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Is there such a thing as having a d1ck that is too big?

Plinco

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I've had this issue in the past and I'm not sure if it's entirely true or if she isn't turned on enough. I know this is an odd question, but has anyone had this issue before?

It's especially bad with one night stands and the first couple of times of trying to have sex with a new girlfriend.
 

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You can look up "d1ck size percentile". There's also a reddit for big d1ck problems. Finally, MySize condoms might be more comfortable.
 

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I've had that with some women, it hits a "wall" at it hurts them, others they don't even feel it. Vaginas have different depth
Yes I know exactly what you mean. It gets frustrating because you can't go all the way in without hurting them.
 

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If a girl likes you, her vagina will lube up for it regardless of your above average size. Assuming you aren’t a dumb @$$ in bed, this is a sign of high interest or lukewarm interest.
 

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If a girl likes you, her vagina will lube up for it regardless of your above average size. Assuming you aren’t a dumb @$$ in bed, this is a sign of high interest or lukewarm interest.
That's true for the circumference, but not for the depth.
 

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The “fit” does exist lol. There’s a reason I put up with my toxic ex a while back.
Have you ever gone deep enough to hit a girl's uterus?

Another thing is that even with the lubrication tighter girls can still get sore, especially true for skinny young women.


That said, like you pointed out and I mentioned in my OP, that how much a girl is turned on is a factor
 

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Have you ever gone deep enough to hit a girl's uterus?
I believe you mean cervix. Yes, I have, some actually enjoy the sensation and with others the session is over it's so painful to them. You learn to move slowly after a certain point in your sexual career. The depth of a woman's vag is determined by genetics just like penis size is. you don't have to be 9" to "bottom out", angles are everything, and even if you are that big there are angles in which you can get in a full stroke if you know what youre doing.
 

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A guy can be too long for full penetration vaginal sex. There are differences in vaginal length that may or may not cause issues with longer penises. Depends on the position.

@Plinco I think you meant cervix, not uterus.
 

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I believe you mean cervix. Yes, I have, some actually enjoy the sensation and with others the session is over it's so painful to them. You learn to move slowly after a certain point in your sexual career. The depth of a woman's vag is determined by genetics just like penis size is. you don't have to be 9" to "bottom out", angles are everything, and even if you are that big there are angles in which you can get in a full stroke if you know what youre doing.
I will remember the angles idea. Thanks

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@The Duke

You are both correct, I meant cervix
 

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Having an larger than average penis is an asset in the mating environment. Women prefer bigger penises. Most women consider a penis in the average range acceptable and some will even orgasm with those average sized guys. Many women get very excited at the prospect of having sex with a larger than average penis.

That said, it's possible that a guy with a big penis might not be very sexually compatible with some woman. Some of that might have to do with his technique.
 

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Ukrainian girl I'm seeing is shallow af and was quite painful for her the first few times but getting easier, I find it annoying.

This is why I also prefer girls 5'8 and above as that can take more and just feel more substantial in my arms/to look at.

My **** is only 7.25 inch but thick and some girl said "Wow it's so big that must be at least 9 inches" - they haven't got a clue.

I used to think my D was small but there isn't a girl I haven't managed to cause some pain/discomfort, it's weird because I am happy it's not small, but would rather it be longer (for what reason I don't know anymore as my new girl can't even take it all).
 

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From the ladies’ locker room:

As said by others penis length and girth varies. So does vagina depth and relative placement of G spot. A vagina is a muscular structure equipped to enlarge to accommodate a penis on the inbound route and a baby on the outbound route. Birth obviously requires much preparation and expansion over time. Sex does not.

There is such a thing as “fit” where natural anatomical compatibility provides a painless, most enjoyable experience.

My 5 year boyfriend in my 20s was long enough to bottom out at the cervix which was was a poking effect (like someone poking a stick in your ribs-unpleasant) and required some care in certain positions, other positions it was fine. You learn each other & learn what works & what doesn’t.

