Intersexual milestones and notch count

[DonJuanjr]

As the title states, what kind of milestones do you experienced Don Juans think need to be met at which point notch count no longer matters?

 

[CBear]

It'll always be more subjective than objective. More mental than physical. There are guys who have slept with 10s of 100s of women but still don't know **** when it comes to what they want or how to maintain a relationship.

 

[SW15]

Notch count is a bit an overrated metric. There can be guys with 15 notch counts with mostly one night stands and a few casual plate situations. His sex can be infrequent compared to a guy with a 3-4 notch count with extended relationships where he's getting sex multiple times a week for years.

 

[RazorRambo24]

Sexual milestones for me were more like making girls squirt/ being surprised when i met ag irl and found out she was able to squirt.. ofc i've banged a handful of them now so the aura faded but I remember feeling super confident about it the first time.. like "bro i made a girl squirt all over the place" "**** was a mess but it was awesome".

Or meeting a girl whos bisexual whos into bringing other chicks and enjoying threesomes for a while. Was even more fun going out with her to clubs and pointing out girls that we both liked and pitchin the idea to them to come have fun with us both.. Was some fun times..

Doing stuff like banging 3 diff girls i met from the club in one weekend..

Last year getting a job and banging multiple chicks from work then getting fired.

Some other ones are like random unexpected sexual encounters in would be ordinary circumstances.. ill spare the details but.. some of the hottest moments.. and something I wish I could do more of.

I stopped caring about how many bodies I had since I Was like 21-23 somewhere around there.. which was around the last time i tried to recount how many bodies i had.. lol. nowadays it would be impossible

Some I missed out on: banging a friends mom growing up. she used to smoke weed with us sometimes. on some occasions he'd go to the store and we'd be left alone jus smokin and talking. she was young and hot af.. but i think i was just too young and not as primed.

 

[DonJuanjr]

I'm not talking about just sexual acts/experience(though that too), but also things like encountered/dealt with a BPD woman.

 

[Michael Chief]

but also things like encountered/dealt with a BPD woman.

OK now I'm more interested in this thread.

For the most part, we lose count of how many women we have sex with after about 30 "notches" or so. The number pretty much stops mattering after that. The only guys that obsessively keep track of notches are weirdos who probably haven't learned to deal with the social pressure of attaching your self-worth as a man to his perceived sexual desirability.

One milestone I thought was very significant was dating someone who displayed narcissistic tendencies. You learn a lot from looking back and identifying toxic, narcissistic behavior. It let's you filter potential future partners a lot better. It also helps you establish stronger boundaries for yourself.

 

[CornbreadFed]

TBH, when I realized I could have sex without having dry spells in between. I think having a few girlfriends helped me converse with women better instead of being a NPC. I could have one night stands, but I’d have dry spells in between them.

 

[Murk]

TBH, when I realized I could have sex without having dry spells in between. I think having a few girlfriends helped me converse with women better instead of being a NPC. I could have one night stands, but I’d have dry spells in between them.

Same, I think it’s just growing up/maturing. My multiple LTRs over the years balanced me mentally for sure, compared to teens/early 20s

I think having multiple LTRs that end on your terms does more good than simple notches. If you have been dumped repeatedly I’m sure that would cause some setbacks/negativity towards women.

 

[Millard Fillmore]

I've had my share, but for me it was always about different experiences and types.

 

[CornbreadFed]

I think having multiple LTRs that end on your terms does more good than simple notches. If you have been dumped repeatedly I’m sure that would cause some setbacks/negativity towards women

yeah, being dumped repeatedly can give a man some negative setbacks. I am fortunate enough to have never experienced any trauma that some men have gone through.