Not requiring afterburner for cold approach

[anonymous12345]

For you more experienced cold approachers:

With my historical conditioning and current state my problem is having the energy for cold approaches. Here’s a fact: most girls will reject you in some manner. No matter what good your vibe/signals/approach is, there will be girls that simply just run away. And that leads to conditioning and burnt fuel. I’m way past approach anxiety and basic skills & SMV.

Currently it for me feels that approaches requires activating an afterburner, that I don’t have fuel for. One needs the energy to be enthusiastic, handle **** tests, lead, etc. in order to create the pull.

My answer:

One needs to think smart. Reconditionings are very useful of course, but they’re not the solution. One way is to be a baller where everything’s a party, go happy go lucky. Might work for a while. Not caring will shield me, but also turns me uncalibrated that therefore later fails the close.

Being clever about what girls that are more likely to be receptive is crucial. I can that it seems, but I fail on stamina.

I think the answer is to be less validated by girls. If a girl doesn’t want to talk it’s not a big deal. But to some degree it is, and that’s why having the stamina for 3-5 approaches per day is not that bad. Currently I can handle at most 2 I think, some days it's been 15.

Comments?

 

[We_ArE_VeNOM]

For you more experienced cold approachers:

With my historical conditioning and current state my problem is having the energy for cold approaches.

Cold approaching can be many things at once...

1. The most disappointing (rejections).

2. The most rewarding (reciprocators).

3. The most challenging (approaching multiple women at once).

4. The most adrenaline pumping (heart racing with anticipation).

It takes a very special man to be able to step to a stranger of a woman, and ask for her number.

I am a very special man.

Here’s a fact: most girls will reject you in some manner.

It is a numbers game.

If you can manage to get at least 3/10 (or the very least, 2/10), then you should be fine.

No matter what good your vibe/signals/approach is, there will be girls that simply just run away.

Run away is a strong way of putting it.

In my experience, a polite decline is what they will give you.

I think the answer is to be less validated by girls. If a girl doesn’t want to talk it’s not a big deal.

No big deal at all.

But to some degree it is

Sure, any rejection stings.

That is why it helps to have a short memory when it comes to these things.

I betcha Barry Bonds doesn't remember over half of his strikeouts, and he has had many (1539).

, and that’s why having the stamina for 3-5 approaches per day is not that bad. Currently I can handle at most 2 I think, some days it's been 15.

Comments?

I recommend any guy just starting out cold approaching...to start off by approaching at least 2 women per day....or at the very least, 1.

Then, as you build confidence, the number goes up.

3-5 is ideal, about where you want to be.

IF you approach 4 women per day, that is 28 women per week.

You should be able to pull between 8-9 women out of 28, no doubt.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

Look for IOI's and focus on "warm" approaching. I've never been to Sweden, but I can imagine the migrant issues would make the women generally more skittish than they would be otherwise.

 

[jaymbrs]

Look for IOI's and focus on "warm" approaching. I've never been to Sweden, but I can imagine the migrant issues would make the women generally more skittish than they would be otherwise.

I don't ever cold approach. What the OP is describing is the biggest reason why. I just can't work up the energy to woo a woman enough to go out with me. I'd rather she give me a sign so I don't have to waste time/energy.

 

[We_ArE_VeNOM]

I just can't work up the energy to woo a woman enough to go out with me.

Correction: you cannot build up the COURAGE to approach a woman and ask for her number.

No one said anything about wooing a woman.

You are just SCARED to approach.

Nothing more, nothing less.

I'd rather she give me a sign so I don't have to waste time/energy.

But you aint getting those imaginary signs either.

So stop it.

 

[espanish]

I don't understand the point of this post. is there a question?

 

[jaymbrs]

Correction: you cannot build up the COURAGE to approach a woman and ask for her number.

No one said anything about wooing a woman.

You are just SCARED to approach.

Nothing more, nothing less.



But you aint getting those imaginary signs either.

So stop it.

Your response reeks of frustration. Don’t take it out on me, buddy. You know nothing about me.