If you are too long for your girl that is a different thing than too wide. Girth can be accommodated with sufficient foreplay and perhaps a bit of lube. Coconut oil is best imo rather than marketed lubes but to each his own…

Ideally you want a fit where you and your partner both enjoy the experience and do not experience discomfort. It’s a matter of figuring that out at times.

Keep in mind that women warm up like an oven & men like a blowtorch. If you take the time & learn how to stimulate her body during the “oven preheat” period, you’ll find her better prepared and desirous of penetration.

If the vagina cannot accommodate length? There is always the back door. Just prepare accordingly.

Public service announcement over.

Cheers.
 

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Most of us have had situations in which women say things like “omg you fk like a porn star” or “omg I feel like I’ve never had sex before!” or “I’ve never come so much!” or some such comment that makes us feel special.

Given that there is a group of us that have had this experience, it begs the question: is that really the case? Are we being told what we want to hear? If so why?

The only clear answer is women live in the moment. We may actually be the best they’ve had, it’s possible - but what does best mean? It means you made her feel that way, in the moment she may have just wanted to be railed, ravaged or otherwise, it could be she wanted what felt like deep connected sex, it varies.

Everyone has their proclivities - and they do change. Does it matter if you are the best? Or does it matter that she thinks you are? This depends on many factors like do you want an LTR was it an ONS?

Often, the only way you’ll receive any valuable data is if they continue to pursue. This can be immediately and continuous or could be 2-3 years later. Many of us also have had the experience of having a lover from our past circle back and say “it’s never been the same since you - you’re the only one that xxx”. In this case you know you either widowed her or she is remembering the way you made her feel that time in the past.

Of course we all want to feel special, they do too. The sad truth is that at after a certain level of attractiveness we are all more alike than different.

How many times have you been in a discussion with a woman where she insists she is “different”? Almost every woman will tell you that - the sad truth is that we are all more the same than we are different.

And really, does it matter?
 

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Most of us have had situations in which women say things like “omg you fk like a porn star” or “omg I feel like I’ve never had sex before!” or “I’ve never come so much!” or some such comment that makes us feel special.

Given that there is a group of us that have had this experience, it begs the question: is that really the case? Are we being told what we want to hear? If so why?

The only clear answer is women live in the moment. We may actually be the best they’ve had, it’s possible - but what does best mean? It means you made her feel that way, in the moment she may have just wanted to be railed, ravaged or otherwise, it could be she wanted what felt like deep connected sex, it varies.

Everyone has their proclivities - and they do change. Does it matter if you are the best? Or does it matter that she thinks you are? This depends on many factors like do you want an LTR was it an ONS?

Often, the only way you’ll receive any valuable data is if they continue to pursue. This can be immediately and continuous or could be 2-3 years later. Many of us also have had the experience of having a lover from our past circle back and say “it’s never been the same since you - you’re the only one that xxx”. In this case you know you either widowed her or she is remembering the way you made her feel that time in the past.

Of course we all want to feel special, they do too. The sad truth is that at after a certain level of attractiveness we are all more alike than different.

How many times have you been in a discussion with a woman where she insists she is “different”? Almost every woman will tell you that - the sad truth is that we are all more the same than we are different.

And really, does it matter?
I never gave it too much thought because I assumed that the women I was dealing with were appealing to my ego/feeling emotional in the moment. Also, the size of my d is not something I have control over, so it's not something I thought about as a self-development issue.
 

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It's rough, bro. But we maintain.
 

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Too big for a specific girl. I’ve found younger, less experienced girls have some issues with bigger. Hits her cervix is a common complaint.
 

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If your stuff is small, or her stuff isnt tight enough have her do daily kegl exercises. Put it on her to make it better. Who's to say your stuff is too small, maybe her stuff is too big.
 

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Too big for a specific girl. I’ve found younger, less experienced girls have some issues with bigger. Hits her cervix is a common complaint.
With younger, less experienced women, they tend to get sore for the first couple of times having sex. After that her and I are used to each other. The other problem is with short women and going in too deep and hitting their cervix. I've had one that loved it, and two said it was painful.
I'm glad I brought this thread up since it's giving me some ideas about what to do in the future.
 
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