Being Cold Approached sucks

[CornbreadFed]

Today I got cold approached twice by men looking to recruit me into their startup marketing firm or something silly and once by a gay guy lol.

1). I could tell that they were talking to me for an end goal rather than being friendly. It just seemed fake, just tell me what you want. Just tell me you think I am cute or something and ask for my number, I am a busy guy.

2). I was busy, I wanted to go home and eat dinner not be bogged down at the store.

3). Maybe doing it at an event where people are generally just looking to have a great time is good, but a grocery store is just not a good spot. I don't care who you are, if you approach me at Publix, I am more than likely going to say no because I am focused on other things at the moment.

 

[Redwood]

85% percent of the time that happens when you're already preoccupied with something.

 

[ThisIsSparta]

Today I got cold approached twice by men looking to recruit me into their startup marketing firm or something silly and once by a gay guy lol.

1). I could tell that they were talking to me for an end goal rather than being friendly. It just seemed fake, just tell me what you want. Just tell me you think I am cute or something and ask for my number, I am a busy guy.

2). I was busy, I wanted to go home and eat dinner not be bogged down at the store.

3). Maybe doing it at an event where people are generally just looking to have a great time is good, but a grocery store is just not a good spot. I don't care who you are, if you approach me at Publix, I am more than likely going to say no because I am focused on other things at the moment.

It only svcks until you are approached by a hot enough woman.

 

[Fortune_favors_the_bold]

It only svcks until you are approached by a hot enough woman.

If a hot woman cold approaches me I'm gonna pull a star trek teleport in a blink of an eye...best case scenario she is a cop and her team is trying to get me in the open.

 

[CornbreadFed]

It only svcks until you are approached by a hot enough woman.

I would think she’s trying to scam me or something bad.

 

[SW15]

It only svcks until you are approached by a hot enough woman.

In my lifetime (20+ years in the sexual marketplace), I have only been approached a few times. In the few times a woman has approached me, it has been a subpar looking woman. I have received many approach invitations from both average looking women and above average looking women but I had to be the one to make the approach.

Most attractive women don't need to approach. It would be possible to see something like a woman who is a 7.5-8 try to approach a guy in the 9+ range.

Today I got cold approached twice by men looking to recruit me into their startup marketing firm or something silly and once by a gay guy lol.

1). I could tell that they were talking to me for an end goal rather than being friendly. It just seemed fake, just tell me what you want. Just tell me you think I am cute or something and ask for my number, I am a busy guy.

2). I was busy, I wanted to go home and eat dinner not be bogged down at the store.

3). Maybe doing it at an event where people are generally just looking to have a great time is good, but a grocery store is just not a good spot. I don't care who you are, if you approach me at Publix, I am more than likely going to say no because I am focused on other things at the moment.

How much of this do you think is applicable to how women feel when men approach them?

There are men who try to approach in Publix, Kroger, Whole Foods, or any grocery store. Some women in grocery stores aren't all that receptive to being approached for a variety of reasons, even when a man has some level of value.

 

[jimwho]

I'm mixed up op. You're a guy, if they think you're cute, gay guy too, they should just ask for
Your number. Are you gay? "not that there' anything wrong with it" ....

 

[CornbreadFed]

How much of this do you think is applicable to how women feel when men approach them?

There are men who try to approach in Publix, Kroger, Whole Foods, or any grocery store. Some women in grocery stores aren't all that receptive to being approached for a variety of reasons, even when a man has some level of value.

Here's my two cents on this.

1). Just like you rarely see 9s and 10s approaching random men, I rarely see Chad's approaching women. High Value opportunities aren't just offered to strangers with no pre-qualifications. Google isn't going to be recruiting employees at the Walmart down the street or any rackety job fair.

2). I would not be receptive to any girl approaching me at a grocery store because my guard is naturally up. I have to stop whatever I am doing or thinking of and deal with a stranger trying to talk me. If it's a stranger offering me a service or companionship, I will just look up to point 1. Why is this person randomly approaching strangers?

 

[SW15]

1). Just like you rarely see 9s and 10s approaching random men, I rarely see Chad's approaching women. High Value opportunities aren't just offered to strangers with no pre-qualifications. Google isn't going to be recruiting employees at the Walmart down the street or any rackety job fair.

Where does a 'Chad' meet women? 'Chads' need to initiate interactions in some way. Do you think most 'Chads' have enough options inside of the swipe apps on in the DMs on Instagram that they don't need to do any in-person stranger approaching? I would also think a 6'0"+ guy who is fit can do some approaching on the general gym floor, though he's still contending with the earbud issue to a degree.

I'm only a 7 (based on having my photos rated online) and my income only makes me semi-successful. I have to approach or initiate things on swipe apps or in the DMs. I have chosen to mainly focus on in-person approaching over the years.

The closest thing I have known to a 'Chad' is a 6'4" former NCAA athlete in a country club sport. Before his current LTR/marriage started, he was mainly a nightlife venue approacher guy. He never once non-bar approaching. This happened in the early to mid 2010s.

2). I would not be receptive to any girl approaching me at a grocery store because my guard is naturally up. I have to stop whatever I am doing or thinking of and deal with a stranger trying to talk me. If it's a stranger offering me a service or companionship, I will just look up to point 1. Why is this person randomly approaching strangers?

I have only had low SMV women approach me. Not even average SMV women. Definitely not high SMV women.

