost for my lawyer to submit the motion for summary judgment. So the strategy had to switch to minimizing my losses.
I offered a lump sum payment that I calculated would be less than additional legal fees and whatever the judge might grant to my ex. She accepted.
A real life example of the “justice“ that is available to men in the family law system.
-Augustus-
With the former, the evidence has to be pretty strong for things to go against you and you appear in front of a jury of your peers. With the latter, it's just one persons decision and they decide if something 'probably' happened or it probably didn't - and that leaves you in a very dangerous place, especially if you're a man. Wrong judge, wrong day and you're screwed. Big time.