Plan next meet up at the end of a date

[RicBoy]

You made another thread about the same woman facing the same problems. You could as well put this in the previous thread. But oke.

If you hit it a 100 times already, why don't you(YOU) prepare for the exit? Why don't you soft next her? Ironically its probably the only way left to keep her around.Believe me, you don't want her to be your gf or even more. All the problems you have with her right now are "just" fwb type of issues. Soon as she does becomes your official gf ,a cesspool of new problems will open up.

What I mean is that she should be worried that you don't want her anymore due all her redflags. You are fighting for a turd as the main prize, i.o.w ; a prize that wont even make you happy. Believe me

So to answer your question; feck her ,cut down the cuddling and test her by NOT talking about the next meet up. Go in it with the mindset that this is the final goodbey. One last hate feck, and she's gone.

Lets be honest:this is more about your ego than anything else.

Is this enough?


Tomorrow I’m gonna see her in the evening. For the first time I’m not gonna ask when we meet next and just leave. Then I’m gonna be quiet for at least 3 - 5 days. We text daily initiated by me, so it will be noticed my silence. I wanna see if she will reach out and ask to see me.

if she doesn’t reach out I fall back to reach out once a week to see her

 

[Dr.Suave]

She is losing interest she said she has no feelings for me the other day, rarely initiates, and the other day she said she knows she hasn’t been as excited as she was in the beginning

She´s gonna monkeybranch faster than Mario Kart as soon a "better" guy enters the picture. Dont you have other plates? This is why you should.

 

[RicBoy]

She´s gonna monkeybranch faster than Mario Kart as soon a "better" guy enters the picture. Dont you have other plates? This is why you should.

Maybe not so fast, she is 35 and never had a single serious relationship only fwb and one nigh stands and like 5 times sex with a guy and stops. Little flings. She says she as commitment issues some sort of a mental lock and can’t bond with anyone. She says she needs her space. She said all guys that wanted something more serious she ghosted them. She only had love feelings for 2 guys out of the 100+ she slept with and even with those 2 was only a fling no serious relationship

In another words there would be no reason for her to drop me but of course there’s always a chance one day she thinks she wants a real relationship with someone and leaves me

 

[Gamisch]

Is this enough?


Tomorrow I’m gonna see her in the evening. For the first time I’m not gonna ask when we meet next and just leave. Then I’m gonna be quiet for at least 3 - 5 days. We text daily initiated by me, so it will be noticed my silence. I wanna see if she will reach out and ask to see me.

if she doesn’t reach out I fall back to reach out once a week to see her

Just treat her like a slut. Feck her mouth and make her gag,dont kiss her ,call her names and leave suddenly without an announcement .

Meanwhile you ABSOLUTELY MUST put effort into finding some new. Or accept a deyspell for some time. But this, everything within HER frame gotta stop right now!

You know what I've noticed? That's both threads are all about how SHE feels. We never learned how YOU feel. Because its actually quite predictable; you are unhappy and doubtful. I bet if a better prospect comes along tomorrow you would drop her like a hot potato ( or is it you COULD but you keep self sabotaging yourself by declining better fitting women for this piece of shyte? I know all about that too!)

Edit: Somehow I'm even leaning towards flaking on her azz for once. A last moment flake. Dont know if this is solid advice.

 

[Gamisch]

In another words there would be no reason for her to drop me but of course there’s always a chance one day she thinks she wants a real relationship with someone and leaves me

You keep coping and reframing the situation. Especially the fact she drops dudes after 5 times should be worrisome. That means she's is WAY past her normal limit of attraction for a man with you. Yes take that as a compliment for what's it worth. Congrats, you made a certified 304 stick around longer than normal. Whoopdiedoo.

Its like you drive a car thats written off that should've been wrecked long time ago. Keep driving it,cool but dont be surprised if it all falls apart when you least expect it ( and at a moment when you absolutely can't have that).