Average looking single moms don't even approach me. Why would they? Even an average looking single mom (most men on this forum wouldn't be interested in her) has so many prospects. She might have a lot of quantity of prospects, but her quality likely isn't that great.

 

[Canadian_Man]

I've found it usually to be an interesting experience when I was on the receiving end of a cold approach.

The situations were different than yours though, I wasn't busy at a grocery store, rather, on public transit or in a more relaxed place.

All but one time I knew they wanted something, and in most of the cases I had no intention of giving anything, but it was interesting to see how they would go about it. Some were better than others.

One did cross over into a subtle "needy" behaviour towards the end, which gave me a bit of insight to how a woman probably feels when that type of thing happens.

I often people watch when on public transit, I treated these cold approaches in a similar manner. With curiosity.

 

[pranshu]

I was recently approached by a below-average chick. She was sitting beside me in a snacks center and I was having a heated negotiation conversation with someone on the phone.
After my phone call was over, she started the conversation by complimenting me saying I have a strong authoritative voice and style of speaking and that I should become a lawyer. We had a small talk while finishing our snacks. She said she was new in town and had too few friends. I could feel she wanted me to ask for her number but I thought Nahh as I didn't want to be her support animal as she was probably homesick.

 

[Dr.Suave]

I was recently approached by a below-average chick. She was sitting beside me in a snacks center and I was having a heated negotiation conversation with someone on the phone.
After my phone call was over, she started the conversation by complimenting me saying I have a strong authoritative voice and style of speaking and that I should become a lawyer. We had a small talk while finishing our snacks. She said she was new in town and had too few friends. I could feel she wanted me to ask for her number but I thought Nahh as I didn't want to be her support animal as she was probably homesick.

Bro If she passed the boner test you could/should have smash and dash

 

[Dr.Suave]

Not exactly cold approach, but old women came on to me at work. I just played dumb & ignore. Most of them are now retired.

 

[pranshu]

Bro If she passed the boner test you could/should have smash and dash

what's a boner test? to decide if a woman is attractive or not by the fact that looking at her or fantasing about her givves you a boner?
If yes, then no she didn't pass my boner test at all..and people say your first bang affects you positively or negatively for your whole life.
I didn't want my first bang to be her..
If boner test is something else..please explain

 

[Hamurabimbi]

Today I got cold approached twice by men looking to recruit me into their startup marketing firm or something silly and once by a gay guy lol.

1). I could tell that they were talking to me for an end goal rather than being friendly. It just seemed fake, just tell me what you want. Just tell me you think I am cute or something and ask for my number, I am a busy guy.

2). I was busy, I wanted to go home and eat dinner not be bogged down at the store.

3). Maybe doing it at an event where people are generally just looking to have a great time is good, but a grocery store is just not a good spot. I don't care who you are, if you approach me at Publix, I am more than likely going to say no because I am focused on other things at the moment.

The title of OP’s post should have been: ‘Being cold approached by other men sucks.’.

Being CA’d by women is fine. I have found it to be a little jarring as I’m usually minding my own business & taken by surprise. Also. I’d rather be in the drivers seat. But it’s fine & I have mad respect for girls who CA.

 

[Dr.Suave]

what's a boner test? to decide if a woman is attractive or not by the fact that looking at her or fantasing about her givves you a boner?
If yes, then no she didn't pass my boner test at all..and people say your first bang affects you positively or negatively for your whole life.
I didn't want my first bang to be her..
If boner test is something else..please explain

Yes. Thats the boner test.

I didnt know you were a virgin saving yourself for someone special (that may sound as an attack, but it isnt). How old are you, bro?

 

[Hamurabimbi]

I was recently approached by a below-average chick. She was sitting beside me in a snacks center and I was having a heated negotiation conversation with someone on the phone.
After my phone call was over, she started the conversation by complimenting me saying I have a strong authoritative voice and style of speaking and that I should become a lawyer. We had a small talk while finishing our snacks. She said she was new in town and had too few friends. I could feel she wanted me to ask for her number but I thought Nahh as I didn't want to be her support animal as she was probably homesick.

it’s amusing that women will comment on someone else’s phone conversation. I was at a hotel on a business trip recently. I was hanging out on the patio having a beer (hotel happy hour) and was in the phone to our IT dept as I was having laptop issues. When I finished, a woman came up to me and asked if I was speaking a foreign language. I told her ( ‘Yeah. Beeranese’.

 

[pranshu]

Yes, thats the boner test. I didnt know you were a virgin saving yourself for someone special (that may sound as an attack, but it isnt).

How old are you, bro?

I m 21..haha..I m not saving myself for someone special..but I have outgrown the scarcity mindset. I want to be proud of my bangs when I look back at them..this chick would not be a proud bang for me at all.
Right now my goal is to improve my game, money, muscle, its not getting laid at any cost with any chick. thats desparation.
for the past half year, I have been studying, reading red pill material, working out and interacting with people of all ages and gender when opportunity arises.

 

[pranshu]

it’s amusing that women will comment on someone else’s phone conversation. I was at a hotel on a business trip recently. I was hanging out on the patio having a beer (hotel happy hour) and was in the phone to our IT dept as I was having laptop issues. When I finished, a woman came up to me and asked if I was speaking a foreign language. I told her ( ‘Yeah. Beeranese’.

I have done it too on occasions...I came to know that these are called situational openers and often times are better than other types