Is this serious or she don’t care?

[RicBoy]

Been seeing a girl for a month. She has never had a serious relationship since high school only **** buddies and she is now 35. We have met twice a week always since we met at her place and has been good, lots of sex, cuddling, tv and food she cooks, showers washing my back etc.. We haven’t done anything outside yet because she says she wants to take it slow and is not prepared. I did sleep over the first two times but now she says she can’t really sleep when I’m around that her sleep is important and it’s too serious too soon for sleep overs.

Every single time I text she replies in less than 3 minutes, never cancels dates and her msgs her warm, emojis, etc.
When I’m at her place, she comes close and cuddles for hours and hours with me.

Few things that started to bother me, no sleep overs yet, no hanging out outside yet and she rarely initiates texts. What should I do?
I’m also wondering if it’s because we already have this routine of meeting every Wednesday and also sometime during weekend that she already knows we are meeting anyways so she doesn’t have the need to small talk between knowing we are meeting every 3 to 4 days anyways?

Am I overthinking and creating problem where there’s none?

 

[Stanley]

You are overthinking brother, you have posted about this girl three times now and the story more or less remains the same.

Ground yourself and step back to clear your head. You ask if you are overthinking to reaffirm that you are indeed overthinking this and have been caught in a snare by this woman. You are hyper analyzing yourself and her actions as well.

Get out of your head...You should not be paying attention so closely that you recall every minor thing in detail, such as a 3 minute reply time. Regardless of the outcome you are indeed ruminating, slow things down upstairs for your own well being then come back to this situation with a level head.

I mean well.

 

[Gamisch]

Dejavu moment. The fact you posted the same thread 3 times shows me that you are at least 50 %of the problem here.

Yes, major redflags , especially your second sentence. 35 and never been in relationship?? A WOMAN? Bruh, she's lying. Every woman at some point wants a relationship, and for most this urge will start at age 14 with . Any 35 y.o woman must have at least 2/3 long term relationships under her belt.

Plain and simple ; she's NOT relationship material. So logically she'll try to avoid relationship stuff. Sleep overs, lovey dovey shyte aint her cup of tea. You should bang her and leave it at that.

This gentlemen, is how most issues start. A man refusing to see reality for what it is . Stay If you want,but dont complain when shyte hits the fan rather sooner than later..

 

[The Duke]

@RicBoy what if this poor little thing you are in love with has a bad case of the clap or herpes? She's probably just trying to protect you. Women always look out for your best interest. You should start showering her with nice gifts. I'd start shopping for a very expensive engagement ring, this girl is worth it.

 

[Dr.Suave]

What should I do?

Nothing. Keep smashing her. Enjoy. Find more plates.

 

[RazorRambo24]

I feel like you posted this before.. But, you're just another spoke in her wheel of dudes breh. She's got you twisted it's not hard to tell.

Women like that are single and can't lock down proper relationships for a reason.. They usually are insecure as sh,t , high sex drives / strong lust energy, and constantly need sex to validate them.. It's almost IMPOSSIBLE for these women to have just 1 sex partner.. They'd go mad.. They're used to being pump and dumped by so many dudes that they lose sense of reality and self esteem. Then they find guys like you to be their support animal adn give u sex, have u guys so twisted and in love.. while they continue to lust over the Chads and Tyrones.

Have some self respect bro.. These women lose respect for you the moment you give them ANYTHING more than just D.ick.. Worse is when you start spending time with them early on, they look at u like aww hes so cute.. but yea how do i get him out of here so I can give Chad the time of his life.. Don't you see the obvious signs shes not lettin u stay over too long cuz shes got someone else lined up for the good part of the night?

This 35 yr ol chick got u so bent that u made 3 posts about this sht already.. Its fascinatingly scary. This post is me being as nice as possible.. Usually i have no sympathy for dudes like you.

 

[MtmVaott]

Been seeing a girl for a month. She has never had a serious relationship since high school only **** buddies and she is now 35. We have met twice a week always since we met at her place and has been good, lots of sex, cuddling, tv and food she cooks, showers washing my back etc.. We haven’t done anything outside yet because she says she wants to take it slow and is not prepared. I did sleep over the first two times but now she says she can’t really sleep when I’m around that her sleep is important and it’s too serious too soon for sleep overs.

Every single time I text she replies in less than 3 minutes, never cancels dates and her msgs her warm, emojis, etc.
When I’m at her place, she comes close and cuddles for hours and hours with me.

Few things that started to bother me, no sleep overs yet, no hanging out outside yet and she rarely initiates texts. What should I do?
I’m also wondering if it’s because we already have this routine of meeting every Wednesday and also sometime during weekend that she already knows we are meeting anyways so she doesn’t have the need to small talk between knowing we are meeting every 3 to 4 days anyways?

Am I overthinking and creating problem where there’s none?

You should make her your boss.

