When should chase end?

Duff55

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So I've got a weird situation, I am going back and forth with this shy girl, we are in class together and maybe 2 months ago she started giving me signs and talking occasionally, she started most of it so I realised I had to do something on my part as well, I had a rare opportunity at a classmate's birthday when I saw she was having crappy time and decided to evacuate her and go outside, but unfortunately even tho she came outside with me minute after her friend came as well because she saw the opportunity to escape some jerk so I wasn't able to do anything other than show her that I had an initiative, after that she was firstly giving me more signs then less and then more, anyways I didn't have really more opportunities like that before, so now I can't really do it with plausible deniability which isn't the problem, but she still continues to try as so do I even tho I think at times I have misunderstood her lack of ability with effort and pulled back, now tho things seem normal occasional signs and talks throughout the day, but should I make the move asap or should I let it continue going like this since we are definitely getting closer but I think the pace may be too slow which may fade interest, not on my part for sure since I do not mind but I am unsure whether it's time to make a move or just continue it like this for some time
 

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The chase ends once you have sex, then you pull back and it’s all her from there. You carefully dish out your time, vet and keep it at arms length until she pressure for an LTR at which point you then evaluate the situation and who she is before either committing to a relationship, stringing her along a bit more (I don’t advise) or moving on from her.

You seem a bit too young for this advice though so not sure what to tell you.
 

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So I've got a weird situation, I am going back and forth with this shy girl, we are in class together and maybe 2 months ago she started giving me signs and talking occasionally, she started most of it so I realised I had to do something on my part as well, I had a rare opportunity at a classmate's birthday when I saw she was having crappy time and decided to evacuate her and go outside, but unfortunately even tho she came outside with me minute after her friend came as well because she saw the opportunity to escape some jerk so I wasn't able to do anything other than show her that I had an initiative, after that she was firstly giving me more signs then less and then more, anyways I didn't have really more opportunities like that before, so now I can't really do it with plausible deniability which isn't the problem, but she still continues to try as so do I even tho I think at times I have misunderstood her lack of ability with effort and pulled back, now tho things seem normal occasional signs and talks throughout the day, but should I make the move asap or should I let it continue going like this since we are definitely getting closer but I think the pace may be too slow which may fade interest, not on my part for sure since I do not mind but I am unsure whether it's time to make a move or just continue it like this for some time
Too much talking and mental masturbation.
Invite her for a date, and you'll have your answer.
 

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Invite her for a date, and you'll have your answer.
That's pretty much all he needs to do.

It appears like @Duff55 is a freshman in college. It is good he's discovering the attraction-seduction community earlier in life. While I was in college (2001-2005), I started reading Doc Love and David DeAngelo. The period of time when I was in college was when Mystery was near his peak and "The Game" was published in 2005 not long after I graduated college.

If @Duff55 is in college as I suspect, there's a great thread about college sex life topics....

 

Millard Fillmore

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As said above, ask her out. Stop wasting time. Isolate, make a move.

If you get rejected, but she's cool, keep her as an orbiter while you slay others. She may come around again.
 

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Just ask her out already
 

Duff55

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That's pretty much all he needs to do.

It appears like @Duff55 is a freshman in college. It is good he's discovering the attraction-seduction community earlier in life. While I was in college (2001-2005), I started reading Doc Love and David DeAngelo. The period of time when I was in college was when Mystery was near his peak and "The Game" was published in 2005 not long after I graduated college.

If @Duff55 is in college as I suspect, there's a great thread about college sex life topics....

Im in senior year in hs,anyways thank you for advice i agree
 
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