When you are a minority you have to stand out. (Also when you look like the average man). Dutch and other western women, know that there's a stigma on dating "ethnic men". So lets say she likes Arabic men. That means that her pool of choice is severly limited by default. She will pick the best she can. If there are 500 arabic men to pick from, she will eventually bring it down to 50. And than bring that down to 10/5.
Same with women who soley like black,blonde latin men ect. It sounds great and you wished you were him, but once your "wish comes true " you'll see it's not as romantic as it looked like.
Everybody is racist bro. We are racist because it feels safe. Women have their heritage and upbringing, cultural beliefs, family that's watching over their shouldera, even friends get to have a say .
Look, if she can choose between you and a slighlty beter version of you,she'll pick the latter. So self improvement is always necessary. Always. The next branch is just one swing away, so stay om top of your gane at al times.