Only girls that are openly enthusiastic about your messages and company should be taken on dates.
This statement is fallacious because it assumes that women who have high interest in you will openly show it.
Some will. Most won't (I said the same shyt in another thread).
A woman can think you are the most handsome guy in the neighborhood but you will never know it, and she will never say anything or show it.
High interest levels can be difficult to determine.
It's difficult to read into anything without a face-to-face experience, so a lot of sign reading in tech-based date arranging methods is flawed. It is considered a good sign when a woman rapidly replies to messages sent on the swipe app platform and text messages and is conversant in those messages prior to the first date. This does not happen too often.
With in-person stranger approaches, strong indicators of interest can be quite rare. Some men will receive them more than others. There are men who won't get more than 1-2 strong choosing signals in a extended period (6 months - 12 months). Is a man only supposed to do 1-2 in-person approaches in a 6-12 month period?
It is true that the women who openly show indicators of interest are the best possible prospects. Few men can rely on those types of prospects.
That is why you can't rely solely on choosing signals. Sure, if the signals are there, then take it.
But even if they are not there, you still take it (cold approach).
Threads like this one is usually from guys who are anti cold approach because they are too chicken-shyt to approach women, so they try their best to come up with the most "hands off" strategies as possible because they are simply afraid to get out there and make shyt happen.
I established above that a lot of men don't get a great quantity of choosing signals and that the best prospects are the ones who openly show signals.
When men approach women who haven't shown signals, the chances of that approach leading to a first date or a same day/same night lay are much lower. Some men will need to do some large number of approaches to get something.
If a man gets way too many 'no's' before he encounters a 'yes', he will be psychologically traumatized and might even give up on approaching. There is a lot of power in 20-30+ consecutive approaches not resulting in a date.
Very few men can spam approach, meaning that they are immune to a lot of rejection and will keep going until they get their yes.
I'm not making excuses as I have been a person who has approached without indicators of interest.
A woman may find you attractive just based on the fact that you approached her and spit game to her.
In 2018, Roosh wrote that the occurrence you describe was less common in the mid to late 2010s as compared to the early to mid 2000s.
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Approaching a girl you didn’t know was so novel back then that if you did it, the girl would become extremely curious, even if you had a horrible opening line. Many would say how “confident” you were, a compliment that you rarely hear today. The boldness alone created such a huge spike of attraction that it was enough to propel you to at least a number or kiss as long you didn’t approach huge groups of girls in the Mystery style.
Nowadays, a girl is approached so often in different types of venues and on the internet that the most direct of openers may give you a minute of her attention (if that). What was bold 15 years ago is now the new standard today, suggesting that there is an arms race of game and status within any society that foolishly allows women to choose their sexual partners."
In my own life, it has been rare that a woman found me attractive solely because I approached her. I have gotten compliments from a couple of women who were impressed I approached them randomly in a daygame effort. Unknown to them, I was doing an approach session. This only represents a small fraction of the overall approaches that I have done in my lifetime.
