That’s actually the exact reason why I revisited this idea in the first place. I’ve been trying to stop using porn and have made good strides with quitting lately, but sometimes my sex drive goes through the roof without that and mbating, then I start thinking that I’m probably not gonna be having sex anytime soon anyway, so I get frustrated and relapse. I think the fact that it could possibly take a year for PIED to be cured has really been demoralizing to me as well. That’s why I thought that I could quit porn and use this sex club as a way to practice with women in a sexual environment when my sex drive goes up. I think I just feel lost when it comes to meeting women since OLD is such a bust and I don’t know where to go to even meet women.
I've attended many swinger parties/clubs as both a single male and as part of a couple. Let me give you the breakdown on females. If there are 100 females there, there will be 90 that you'd never have any interest in. There will be 6-7 that you would have sex with but you can probably take or leave them and there will be maybe 3-4 ( if you're lucky) that you'd love to have sex with. Unfortunately unless you're the best looking guy there you will never have any shot at the top 3-4 and will, instead, be constantly having to fend off the 90 that you want nothing to do with, assuming you're among the better looking guys there. Most single guys will not get to do anything other than watch and that's not even a guarantee.
If that’s all you need, just watch a lot of adult entertainment with hot women.
Yeah that’s what everyone else who’s been there has said if you’re thinking of going as a single guy: go in there not expecting to get laid. I just thought it would be a good place for me to practice approaching women since I have no experience doing so and the sexual environment might be helpful when my sex drive goes up a lot from quitting porn, in addition to helping me get even more comfortable with being naked in front of women. I’m not morbidly overweight or anything, I’ve actually been losing weight lately, but I’m also not jacked yet either. Thanks for the insight, I’m not surprised that single women get swarmed by the men and I’m sure that means you have a very limited window to shoot your shot and I’m sure there will be other guys trying to cut in as you’re talking to a woman in the club. Yeah I’m sure there’s a huge crowd of guys whenever a couple is having sex in a public area in the club, so I’m guess what you meant there is that you might not even get a place in the crowd to even watch, in addition to it being weird and nasty that you’ll have other dudes jerking it on each side of you. I bet some couples just opt to go to a private room in the club because it gets too out of hand.
I’m trying to quit adult entertainment though, I’ve been addicted to it since I was 12. But whenever I try to quit, my sex drive eventually goes through the roof and I get frustrated since I know that I won’t be having sex anytime soon and I relapse. That’s why I thought this sex club would be a good idea, I could possibly get more comfortable with sexuality and being naked in front of women in addition to practice approaching too.
This is why I think it would be beneficial. Your expectations are not high, and you're not outcome invested, so the negative feelings towards rejection from lower value women wouldn't be a hard hit.
Yeah I know that’s the better option, but my biggest issue has been finding dates in the first place. As I’ve said on here before, its been 6 years since I’ve met any women. This has been really frustrating for me and I probably wouldn’t even consider this idea if I could actually meet women. I will admit that it would be hot to watch a couple have sex, but I don’t think I could bring myself to fap alongside other guys, that’s just too weird and would feel too gay and it would definitely kill any arousal from watching the couple.
Its more about women finding out that you don’t have experience and getting turned off.
No they’re not high at all, it was more about getting more comfortable with sexuality and being naked in front of women instead of banking on an outcome that I want. Like I said earlier, I also wanted to try being in a sexual environment like that once my sex drive skyrockets when I haven’t gotten off to porn in awhile. But have you ever been to a sex club and if not, would you go to one?
It’s not rocket science. make out. sbck her tits. toucjr her. and. In it goes. Girl that popped my cherry had no clue she was the first.
No I haven't, but about a month ago, I was trying to get the details of a private orgy social circle from an acquaintance. It fell through though.
Yeah I know, it was pretty straightforward when I lost my virginity at 21. What I meant was more along the lines of women asking you about your past relationships/dating history, but I know that going to a club like that doesn’t really solve that issue.
That sucks, but it does sound like you would go to something like that if you had the opportunity though.
Oh I will definitely report back here if I go. Yeah it will take some courage for sure to go somewhere like that and have to be nude in front of a bunch of strangers and I’m sure there’s plenty of crazy things that happen there. This place even has a pool and jacuzzi for skinny dipping. So you would go to one if given the chance?
