Met a gorgeous girl at the bar last night, not sure how to proceed

[Divorced w 3]

I thought about that, this is your first problem

but I knew what was going on at the time - no sir you did not

sorority formals, probably all day drinking since classes were out, maybe studying for finals or having goodbye parties with their girlfriends, etc so I figured leaving it open-ended would give some wiggle room exact opposite of what you want so she is forced to act, and actions are what give you signals

if she were interested but not available on the date and time I picked out.

I could've given it more space but most people will be gone this week if they're not gone already, depending on whether they have finals, so I tried to wait enough time while also scheduling for the weekend. stop overthinking

All of this is probably granular because that ship probably sunk after that first night anyway. I got my takeaways from this thread, respectfully it does not sound like you did

your response here about date/time/location, and at the end of the day I was fine anyway because I met a new girl out at the bar and bedded her, so I was taken care of. coincidentally you met someone else, as you should, but it’s not going to matter if you don’t practice the right way

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[BPH]

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What I took away from this was that I should've pushed the envelope when she mentioned she would want to f*** me if she kissed me rather than letting that go after trying twice.

From there if I was successful, take to her to bed. If not, either don't go to the frat party, or try to meet another girl AT the frat party. The text stuff wouldn't have been a factor because I would've had a much more black/white response rather than the gray area as I saw it.

As far as the text follow-up here I'm surprised you're giving that as much weight as you are. Yeah, being authoritative and picking the location in addition to the day and time would be more commanding, but I have a hard time believing that detail made the difference here. Considering I'm just a guy who had a fleeting experience with her one drunken night out where I didn't close, I think the fact that these are the last 2 weeks of school where everybody is having their graduation, goodbyes, formals, etc DEFINITELY are things I'd have to work around because I haven't done nearly enough to be considered more important than any of those things...so why would she choose my date over them?

 

[BillyPilgrim]

What I took away from this was that I should've pushed the envelope when she mentioned she would want to f*** me if she kissed me rather than letting that go after trying twice.

From there if I was successful, take to her to bed. If not, either don't go to the frat party, or try to meet another girl AT the frat party. The text stuff wouldn't have been a factor because I would've had a much more black/white response rather than the gray area as I saw it.

As far as the text follow-up here I'm surprised you're giving that as much weight as you are. Yeah, being authoritative and picking the location in addition to the day and time would be more commanding, but I have a hard time believing that detail made the difference here. Considering I'm just a guy who had a fleeting experience with her one drunken night out where I didn't close, I think the fact that these are the last 2 weeks of school where everybody is having their graduation, goodbyes, formals, etc DEFINITELY are things I'd have to work around because I haven't done nearly enough to be considered more important than any of those things...so why would she choose my date over them?

You could've asked her if she'd want to F you if you squeezed her ass, and then squeezed her ass. One move of mine is when, if I'm trying to go up her shirt and she resists, I simply move my hand down to her P instead. Never fails. Like a reverse in football.

 

[Divorced w 3]

You could've asked her if she'd want to F you if you squeezed her ass, and then squeezed her ass. One move of mine is when, if I'm trying to go up her shirt and she resists, I simply move my hand down to her P instead. Never fails. Like a reverse in football.

You may have a future in politics

 

[Divorced w 3]

What I took away from this was that I should've pushed the envelope when she mentioned she would want to f*** me if she kissed me rather than letting that go after trying twice.

From there if I was successful, take to her to bed. If not, either don't go to the frat party, or try to meet another girl AT the frat party. The text stuff wouldn't have been a factor because I would've had a much more black/white response rather than the gray area as I saw it.

As far as the text follow-up here I'm surprised you're giving that as much weight as you are. Yeah, being authoritative and picking the location in addition to the day and time would be more commanding, but I have a hard time believing that detail made the difference here. Considering I'm just a guy who had a fleeting experience with her one drunken night out where I didn't close, I think the fact that these are the last 2 weeks of school where everybody is having their graduation, goodbyes, formals, etc DEFINITELY are things I'd have to work around because I haven't done nearly enough to be considered more important than any of those things...so why would she choose my date over them?

They all literally said this weekend “no wishy washy” etc. you need to be confident without saying it outright. You are showing her without saying so that you can walk away. Take it or leave it. it is by far the most important thing you can do. You’re telling her without telling her that she’s in your world and she’s lucky to be there and this is the time she’s got.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

You may have a future in politics

Look over here while you are getting hit from the other direction

 

[BPH]

They all literally said this weekend “no wishy washy” etc. you need to be confident without saying it outright. You are showing her without saying so that you can walk away. Take it or leave it. it is by far the most important thing you can do. You’re telling her without telling her that she’s in your world and she’s lucky to be there and this is the time she’s got.

Fair points, all I'm saying is that I think I lost that battle before I even sent the text, that's all.

That being said, what I planned to do with the girl I slept with that Friday is to text her later tonight asking when she's got a free night to have some company (considering I don't have my own place to bring her and have already bedded her). Do you see issue with that approach?

 

[BPH]

@Divorced w 3 let me know if I did this right with the other girl...

Texted her "Hey how would you like some company Wednesday night ".

She answered couple of hours later saying she wasn't free that night, but maybe another night, to which I asked "when would be better?" have yet to hear back. She's still watching my stories on IG though.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

@Divorced w 3 let me know if I did this right with the other girl...

Texted her "Hey how would you like some company Wednesday night ".

