24-25 is actually often when they start considering betas and start categorising alphas as ‘bad boyfriends’. Their strategy changes, the test for more commitment signs and reject more alpha approaches. An 18-22 year old will chase her chad and see him as a potential future husband, but by 24 has learnt that chad will never commit and she starts to compartmentalise men. An 18-22 also goes for complete alphas (eg athetes, musicians, influencers etc) but 24 and above go for a mix of alpha and beta and more professional career types
A woman is still in her sexual prime at 24-25, her appeal is incredibly wide.
If she is smart and wants to have children at a healthy period in her life than she should be more concerned with finding a suitable partner in the long term. That said women that are above average will continue to rely on their looks for much longer
because they simply can. They can and should be more choosy.
I know very very few women in that age demo (my demo) who are even in committed relationships or taking things very seriously. They want to have 'fun' for the most part. Mid 20s is young and most narratives pushed through the mainstream advocate for women to NOT settle down and reinforce the idea that they have 'unlimited time'.
Of course biology shuts down this cognitive dissonance, but the point still stands.
In a more rural area or less 'westernized' country you do so see younger ages when looking at relationships and marriage, but in a country like the United States (
and especially if you are in a city/blue state) you see women holding off on 'serious' relationships/marriage much longer. Most people are apart of the herd and do not think for themselves. American women have been told to "never settle" and many take it to heart.
I do not blame women for wanting to capitalize on the hand they've been dealt, I just hope they understand the consequences that may arise down the line if they do not use their time wisely. Oftentimes they realize it too late and seeing a woman just on the verge of losing her ability to have kids in a frenzied state to have said kids is sad. You reap what you sow. I am glad I am a man and I have more dominion over my future and am not limited by biological factors in the same way women are. Men have the burden of performance and women the burden of choice.
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Your point on 'bad boys' does tend to ring true,
Young women will experience some bad relationships and will learn to avoid guys that give off those vibes since most woman genuinely want healthy relationships and not to be played.
You can 100% be an 'alpha' and not be a womanizing player who pulled those shenanigans though. That and
how many players do you know in real life that end up in ltr's or marriage? Most of them. People change and have different life goals and directions to follow, we are not static. Oh!
and most girls want a genuine 'bad boy' that is only sweet to them.
Guys here forget that women actually want to like the man they get in a relationship with and not just some total hot asshat.
The bad boy exudes confidence and masculine energy, but if he isn't a likeable person who knows how to treat a woman you can guarantee he will lose that girl (
if she has any semblance of self worth). Most 'alpha players' couldn't keep a girl long term if they tried with their current mental framework and cognitive biases. You can 100% be a confident, strong willed, dominant and sexual man ('Alpha') while pursuing long term relationships. You can also be those things and be a player spinning to win, they are not mutually exclusive in regards to what constitutes an 'alpha' as other have mentioned.
Will women with time reassess who it is they want a committed relationship with? Certainly,
does that mean intrinsically that the guy they get hitched with is beta? No.
Is it more likely that the man she ends up with is less of an a**h***? Well one would hope if that girl actually learned from her past then yes.
Could that mean she is more likely to settle? Yes........Men do the same ****.
When we are in our primes and sowing our wild oats we go for young attractive women and don't care about anything else aside from the physicality aspect. Then with age and a change of direction men tend to prioritize finding a suitable wife/ltr once they've 'sowed their wild oats' and want stability and comfort. The discord arises when we have two opposite sexes who have been acting in stark contrast to one another now at a point of wanting commitment.
Men want young and pious traditional women for marriage, but they cannot find those girls today, they are unicorns in a herd of sheep. That is why you see most men 'settling' for women and inversely many women settling for 'lesser' men. The few higher value guys or 'Alpha' men will look to younger girls if they are within their reach and the higher value more attractive women will do what best suits them and their imperative.
Both sexes will pursue their sexual strategy which
assumedly works best for them.
Or so they think...