But seriously it seems to be a problem for you. She has low interest in you, very simple. You are attractive enough to be her 'affair'.
I've already seen stuff like this here. It's not a special situation, she's not special. Maybe she's a mess, we don't know for sure.
I suggest you completely stop seeing women and address your underlying issues.

 

[Barrister]

Clearly, she enjoys sex with you but doesn't want anything more than that. Given your investment in her it seems that you want more than that from her, although given her track record I definitely would question why.

This woman is simply plate material and nothing more. To have had zero attachments throughout her adult life hints at some major cluster B tendencies. You shouldn't want to be any more involved with her than you are. My advice is to take a break from her and try to focus on some of your other plates for a reset. If you don't have other plates, get some.

 

[Murk]

If you keep pushing hard enough and waiting, maybe you'll get the LTR you clearly desire, which will wreck you and waste more years of your life. Why do you want something serious with this red flag?

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Been seeing a girl for a month. She has never had a serious relationship since high school only **** buddies and she is now 35. We have met twice a week always since we met at her place and has been good, lots of sex, cuddling, tv and food she cooks, showers washing my back etc.. We haven’t done anything outside yet because she says she wants to take it slow and is not prepared. I did sleep over the first two times but now she says she can’t really sleep when I’m around that her sleep is important and it’s too serious too soon for sleep overs.

Every single time I text she replies in less than 3 minutes, never cancels dates and her msgs her warm, emojis, etc.
When I’m at her place, she comes close and cuddles for hours and hours with me.

Few things that started to bother me, no sleep overs yet, no hanging out outside yet and she rarely initiates texts. What should I do?
I’m also wondering if it’s because we already have this routine of meeting every Wednesday and also sometime during weekend that she already knows we are meeting anyways so she doesn’t have the need to small talk between knowing we are meeting every 3 to 4 days anyways?

Am I overthinking and creating problem where there’s none?

She is not your girlfriend, why would you be sleeping over at her house to begin with?

 

[BillyPilgrim]

OP spring is here. Get outside and enjoy the weather, clear your head.

 

[Stuffnu]

says she wants to take it slow

There’s your answer. Sleeping, cuddling for hours, etc. is not taking it slow.
If you’re unsure of her intentions, enjoy the sex and plate her,,
But my guess, she already plated you…

 

[BackInTheGame78]

There’s your answer. Sleeping, cuddling for hours, etc. is not taking it slow.
If you’re unsure of her intentions, enjoy the sex and plate her,,
But my guess, she already plated you…

Let's be real, she doesn't want to take it slow. She simply wants to be FWB and OP wants to be all lovey dovey with her and turn it into something it will never be.

The roles in this should be reversed. She should be trying to lock OP down not the other way around.

OP is so thirsty for any type of affection that he seemingly wants to smother anyone that shows him any interest with love and immediately taking things to the next level. OP is killing himself in these situations. No woman wants to feel this level of neediness right off the bat.

OP...kill that desperation inside you.

 

[RicBoy]

So yesterday we met for the 7th time in 3,5 weeks. She said things like her name and my last name and that if she would be pregnant I would have to move in. Warning sign comes now. She said she likes me already but she don’t have any feelings a month in. Bad sign?
she cuddles a lot and very warm towards me. Her actions seem to me that she is very into me.
when I got home she texted me and stuff.
I think I’m dropping all the heavy topics and labels and just enjoy.
This Easter weekend she will be busy with family anyways so I’m giving her space and not meet and give her a full week before we meet again. I think a bit space can help

 

[Stanley]

So yesterday we met for the 7th time in 3,5 weeks. She said things like her name and my last name and that if she would be pregnant I would have to move in. Warning sign comes now. She said she likes me already but she don’t have any feelings a month in. Bad sign?
she cuddles a lot and very warm towards me. Her actions seem to me that she is very into me.
when I got home she texted me and stuff.
I think I’m dropping all the heavy topics and labels and just enjoy.
This Easter weekend she will be busy with family anyways so I’m giving her space and not meet and give her a full week before we meet again. I think a bit space can help

Move on

 

[RicBoy]

Move on

Why is that ?things seem to be great so far

 

[RicBoy]

Bro, didn't you say you were a bad boy and that she loved it? Also didn't you say that you were gonna skip a week of seeing her to see if she chased you?

What did you end up doing? Did you see her last Wednesday? Did you follow through? You have to be congruent with your words.

I saw her last Wednesday meaning yesterday. I’m not gonna see her for a week now. She is gonna be busy this weekend because it’s Easter and family etc. I think I’m overthinking things which has been always a problem for me

 

[MtmVaott]

You are an excellent comedian.

 

[RicBoy]

You are an excellent comedian.

We met 7 times in 3,5 weeks and she always cooks me dinner. She washes my back in shower, replies msgs quick, never cancels a single date. At her house, she spends literally hours sitting on my lap kissing cuddling and staring at me smiling. I don’t know what it is but you said low interest? That’s not what low interest looks like man

 

[Dr.Suave]

The roles in this should be reversed. She should be trying to lock OP down not the other way around.

Agree 100%