She answered couple of hours later saying she wasn't free that night, but maybe another night, to which I asked "when would be better?" have yet to hear back. She's still watching my stories on IG though.

If she's on the fence you have to provide more value with your texts. Pitch a cool date idea, describe it to her, and go from there. Just saying "when would be better?" doesn't give her much motivation to respond

 

[BPH]

If she's on the fence you have to provide more value with your texts. Pitch a cool date idea, describe it to her, and go from there. Just saying "when would be better?" doesn't give her much motivation to respond

We've already f***ed with minimal resistance after meeting at a bar, spent the night, and f***ed in the morning. I'm pitching more of that, I think going for a date is moving in the opposite direction and I don't really want to put in that effort since I simply don't need to with some of the other girls I'm seeing.

 

[Murk]

Great advice, kinda what I was saying as well/what I would agree is the best option. I mean its a no brainer.. nothing happened, there was nothing of substance. It was a friendly encounter, small stitch in time.

and about Murk, this guy literally used to randomly insult me on my profile and any chance he got to talk sht about me or project his insecurities on me, he'd take it. But, then he made af ew posts that told me hes an insecure dude with self esteem issues.. That echoed what I already was initially thinking about him and everything made sense at that point. Murk does not understand game, his game is insecurity and going thru womens phones to find out hes being cheated on and then break up with the girl he loved.. Game is also not caring or being scared that a woman had a threesome before and understanding that means shes prob a real good time. He contradicts himself too because in the same thread he mentioned that he said he was lookin for something serious and now hes saying hes not.. back pedaling. Dude is weird to the max.

Can't respect dudes like that but what can u expect from someone with napolean syndrome who went out his way to find some dudes car and break his windshield wipers/windows just becuase the guy almost backed into him-- and then ssaid something to him after he insulted them? Cmon man that **** is so weak.. Its the sign of a man with low self esteem feeling belittled to the point of pure vengeance and anger over such an insignificant thing.

Idk why dudes on here even take a guy like that seriously.. His vibe is like someone whos felt little his whole life trying to be cool and tough behind the comforts of the internet. As soon as someone reminded me theres an ignore function he was like the 2nd person i put on ignore. woulda been the first in all honesty but I wasnt reminded of him until he said something..

You’re obsessed, and judging by your dimensions in your dp you’re clearly a dwarf and facially look like one too. I’m going to put you on ignore I don’t speak to dwarfs.

 

[BPH]

You’re obsessed, and judging by your dimensions in your dp you’re clearly a dwarf and facially look like one too. I’m going to put you on ignore I don’t speak to dwarfs.

Can you f*** off? You're replying to a comment that's 10 days old. Clearly you have some issues.

 

[tightgrp]

TLDR. "Met a gorgeous girl" and not knowing what to do says it all. Work on yourself.

 

[Murk]

Can you f*** off? You're replying to a comment that's 10 days old. Clearly you have some issues.

Replying to a comment aimed at me, by another poster, that I've just seen as I wasn't on the forum for a week. You can put me on ignore kid.

 

[BPH]

TLDR. "Met a gorgeous girl" and not knowing what to do says it all. Work on yourself.

If you're not even gonna bother to read the thread don't bother replying to it either...

Replying to a comment aimed at me, by another poster, that I've just seen as I wasn't on the forum for a week. You can put me on ignore kid.

Take it to the DMs and stop being a child, you're 34.

At this point I'm just waiting to hear @Divorced w 3 's thoughts and this thread can die.

 

[Divorced w 3]

If you're not even gonna bother to read the thread don't bother replying to it either...



Take it to the DMs and stop being a child, you're 34.

At this point I'm just waiting to hear @Divorced w 3 's thoughts and this thread can die.

My thoughts are that I may need to put this format into a different language because you cannot seem to grasp it in English.

 

[BPH]

My thoughts are that I may need to put this format into a different language because you cannot seem to grasp it in English.

Ok nevermind, this thread can die.

 

[Velasco]

@BPH didnt read any of the responses besides the main post. I deal with the same demographic as you, but yea if you wanted any chance of seeing this chick again, you had to fvck her that night. No point of this thread.

 

[BPH]

HAHAHAHAHAHA this is the game that a Chad who is 6'2", 205lbs 10% body fat, who's fvcked 88 women has.

6'0" and 89 now but you were close. If you really believe that text message was so bad that it was worth quoting and fake laughing at then I don't know what to tell you...if she's interested she would either agree or suggest an alternative if she's actually busy.

@BPH didnt read any of the responses besides the main post. I deal with the same demographic as you, but yea if you wanted any chance of seeing this chick again, you had to fvck her that night. No point of this thread.

Most of the sentiment is that I should've tried to kiss her again after she mentioned she would "want to f*** me" if she did, and then to either have not gone to the party or to have gone and looked for another girl. Since you're doing basically the same thing I'm doin, would you agree that's probably where I f***ed up?

 

[Velasco]

Since you're doing basically the same thing I'm doin, would you agree that's probably where I f***ed up?

It was you and her alone after her friend left. No obstacles left to you getting your d1ck wet.

Then you went along with her to a frat party. Where there are now a whole lot of obstacles you need to deal with to you getting laid. And even if you'd end up staying there with her, instead of leaving like you did, no guarantee she would still be down to fvck after. Too tired. Maybe another night aka never.

No shame. I've made this mistake in the past countless times, under the influence of alcohol (read: drunk). Not thinking clearly about the consequences of my actions.