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It's always the ones you don't want

Bingo-Player

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Anyone else find the majority of girls that you attract you just aren't interested in ?

Got one right now blonde HB 7 that's constantly blowing up my phone smashed her sex was meh at best

She's a pretty girl but i Quickly came to the conclusion I'm just not attracted to her the way she is attracted to me

I am not joking when I say I come across a girl I'm really bothered about and vibe with maybe once every couple of years and even then I have to pretend I am not that interested so not to come off to keen because we all know how much women hate keen men

IDK wtf I am doing wrong or where I need to go to find the types I want , maybe its just a case of always wanting something you can't have

Definitely find myself in a conundrum and it's annoying the fvck out of me.
 

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Nope, if you aren’t attracting girls that you aren’t attracted to then you need to apply some adjustments to your game. I do agree that I am attracted to Asian, Orient, and nerdy girls because they are the girls opposite to me. What type of girls do you want? Are you doing something to attract them?
 
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Happens to me too lol It’s either I’m instantly attracted to them right away and they never rise to that level with me, or they’re over the moon for me right off the bat and I can’t ever make myself reach their attraction level.
 

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Happens to me too lol It’s either I’m instantly attracted to them right away and they never rise to that level with me, or they’re over the moon for me right off the bat and I can’t ever make myself reach their attraction level.
It's a pain in the arse
 

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I think it’s the vibe we put out when we want something vs when we don’t. ”You desire what you don‘t have” is constantly playing in the background. When you see a chic you want you act differently. More eager, nervous, attentive, basically you subconsciously start chasing. The chics you don’t care for, you naturally do the opposite. You become uninterested and those women get curious and start trying to get your attention if they find you attractive.

It seems like the unattractive or fat chics chase, while the hotter ones don’t seem as desperate because they have more choice. That script flips as they age because their power to choose dwindles.

I instantly thought of post nut clarity when I read the post. You got bored once you caught her. The sex was meh so the desire fizzled out. The chase is over now and the excitement died. I think women do the same thing to men. At first, they dress up all sexy and put in a lot of effort to hook you and once they do, they stop making the effort. The once hot girlfriend gets lazy and fat. She already has you so her desire and effort dies.
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

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Nope, if you aren’t attracting girls that you aren’t attracted to then you need to apply some adjustments to your game. I do agree that I am attracted to Asian, Orient, and nerdy girls because they are the girls opposite to me. What type of girls do you want? Are you doing something to attract them?
MY physical type and spiritual type rarely if ever match which is why I probably struggle to find girls I am really into

Physically I am in to short brunettes with fat a$$'s and sexy faces

Spiritually I like deep thinkers

I tend to get a LOT of blondes interested in me and I'm very rarely THAT interested in them and often couldn't care less
 

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I think it’s the vibe we put out when we want something vs when we don’t. ”You desire what you don‘t have” is constantly playing in the background. When you see a chic you want you act differently. More eager, nervous, attentive, basically you subconsciously start chasing. The chics you don’t care for, you naturally do the opposite. You become uninterested and those women get curious and start trying to get your attention if they find you attractive.

It seems like the unattractive or fat chics chase, while the hotter ones don’t seem as desperate because they have more choice. That script flips as they age because their power to choose dwindles.

I instantly thought of post nut clarity when I read the post. You got bored once you caught her. The sex was meh so the desire fizzled out. The chase is over now and the excitement died. I think women do the same thing to men. At first, they dress up all sexy and put in a lot of effort to hook you and once they do, they stop making the effort. The once hot girlfriend gets lazy and fat. She already has you so her desire and effort dies.
Yea 100% good post

Two chicks that were my type were trying to get my attention in the gym a couple of weeks back it got to the stage where they almost forced me to approach just constantly being in my vicinity

I opened with something random and they didn't really get it , because I was both consciously and sub consciously trying to impress or ( chase) the set got awkward quickly and it burnt out

On the flip side this chick I fvcked and am now bored of has basically gone into simp mode for me because I just don't care

You definitely need to keep a woman constantly dangling to get the best & sexiest version of her
 

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MY physical type and spiritual type rarely if ever match which is why I probably struggle to find girls I am really into

Physically I am in to short brunettes with fat a$$'s and sexy faces

Spiritually I like deep thinkers

I tend to get a LOT of blondes interested in me and I'm very rarely THAT interested in them and often couldn't care less
So if this girl came up to you and expressed interest, you would turn her down?

 

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This sounds like the story of my life! I think this phenomenon is pretty common for a lot of people, men and women alike. It’s only natural that we’re all trying to date up from our SMV.
 

If you want to talk, talk to your friends. If you want a girl to like you, listen to her, ask questions, and act like you are on the edge of your seat.

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Nope, if you aren’t attracting girls that you aren’t attracted to then you need to apply some adjustments to your game. I do agree that I am attracted to Asian, Orient, and nerdy girls because they are the girls opposite to me. What type of girls do you want? Are you doing something to attract them?
Can you take us all back to being 29?
 

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I tend to attract bangable women who don't want to F. Yay.
 

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It makes sense because a really gorgeous woman is not going to be as common as your average, run of the mill woman. When you do meet one, you then have to consider she is not always going to be attracted. It's largely a numbers game - eventually you'll meet a hot woman who is also cool and likes you.

The situation is only concerning if you have no one interested in you. That would mean you are pretty much invisible.
 

Never try to read a woman's mind. It is a scary place. Ignore her confusing signals and mixed messages. Assume she is interested in you and act accordingly.

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