What sounds more solid? A woman that has a history of long term relationships, or a woman who drops dudes after sleeping together five (!!!!)times? She's living the real life pornhub, where Tinder is her main page . Would you watch the same movie again and again and again? No. You find a new one . Thats called NDE ( new D energy)

 

[Dr.Suave]

She is 35 and never had a single serious relationship only fwb and one nigh stands and like 5 times sex with a guy and stops. Little flings. She says she has commitment issues some sort of a mental lock and can’t bond with anyone. She says she needs her space. She said all guys that wanted something more serious she ghosted them. She only had love feelings for 2 guys out of the 100+ she slept with and even with those 2 was only a fling no serious relationship

Dear God op. Why on earth do you have One-itis for this woman and why on earth would you want anything more from her than a fwb situation?

 

[RicBoy]

Just treat her like a slut. Feck her mouth and make her gag,dont kiss her ,call her names and leave suddenly without an announcement .

Meanwhile you ABSOLUTELY MUST put effort into finding some new. Or accept a deyspell for some time. But this, everything within HER frame gotta stop right now!

You know what I've noticed? That's both threads are all about how SHE feels. We never learned how YOU feel. Because its actually quite predictable; you are unhappy and doubtful. I bet if a better prospect comes along tomorrow you would drop her like a hot potato ( or is it you COULD but you keep self sabotaging yourself by declining better fitting women for this piece of shyte? I know all about that too!)

Edit: Somehow I'm even leaning towards flaking on her azz for once. A last moment flake. Dont know if this is solid advice.

I’m honestly getting tired to have to text to have sex. But truth is I ever give her a chance to text first chase or miss me. Like I ever go more than a day or 2 without texting her. I’m gonna put her to the text and say nothing for few days after next meet up to see what happens. I’m afraid she won’t say anything tho haha

 

[CornbreadFed]

Just treat her like a slut. Feck her mouth and make her gag,dont kiss her ,call her names and leave suddenly without an announcement .

This is bad advice because he obviously cannot handle being around this woman without catching an emotional attachment.

 

[Gamisch]

This is bad advice because he obviously cannot handle being around this woman without catching an emotional attachment.

You do have a point, i agree. But he'll go anyway. Its not like he's able to let her go today, right now. And I understand that.

So he might as well at least reframe how she views him now he still can. He needs to find his cojones and USE them. Just man up. Let her see a different side of you, one that doesnt feck around with women like this and has zero to no tolerance for her bs wishy washy hot cold behaviour.

I geuss your advice is to stay away all together? That won't happen. He'll see her, and imo the biggest mistake he can make is defining insanity (doing the same thing again and again).

On top of all that OP seemingly must learn to treat a spade like a spade.

I’m honestly getting tired to have to text to have sex. But truth is I ever give her a chance to text first chase or miss me. Like I ever go more than a day or 2 without texting her. I’m gonna put her to the text and say nothing for few days after next meet up to see what happens. I’m afraid she won’t say anything tho haha

Afraid of WHAT? That she won't text you for sex? That you have to go out and meet new( probably better fitting ) women? You dont fear finally getting that relationship only to get played and lied to?

Your fear is what glues this "relationship " together. She should fear losing you, while you should be happy to get rid of her azz.

She's a headache

Edit: where's @pipeman84 when you need him?

 

[CornbreadFed]

You do have a point, i agree. But he'll go anyway. Its not like he's able to let her go today, right now. And I understand that.

So he might as well at least reframe how she views him now he still can. He needs to find his cojones and USE them. Just man up. Let her see a different side of you, one that doesnt feck around with women like this and has zero to no tolerance for her bs wishy washy hot cold behaviour.

I geuss your advice is to stay away all together? That won't happen. He'll see her, and imo the biggest mistake he can make is defining insanity (doing the same thing again and again).

On top of all that OP seemingly must learn to treat a spade like a spade.

The most dangerous women are the women that are not scared to use their physical vagina to manipulate men.

 

[RicBoy]

You do have a point, i agree. But he'll go anyway. Its not like he's able to let her go today, right now. And I understand that.

So he might as well at least reframe how she views him now he still can. He needs to find his cojones and USE them. Just man up. Let her see a different side of you, one that doesnt feck around with women like this and has zero to no tolerance for her bs wishy washy hot cold behaviour.

I geuss your advice is to stay away all together? That won't happen. He'll see her, and imo the biggest mistake he can make is defining insanity (doing the same thing again and again).

On top of all that OP seemingly must learn to treat a spade like a spade.

Afraid of WHAT? That she won't text you for sex? That you have to go out and meet new( probably better fitting ) women? You dont fear finally getting that relationship only to get played and lied to?

Your fear is what glues this "relationship " together. She should fear losing you, while you should be happy to get rid of her azz.

She's a headache

Edit: where's @pipeman84 when you need him?

I treat her like a slut in bed that’s not the issue. Problem is I admit guys I suffer from anxiety a lot to the point it makes me to throw up. I know if I don’t text her for few days she probably will text but a chance she won’t and it’s all over. But I’m willing to take the risk at least say nothing for a week

 

[RicBoy]

Another thing I’ve noticed is when I text her during working hours she goes online and off line several times before she reads and reply my msgs. In the evenings she replies relatively fast

 

[Barrister]

Maybe not so fast, she is 35 and never had a single serious relationship only fwb and one nigh stands and like 5 times sex with a guy and stops. Little flings. She says she as commitment issues some sort of a mental lock and can’t bond with anyone. She says she needs her space. She said all guys that wanted something more serious she ghosted them. She only had love feelings for 2 guys out of the 100+ she slept with and even with those 2 was only a fling no serious relationship

In another words there would be no reason for her to drop me but of course there’s always a chance one day she thinks she wants a real relationship with someone and leaves me

"There would be no reason to drop me."

Brother, women don't require "reasons" to do anything they do. They are inherently unreasonable creatures and function based upon their whims and their whims alone. Expecting her to follow some rational way of thinking as to whether she nexts you or not is laughable and a sure-fire way to be stuck with your thumb up your ass wondering what happened.

I will go a step further than the other guys and say don't even show up tomorrow and see what happens as an experiment. See if she even cares enough to reach out. If you never hear from her you know all you need to know.

 

[RicBoy]

So just an update for the guys who have been following my story.

I met her yesterday and she was all over me , good s3x, cooked for me made me dessert and she was strangely happy and smiling all the time. I never see her like this. I left and didn’t make plans but she mentioned maybe Sunday she was free unless her sister was coming over which she wasn’t sure yet. Today she hasn’t texted yet. I’m gonna wait

 

[BackInTheGame78]

"There would be no reason to drop me."

Brother, women don't require "reasons" to do anything they do. They are inherently unreasonable creatures and function based upon their whims and their whims alone. Expecting her to follow some rational way of thinking as to whether she nexts you or not is laughable and a sure-fire way to be stuck with your thumb up your ass wondering what happened.

I will go a step further than the other guys and say don't even show up tomorrow and see what happens as an experiment. See if she even cares enough to reach out. If you never hear from her you know all you need to know.

OP won't do this because she has him wrapped around her finger.

 

[RicBoy]

OP won't do this because she has him wrapped around her finger.

I went over yesterday read above

 

[BackInTheGame78]

I went over yesterday read above

Yes I know...that response was in regards to not going over there at all and canceling.

 

[RicBoy]

Yes I know...that response was in regards to not going over there at all and canceling.

it still bugs me we have great dates sex and whatnot and then silence from her. what gives? I mean its not a serious problem I can reach out once a week or twice just to plan dates but still would be nice if she took some initiative.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

it still bugs me we have great dates sex and whatnot and then silence from her. what gives? I mean its not a serious problem I can reach out once a week or twice just to plan dates but still would be nice if she took some initiative.

This is what gives. You are obsessed with her and she doesn't really care that much about you.

Your interest is far higher than hers and she knows it. There is no excitement when someone knows they have you wrapped around their finger or knows how the movie is going to end.

You can't seem to understand this.

Your actions, constantly being available at the drop of a hat, and trying to have a relationship with a woman who is undeserving of one gives her little reason to do anything because you are going to do it for her.

 

[RicBoy]

This is what gives. You are obsessed with her and she doesn't really care that much about you.

Your interest is far higher than hers and she knows it. There is no excitement when someone knows they have you wrapped around their finger or knows how the movie is going to end.

You can't seem to understand this.

Your actions, constantly being available at the drop of a hat, and trying to have a relationship with a woman who is undeserving of one gives her little reason to do anything because you are going to do it for her.

we met yesterday and I didn't text today. What now then? say if she doesn't say a thing until Sunday? Should I text to plan for Tuesday again? which will be a week apart.